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- The guy started ignoring: reasons
- He has another girlfriend
- He's a confirmed bachelor
- Coward
- He doesn't like you
- Strategist
- Upbringing
You communicate with a person for some time, realizing that this is the one you have been looking for for so long, about whom you have been dreaming. Finally, the “prince on a white horse” has come into your life, and you paint the future only in pink. But in this world everything is not as simple as it seems. It happens too rarely that events develop according to the planned pattern that you drew in your head. Something terrible happens - the young man whose image you live every second begins to ignore not only you, but also your presence. Women, endowed with intuition by nature, immediately understand a change in attitude towards themselves. One thought begins to pound furiously in my head - what to do?
You're too intrusive
The reason may be your excessive obsession. Not every young man will be happy if his girlfriend calls ten times a day or constantly bombards him with messages.
People's needs for communication vary, and perhaps the partner is simply tired of communication and wants to relax, spend time alone pursuing his hobbies. Especially if he is an introvert, or believes that you often call and write to him over trifles.
If so, most likely, you have already noticed that a man wants to end the conversation, wants to be alone, or shows signs of fatigue. It is worth discussing this unobtrusively - in a relationship it is important to take a break from each other sometimes, but if you want to communicate with your partner constantly, and once a week is enough for him, perhaps you are simply not suitable for each other, and it makes sense to put an end to it now so that the breakup does not was so painful.
The guy is busy and can't answer
All people sometimes have urgent, unforeseen matters. If you are used to communicating with your loved one every day, and he suddenly does not respond, this is unusual and may become a cause for concern, but you should not immediately get upset, think that his feelings have cooled down, or something has happened to him.
Probably, everything is not what you think, and there is no point in beating yourself up - the guy just needs to do something urgently. Solve a problem at work, help your parents, or finish your coursework. He could simply put his phone on silent mode and log out of VKontakte so as not to be distracted and maintain concentration. However, you are his girlfriend, and you have the right to know what the young man is doing, so just try calling him.
Even if he doesn’t answer, don’t panic. Sometimes people get so caught up in what they're doing that they don't check their phone notifications, so call back later or the next day. If there is still no answer, then you can start to worry.
Relationships are moving too fast
Men are not always ready for the rapid development of relationships. If you've been dating for a couple of weeks, it may be difficult for him to adapt to the new format of communication and constantly be in touch, especially if he is not used to this.
Try to give him more time and involve him in online communication on VK gradually, without pushing him too hard and without bombarding him with dozens of messages a day.
Another option is to try not writing or calling for a while. If there is no response and he doesn't try to contact you for 2 days or more, it's worth discussing what he expects from the relationship. After all, if expectations and temperaments do not match, it may be difficult for you to find a common language, not to mention build a serious relationship.
You are in a quarrel
If you have a serious quarrel, then ignoring messages on a social network is an expected reaction caused by emotions. The character of the guy plays a significant role here, and who was to blame for the quarrel.
If you know that you are to blame, you should call and apologize - excessive pride will not make the relationship more harmonious and happier, and will not bring the conflict closer to resolution. Explain the reason for your actions and ask for forgiveness; if your partner really has feelings for you, he will forgive.
If the young man is to blame, then give him time to think it over and realize the mistake. If you write and call, there is a chance that the man will never understand that he was wrong, and the unpleasant situation will repeat itself in the future.
I recommend you watch: How to distinguish true love from infatuation?
It’s important to make it clear that you won’t allow yourself to be offended and disrespected, so the answer to the question “what to do if a guy doesn’t respond to messages” in such a situation is nothing, let him write first.
He's trying to sell himself
It happens that a man deliberately does not respond to messages, although he reads them. In this case, there is a high probability that he is trying to inflate his worth and make you worry and “run” after him.
If you are sure that a guy is engaged in such manipulations, the best way out is to run away from such a relationship; they are unlikely to be happy. A caring man will not devalue a woman by ignoring messages.
Few girls want to be used as a toy, and her feelings are not taken into account. If you fall for such a tactical move on the part of a guy, then next time it will be even easier for him to manipulate you. So you will have to decide whether you are ready to put up with this and show attention without expecting respect and reciprocity.
