All girls want to be liked and impress. They spend a lot of time in front of the mirror because they know that men perceive them through their eyes. But where do they look first, how can they be defeated immediately and for sure?
To get answers to these vital questions, scientists have conducted a number of studies. They interviewed hundreds of men and analyzed the information collected. As a result, eight traits were identified in the appearance of women that could light a fire in men’s hearts.
Any scientific discovery is not worth a damn if it cannot be applied in practice. So that the efforts of smart people do not go to waste, we take their conclusions and put them into practice.
So, here are 8 things that men can't resist:
Visual man: characteristics
The visual is usually very fluid. He is constantly busy with some activity. Many people of this type literally burst with energy. They are sometimes called workaholics. He processes information with his eyes and strives to see as much as possible. A man of this type is happy if he sees something interesting in front of him. He likes to describe how things look, he thinks carefully about his costume - what matters to him is how it looks. His things must be kept in perfect order and always in sight. A visual person is highly organized. Disorder and chaos irritate him. Sometimes such a person is considered stubborn, inflexible, because he strives for perfection. In fact, he can be compliant, you just need to find the right approach to him.
How to find out how a man feels about you? Read your eyes
Can't figure out if a man is in love with you? Look into a man's eyes to find out how he feels! Unlike words, a look never lies.
The eyes are the mirror of the soul, and the soul, as you know, never lies. Words can hide our true feelings, but our eyes never can. Especially when it comes to the look of a man in love. The ability to read eyes is a very useful activity that every girl should master, because this is the only way you can understand what your partner is really experiencing.
Beware of emotions and sounds!
- Excessive auditory stimulation, such as loud music or incessant chatter, can make that person depressed and irritable. He prefers action-packed films. Long conversations make him nervous.
- He finds it difficult to share his experiences with others. He is not cold or insensitive, but when angry, he will withdraw and experience the situation in silence.
- Can't stand it when his feelings become known to many people. Don't let him think that you are discussing him with someone. He may be indignant, but will not tell you about his offense, but will show his dissatisfaction in some other way.
If you want your visual chosen one to share his feelings, start the conversation by describing the external manifestations of situations - “I see that. "
How to communicate with him
- He prefers to talk to a person, seeing him in front of him, rather than on the phone.
- He perceives written messages better than oral ones. If you want your loved one to remember something, write a note for him.
- Send him a letter, leave a heart-shaped card, give him something that will always be in front of his eyes - for example, a calendar.
- Always mark birthdays on his calendar so that he remembers them.
- Leave him photos of you looking at each other with love.
If your partner uses a lot of "visual" words, you should do the same. This way you will provide him with psychological comfort.
How to influence a visual man
Once you understand what his motivation is, you will begin to understand how you can influence this person.
- Let's say you want new carpet. You can tell how cozy it will be in the living room, what joy you will experience. In this case, you will speak a language different from the language of your interlocutor. He will remain indifferent. Therefore, it is better to describe how beautiful the room will be. A man will listen to you, and the likelihood that he will agree will increase.
- Or you want to spend your holiday at sea. Your partner may show interest in your words about the pleasant freshness of the sea air, the rustling of the waves caressing his ears, but these phrases will not touch his soul. But if you really want to convince him to go, talk about the pleasure he will get from admiring the coastline, the waves constantly crashing onto the beach, the blue skies and gorgeous orange sunsets.
- When you hear him say “I love you,” compliment him on his striking appearance.
- Don't demand that he demonstrate his love for you by giving flowers. Better tell him that when you see flowers, you always mentally picture his image.
In any case, in order to push a visual man to take some action, it is necessary to mention a result that he can see.
If a man looks intently into his eyes, then he is not necessarily in love
If a man makes deep eye contact, do you think he is interested in you? Perhaps, but interest varies. Don't immediately hope for a romantic relationship. It is better to take into account the situation in which the game of glances occurs. So why does a man make eye contact?
At work
We spend most of our time at work. All employees, men and women, sometimes flirt with each other. And sometimes they use the game of views for other purposes. What does it mean if a man looks intently into your eyes, but this man is your boss? It is possible, of course, that he is interested in you not only in terms of work. Office romances, especially with higher-ups, are pleasant, but too often end in dismissal. Most likely, your boss is either preparing a new, very difficult task for you, or is going to scold you for your mistakes.
Perhaps the manager is trying to turn the conversation around so that you realize your importance and ask yourself... There are different options here:
- New task. Then your boss will have the opportunity to blame your failures on you and take credit for your success.
- Promotions in position or salary. In this case, he will be able to emphasize his own importance by refusing. His consent is an excellent reason to consider himself almost a philanthropist.
- Desire to know your opinion. Many representatives of the stronger sex do not always feel confident. In search of support, in attempts to receive confirmation of their own rightness, they can look searchingly and carefully into a woman’s eyes. Believe me, this does not mean at all that he likes you as a woman. More like an interlocutor. However, men who persistently ask for something behave the same way.
- Trying to give you your own opinion or make you feel uncomfortable. If a man looks intently into your eyes, it is likely that he is thus pushing you to fulfill his own (not at all sexual) desires. And perhaps even orders. This is a way of self-affirmation.
- If a man looks intently into your eyes, completely oblivious to your embarrassment or the attention of strangers, then such a look can mean sexual desire. If he slowly moves his gaze from your eyes to your chest and appraisingly slides it over your body, then his desire is very great. At these moments, even the man’s voice changes: it becomes low and velvety.
- Looking closely into another man's eyes can be a challenge. It’s not for nothing that you can’t look predatory animals in the eye.
In company or alone
If a man looks intently into his eyes, this may mean:
A man truly in love, ready for a long relationship, will look openly and kindly. He will catch your eye and react to every change in your intonation. Just know: not every man in love is ready to openly look into a woman’s eyes. Normal embarrassment prevents this. Only experienced womanizers or gigolos are able to gaze into a woman’s eyes for a long time, directly and excitingly. Their specialization obliges them to do this. Why does a man look into a woman's eyes? Because playing with your eyes is the most ancient way of conveying your feelings, thoughts, and aspirations. This game is understandable to representatives of any nationality; it does not require a translator, but is understandable to everyone.
Why do men love with their eyes?
If a question arises, including why men love with their eyes, a modern person looks for an answer on the Internet. And here, what the Internet says will be true.
I remember an episode from the Soviet film “Groom from Miami,” when one of the contenders claimed that the way to a man’s heart was through his stomach. And it doesn’t matter that the man doesn’t think so or doesn’t want to eat. It is said - through the stomach, so so be it! Isn’t that what happens with the popular belief that men love with their eyes? And what is the general meaning of this phrase?
The first king of Saudi Arabia had sexual contact with 44,530 women in his lifetime.
Color matters: choosing a partner by the eyes
Some scientists have gone even further and established a connection between eye color and a person’s character. Research data showed a pattern. Here are the results of observations that will be especially interesting to those who are “actively searching”:
- blue-eyed - romantic and dreamy personalities, sentimental and vindictive;
- blue-eyed - emotional and sensual, eccentric and unpredictable, often arrogant, arrogant;
- owners of light gray eyes are determined, independent, persistent;
- black-eyed - strong and persistent natures, stubborn and capricious, sometimes even hot-tempered;
- green-eyed - strict, fair, born leaders;
- people with gray-green eyes are strong, strong-willed, purposeful, cruel and at the same time caring;
- owners of light brown eyes are secretive individuals with developed intuition, shy and dreamy, responsible and independent;
- brown-eyed people are witty, sensual and charismatic, temperamental, quick-tempered, but easy-going;
- The dark blue color of the iris speaks of arrogance, conflict and intolerance.
The ability to read people's thoughts in their eyes, as well as knowledge of body language and gestures, gives us unlimited possibilities.
Nowhere without science
Scientists from developed countries often take various aspects of the life of human society as the basis for their research. The issue of relationships between a woman and a man, including love through the eyes, was no exception.
A study was conducted at the University of California that found out why men love with their eyes. It turned out that chemical reactions occur inside that affect behavior. When his gaze is fixed on female beauty, the body produces two hormones, without which a man’s life is not a joy - testosterone and cortisol.
The first one pleases the owner with high spirits, men's health and vitality. The second, on the contrary, tames raging emotions and brings a feeling of blissful peace. Both hormones, when produced, make a man happier. So, looking at a beautiful woman is not only pleasant for men, but also useful. That’s why they look, or, in other words, love with their eyes.
Psychology will explain everything 3
Psychology is also a science. But sometimes psychologists reinterpret scientific and social views. This is understandable, because the subject of study here is man, a very, very unpredictable creature.
At the end of the 20th century, a new branch of psychology appeared - NLP psychology (NLP - neurolinguistic programming). So NLP psychologists don’t understand why everyone says that men love with their eyes. They argue that men, like all normal people, are divided into visual, auditory and kinesthetic learners.
They differ from each other in only one way – the most significant channel of perception of the surrounding world. Visual learners have the eyes, auditory learners have the ears, and kinesthetic learners have the sense of smell and touch. So, only visual men love their eyes, and they make up about 45% of the total number. For others, it is not so much the beauty of a woman that is important, but her smell, the cleanliness of her skin, and the timbre of her voice.