Were you a backup option or does he want to break up?
If the relationship started recently, it may turn out that you are not his only girlfriend, and he kept you as an “alternate airfield”. And when he was lucky with another option, he decided not to explain anything, but simply not to answer messages and calls. This style of ending communication is called ghosting, and after several days of trying to contact a guy, you should just forget about him.
In cases where the relationship has been long-term, it is possible that the partner wants to end it or take a break, but does not know how to say so.
But this cannot be judged only by ignoring messages for a short period of time; this must happen systematically. In addition, there will be other signs, such as manifestations of coldness or awkwardness.
Cause unknown
How to behave correctly with a guy if everything was fine and you don’t know the reason for his ignorance? It’s better not to delay, not to complicate the situation, and call or meet.
Some problems are much easier to solve in a personal conversation - for example, if one of your mutual friends slandered you in front of him, or if your partner was offended due to an annoying misunderstanding.
In close relationships, it is unreasonable to respond with a reciprocal offense and turn away; try in any way to get the guy to talk and get rid of omissions, because the truth is better than a lie. You should not make hasty decisions; it is advisable to first discuss everything, find out and try to understand your partner’s position.
Why does a man ignore the woman he likes if she is married?
The reason for this is the moral attitudes of the stronger sex. Yes, he may pay attention to you at first; It will even seem that he feels something for you, but at the right moment this person can simply stop communicating so that things don’t go too far. In the end, he understands that there are certain limits beyond which he cannot go, even if he really wants to. In addition, the presence of an opponent also plays a role.
In such cases, it is important to understand what the man will do next. As an example:
- will switch to another girl to try to forget you;
- will begin to work with renewed vigor, devoting all his free time to his occupation;
- will retreat into the shadows for a while, waiting and trying to decide what to do next.
The most important thing here depends on the woman herself - if she decides to give the “green light” to the gentleman, then he most likely will not mind, but this already depends on her character traits. Well, first of all, a girl should think about whether she is ready to leave her permanent partner for someone with whom everything is still very uncertain.
Ignoring and stages of communication
When you think about what to do if a man ignores messages, consider the stage of the relationship. They are like this:
- You like the guy, but you are just acquaintances.
- Are you friends or not very close friends?
- You are close friends, there is a desire to become even closer.
- You are flirting or at the beginning of a relationship.
- You've been dating for a while.
- You've been together for a long time.
- You broke up but decided to remain friends
At the first and second stages, such a reaction is quite normal - ignoring messages, of course, is impolite, but a person may have more important things to do, because of which he cannot or does not want to communicate now.
Or he may simply not be in the mood. It's unpleasant if this happens in later stages, although you still shouldn't immediately assume the worst.
Reason #5: another woman
Have you ever found out if your potential partner has a girlfriend? It is quite possible that he is already busy, which is why he hastened to step aside as soon as you hinted at something more. Not everyone will decide to cheat, but it’s for the best - do you need scandals and showdowns with someone else’s lady later?
Forget about such a man, even if he soon appears on the horizon again. The desire to find a new partner when you already have one, and then quickly disappearing from your life is a sign of a man who is not confident in himself, is afraid of the consequences and at the same time is afraid of being left alone, so he is looking for backup options.
Despite the common belief that all men are polygamous, many still remain faithful to the one they love. Therefore, you could easily confuse the person who liked you as a friend, because he already has a girl with whom he is in love. Your persistence may have turned him off so much that he decided to leave for good. This way he avoided possible consequences.
For the future: before planning a life together with someone, find out if this person is single - through friends or directly. This way you will protect both yourself and him.
When you're in love
Imagine a diabetic who loves cakes. He has been eating them every week for 12 years now, then he ends up in the hospital and is treated there. A bit stupid, isn't it? Too much suffering for one person. Knowing how it will end, he continues to perform the same actions. Isn't it better to try to find sweet cakes specifically for patients who suffer from this disease?