So, the statement that men love with their eyes is already divided in half.
Psychology of relationships between men and women
About what men love with their eyes ; about what boys want to see under girls' skirts; about sexual observers and exhibitionists. In attraction, the very first link in the chain leading to sexual arousal, vision is very important. It is one of the most important sense organs of a man, who always looks with pleasure at pleasant feminine curves. Thanks to this male gaze, a woman realizes her femininity. Looking at each other, a man and a woman experience a pleasant feeling of attraction or at least understand whether they like each other or not. Through vision, desire increases, excitement increases, and gradually attachment is born. Therefore, vision plays the most important role in sexuality, especially for men, because they look back at beautiful women more often than women look at handsome men. If a woman looks for charisma and certain values in a man, often without even paying attention to his appearance, then the man can be called an esthete in this case, because beauty and attractiveness are very important to him. A woman is sexy to a man when she looks beautiful. It is through a man's eyes that a woman becomes attractive to him. As children, boys are forbidden by their parents to look at their mother, sister or other women naked when they take a shower or undress. Through our upbringing, we also instill in a little girl the need to hide her feminine virtues from immodest glances. Later, in adolescence, when a person goes through a rapid period of development, there is a desire to break all taboos. Boys, while still small, are already trying to see what the girls have under their skirts and what is puffing up under their blouse. And girls who have not yet become women begin to like to display all their virtues for everyone to see. This is the age of makeup, miniskirts, tight jeans and other sexy clothes. As an adult, a man continues to cultivate his desire to look, and a woman continues to cultivate her desire to show. For animals, vision is also a significant sexual stimulant. Only in some species of animals does the male more often try to demonstrate his advantages. The birds are characterized by so-called parades, where they show off their beautiful plumage, puff up their colorful breasts and dance to attract a mate. Females look more modest. A special species of bird called the “gardener,” whose plumage is not very attractive and bright, has found an inimitable way to lure his female: he places bright objects in front of his nest. Human behavior has not evolved much and is not very different from animal behavior. According to statistics, 56% of men are attracted to a woman not by what is on display for everyone to see, but by what is inaccessible, what is hidden in the folds of clothing; Such men like women in business suits and formal blouses. Others are attracted to everything open and sexy - a short skirt, a deep neckline, red lingerie. Of course, as many men as there are in the world, there are so many different tastes. The phenomenon that is considered a perversion in our country is the love of observing the intimate lives of others, which is very common. This kind of sexual peeping through the “keyhole” is most often typical for men. The sexual observer identifies with one of the partners. According to sexologists, this phenomenon corresponds to the genetic fear of castration: a person isolates himself to observe others in order to protect himself from his fear - the female genital organ. Maybe spy enthusiasts want to know the secret of a woman’s orgasm. A phenomenon similar in mechanism, but with the opposite sign - exhibitionism, the desire to demonstrate oneself - seems even more perverted due to its provocative nature. Those who like to secretly watch erotic scenes (voyeurs) and exhibitionists are considered harmless perverts. We are all observers by nature - we are attracted to everything hidden, secret, and we all like to show ourselves. Such desires are considered pathological when they turn into a real obsession.
And some statistics: 40% of women and only 20% of men consider them the most attractive in another eye. 41% of men prefer to make love in the light, and 45% of women prefer to make love in the dark. 60% of men are sensitive to striptease, and 40% of women have ever shown striptease.
Genetic memory is serious 4
Some researchers talk about the importance of genetic memory. Since ancient times, women have been required to conceive and bear offspring. Which, of course, requires health. If she was ugly, crooked or had bad skin, she would not smell healthy. Men avoided this.
And now appearance speaks volumes. For example, a girl is overweight. It can be assumed that she lacks the willpower and consistency to lead a healthy lifestyle. Consequently, such a girl has neither physical nor moral health. She cannot give birth to a healthy child, and she will not make a man happy.
If she takes care of her appearance, then you can expect a lot of good things from her. In theory. Surely, these thoughts do not flash in the head of a man who glances at a woman. But subconsciously he makes a choice between attractive and unattractive in favor of the first for these reasons. In this case, choosing your beloved with your eyes is a logical explanation.
Male logic 5
Eyes are more truthful and logical than ears. As they say, once is better... Words can skillfully lie. What the eyes see is more often called reality.
And here I remember another psychological moment of “love through the eyes.” Men are more logical and rational creatures than women. Therefore, just words are not enough for them; they need visual evidence.
Let's say a girl and a guy met on the Internet. We called each other. She told him that she had a good appearance. The guy will believe it only when he sees it for himself. His male nature teaches him this logic. In this sense, yes, he loves with his eyes.
In ancient times, a man had one task - to impregnate as many women as possible, to own them. But those days are gone. Nothing, there is always a way out - to own one, but see many others in it.
Therefore, it must be the best. But don’t invite everyone to have a heart-to-heart talk with their woman! It is much easier to convince everyone that his is the best when she is beautiful. Therefore, the first rule of how to attract a man’s love is to take care of your appearance! It immediately becomes clear that the man is cool and wealthy. And now let everyone around him love his woman. But only with your eyes!
And it has always been like this, at all times. Men want to look at the beautiful, get carried away by it, idolize it, write poetry and paintings. And in this sense, female beauty is the most refined and attractive pleasure. This is why all men look at beautiful women. They have watched and will continue to watch. But love has nothing to do with it.
How to find out how a man feels about you?
Direction of his gaze
To instill trust in a person, psychologists advise looking directly into his eyes during a conversation. However, if the interlocutor does not arouse our sympathy, it is incredibly difficult to do this, and our gaze constantly glides to the sides. And on the contrary, if a person is pleasant and interesting to us, we literally cannot take our eyes off his eyes, trying to capture not only the words, but also the emotions of our counterpart.
When communicating with a girl who evokes the most tender feelings in a man, he unconsciously establishes direct eye contact with her. This is a common psychological reaction that cannot be controlled. When an object of interest to us comes into our field of vision, we direct all our attention to it, trying not to miss a single detail.
Duration of eye contact
According to psychological studies, when talking with friends, colleagues, relatives or acquaintances, people look into each other's eyes for approximately 50% of the total conversation time. If the dialogue is between two lovers, the duration of eye contact increases to 80%. At the same time, the look acquires intimacy and softness, as if people want to become even closer to each other.
To understand whether a man is in love with you or whether there is only flirting on his part, pay attention to where his gaze is directed during the intervals of the conversation. When a man is really interested in a girl, most of the time he looks at her face. If his gaze drops lower, wandering over your figure, his thoughts are occupied with fantasies of intimacy with you.
This is why men often do not remember the details of our image or features of appearance. For example, if you ask a man who recently talked with a girl he liked what she was wearing, he most likely will not remember, because during the conversation his attention was focused on her eyes and face.
Dilated pupils
Love affects our body like a drug. At least these two phenomena have one thing in common - dilated pupils. When a man looks at the girl he loves, his pupils involuntarily dilate. This happens because of the strong emotions that are now raging in his heart.
If we assume that falling in love is just a chemical reaction, then the effect of dilated pupils is explained by the influence of endorphin, a hormone responsible for joy and happiness.
Concentration of attention
During a normal conversation, the duration of continuous eye contact is on average 5-6 seconds, after which the gaze involuntarily “runs away” to the side. But the gaze of a man in love acquires special concentration and attentiveness.
During a conversation, the main object of male attention is the girl, so now he is not interested in what is going on around him. If at this moment something happens that forces you to switch your attention, the process of looking away occurs with a slight slowdown.
As a rule, during normal flirting, a man is not so focused. With superficial interest, a man looks into the eyes of his interlocutor only when he speaks himself, as if reading in his gaze the reaction to his monologue. When a girl joins the conversation, his gaze involuntarily drops down or to the side.
Raised eyebrows
The gesture of slightly raised eyebrows is a sign of sympathy and trust. Raising his eyebrows, a man subconsciously says that he believes every word you say and wants you to believe him too.
Together with raised eyebrows, the man’s lips involuntarily stretch into a smile, and his body leans slightly forward. Being part of nonverbal communication, all these gestures occur unconsciously and cannot be controlled.
Related Gestures
In addition to the “bottomless” look, several accompanying gestures will give away a man in love. For example, when a guy is overwhelmed with feelings, he unobtrusively touches the object of his passion, narrows the distance, and also uses “preening” gestures - straightening his hair or shirt collar. Translated from non-verbal language, all this means only one thing - the man is in love and he wants you to have exactly the same feelings for him.
The look of a man in love is like a bottomless ocean. Even if he has not yet uttered the cherished words, you will definitely feel his love, because he will reward you with the most special look.
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People want to know! 6
Answers to the question: “Why do men love with their eyes?” were obtained as a result of a survey on the streets of Kyiv and numerous online surveys. What did it turn out to be? But it turned out that almost everyone agrees that a man is attracted to a woman’s beautiful appearance, but he loves a woman for other qualities. And beauty is just a pleasant addition.
Why do men like to pass gas? Maybe because the Internet said so? Or maybe someone else. In fact, a man looks at a woman with his eyes, but loves her with his heart and soul. And a man can be attracted to his appearance for the first two or three days, and then he will need something else, much more.
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