A girl who wants to win the attention of a guy who ignores her is very similar to such a diabetic. I understand that many of us believe that love must be earned, that true feelings are gained through difficulties, and men rarely fall in love at first sight.
Well, I can recommend to such girls the book by Satya Das “#A Faithful and Caring Husband. Appearances, passwords, secrets. Successful acquaintance, quick marriage, long happy relationship.” There are a lot of tips and methods in it, but, to tell you honestly, 100% of men who were initially interested in a partner fall for them. Only a small percentage of young people are ready to take a closer look and change their attitude towards a girl who did not attract them at first sight.
You might get lucky. And if not, pay attention to others. This book will help you find a worthy partner for family, everyday life and a happy long life. That's all for me. See you again and good luck.
The man ignores pointedly. What to do?
It happens like this: a man and a woman are already in a relationship, but suddenly his behavior changes dramatically, he begins to ignore the girl openly, in public. Most likely, the guy was very offended by something and in this way is trying to show that she behaved unacceptable.
To find out what is the reason for such changes, you need to analyze in detail events from the recent past. Perhaps the woman herself, by her behavior, provoked the demonstrative indifference of her chosen one. But if the reason for the show is unclear, all that remains is to ask about it directly. There is no need to be afraid of a frank conversation. Retaliatory ignoring will not solve the problem. The man himself wants to quickly relieve the burden of resentment and pain, so he will definitely talk about it.
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In any case, being ignored by a guy should not lower a girl’s self-esteem and sow doubts in her soul about her appearance or dignity. You shouldn’t worry and despair, you need to enjoy life and communication with other men.
If a guy really cares, sooner or later he will be forced to give in and reveal his feelings. If he is just playing and manipulating, then you shouldn’t waste time on him.
When a Woman Ignores Her Man, He Starts Doing These 8 Things
As soon as you turn on the cold and ignore mode, your man immediately feels it and begins to become more active. We've compiled a list of the 8 most common things men do as soon as we pull away.
They cut off the phone
Until recently, your man did not have time at all to even respond to a banal SMS during working hours. And now he is already using any virtual communication channel just to attract your attention. He even liked all the photos on Instagram, although he had to register there to do so.
Interested in your work
Somehow, unexpectedly, your man remembered your position, responsibilities, and even the latest project that you talked so much about while he was sitting on the phone. And all because I felt that I was losing control over you. And he immediately tried to seem interesting again and, most importantly, to show respect for your career in order to somehow build a conversation.
Help financially
Suddenly, money began to appear on your phone balance. And someone transferred a couple of extra thousand to the card. It's all him. In an attempt to attract attention and finally show concern. Money for men is an understandable resource and even a language of communication. So they use it when they urgently need to talk to you.
They give compliments
Yes, as if they were born for eulogies! They immediately notice the styling, the makeup, and the slenderness of the legs. Those who are completely savvy even use a forbidden technique: saying that we have lost weight. But we should have said it earlier - now it’s the Snow Queen’s regime.
They start to get jealous
“Who is Maxim?”, “Why are you dressed up like that?”, “Who else will be at this holiday?” — if hundreds of clarifying questions start pouring in on you, you should know that the frost and cold mode is activated. And it doesn’t even matter that Maxim is a friend’s child, by “dressed up” the husband means light blush, and the holiday takes place in a children’s cafe. There will only be male clowns.
Invited on a date
You went to your favorite restaurant where you went on a date. And then, unexpectedly, he offered to send her to the cinema. And afterwards, why not stop by some trendy bar for a couple of cocktails? Seriously? On Tuesday? Here is a clear example of how men begin to show excessive attention and turn into schoolchildren in love. And all the power of ignoring!
Help around the house
The dishes are washed, the potatoes are fried, even the washing machine is started (even though you can say goodbye to your things). Where did your man get the strength and desire to help you around the house? You already know the answers.
Start taking care of themselves
Yes, yes, men also know about beauty therapy. It's not just women who run to get a manicure or change their hair color in tears. Men also sin by going to a barbershop or even a clothing store to buy themselves a pair of fresh shirts. And what? What if you are the first to give up and run back so that no one else gets such a handsome man?
