Trainings: good, bad and different
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We are starting the training - “How to quickly earn 500 thousand rubles”! To get started, answer two questions. First: how much does a ticket to our training cost? - A thousand rubles! - Great. How many seats are there in the hall? - Five hundred! — Thank you everyone, the training is over. There are plenty of fake trainings like this, throw them out the window. In modern language this is called “selling an information product.” They are conducted by people who are not really knowledgeable about anything except the ability to sell air, empty words and elementary truths. Going to such trainings is just a waste of time. You can recognize fake “trainers” by an unnatural smile, the absence of documents on specialized education and any achievements other than the duped hundred or two clients.
A completely different matter is training aimed at developing certain skills or helping to understand your relationship with yourself and with the surrounding Universe. Some of these classes are taught by real specialists who have their own expertise, extensive experience and scientific degrees. Usually, all information can be verified by searching the Internet for reviews of those who have already completed the training or confirmation of the truth of titles and regalia. In such self-development classes, you can really discover your talents, get rid of complexes that interfere with your life, learn useful techniques and gain new experience.
Founding Fathers of the Science of Success
Many believe that the emergence of the cult of success is directly related to the so-called American dream, that the American dream is success embodied in money. However, this statement is far from the truth.
The phrase “American Dream” was first mentioned in “The Epic of America,” a weighty book by James Adams that he wrote in 1931. In it, the author writes that the people of the United States have “the American dream of a country where every person’s life will be better, richer and fuller, where everyone will have the opportunity to get what they deserve.”
This pursuit of happiness is the American Dream, and that has always been the beauty of it - it is still happiness.
a much deeper and broader concept than the opportunity to earn more money. The creators of the Declaration of Independence—religious people, by the way—understood this very well.
Exercise 3. “But...”
This exercise will help resolve the problem or, at least, relieve the stress associated with it. This exercise requires a group of several people.
On pieces of paper, each participant in the game must write down a stressful situation that worries him, or an unfulfilled desire, or a conflict situation from which he cannot find a way out (it is not necessary to sign the sheets). The collected leaves are mixed. Then each note is read out in turn, and each participant must come up with as many arguments as possible in favor of the fact that the situation is not so bad, solvable and even funny. The use of connectives “that’s great, because...”, “but now...”, “but it could have been worse”, “I didn’t really want to, because...” is encouraged.
At the end, the results of the game are discussed, and it is proposed to voice what real help each of the participants in the game received.
Why trainings are often useless
Because miracles don't happen. It’s not enough to experience the insight: “This is it! Now I understand what I was doing wrong!” Even if you now know “the right way,” nothing will change. Because knowing is not enough, you also need to DO. But this can be very difficult. In humans, even the survival instinct is not as strong as the desire to do everything “as usual” and not “as is correct.”
And it often turns out that a person wanders through trainings, gaining all kinds of information about “how to do it right.” But he continues to live “as always,” gradually gaining despondency and irritation - “These trainings don’t give anything.” All you need to do is take one step - from theory to practice. From reading the instruction manual to the ON button.
Beliefs that can be heard at self-development trainings
And finally, let's look at the most common false statements that are resorted to in personal growth trainings, apparently wanting to have some kind of motivating effect on the audience. Motivation is, of course, good, but if you take such statements at face value, they can often not only not bring any benefit, but even cause some harm. Now I will show you this with examples.
Lie #1. You can achieve anything you want, the main thing is to want it! Very often during personal growth trainings they try to instill in a person something similar. However, you should not take such statements too literally, because sometimes achieving success requires certain inclinations that someone may absolutely not have.
This can actually lead to serious psychological trauma. Therefore, of course, you need to strive for success, but only by adequately assessing your capabilities. No one can achieve everything, everything, everything.
Lie #2. Changing yourself and your life is easy! In fact, of course not! It’s difficult, and how difficult it is! But the trainers say this, probably, so as not to scare the person. After all, if we tell the truth: serious changes are very hard work, which not everyone can do, then most people will simply immediately lose any desire to change.
Any changes in oneself are always associated with certain sacrifices and leaving the comfort zone that a person had previously created for years. Therefore, as a rule, they are very difficult, and there is nothing easy there.
Lie #3. You can quickly achieve perfection in what you need! That's also not true. It takes many years to truly achieve perfection! The rule of 10,000 hours, repeatedly proven by various researchers, tells us this - it is this time spent in practical exercises that is required to bring the level of mastery in a matter to a high degree of professionalism. Convert these hours into days and years, based on how many hours a day you will devote to the desired task - and see your real time frame for achieving perfection.
If a person leaves a personal growth training convinced that, say, in a month he will become a professional in something and achieve great success, then after this month he will be deeply disappointed. And often it is also accompanied by some kind of losses, for example, monetary ones.
Lie #4. Self-hypnosis and money attraction techniques work! Sometimes during personal growth trainings they can describe all sorts of self-hypnosis techniques and techniques for attracting money based on Feng Shui, esotericism, horoscope, etc. Something like that you need to bury a coin under a money tree somewhere during the full moon, water it and read mantras at the same time, and then wealth and success will definitely come to you. Moreover, they will give many examples of people for whom this really works, including themselves.
Of course, all this is very far from reality. If similar techniques work for someone without any additional actions, this will probably be more of a coincidence than a pattern.
To attract money, you need to earn it in different ways. If you simply repeat the mantra “I am rich” every day before going to bed. Money comes to me. I feel their energy...", etc., without taking any action to earn money - I assure you, this will not give anything. Well, if you don’t believe me, of course, you can try it and see for yourself.
Lie #5. You can repeat the path to success as a coach! Very often, during personal growth and self-development trainings, trainers give many examples from their personal lives, and they can even be quite truthful. They can tell you how they changed their life, how they found their dream job, how they learned to earn money and invest, etc. And what helped them in this.
At the same time, training is often built on the principle “If it helps me, it will help you too!” But this is absolutely not true. The fact is that each person is individual and perceives and reacts to different processes and phenomena in completely different ways. Therefore, what may be a salvation for one may be simply disastrous for another!
In conclusion, I would like to draw the following conclusion, paraphrasing the famous phrase from advertising:
I will end here. I wish you good results in whatever you strive for! See you again on Financial Genius - bookmark the site, there is a lot of interesting and useful information here.
Part One: Engage in Introspection
1. Observe your behavior and thinking patterns.
This will help you recognize your strengths and weaknesses, and determine what aspects of your life need improvement. Remember that before you can fix anything, you must first identify the problem(s). Try to look at your life from an objective point of view, or in other words, from the point of view of another person. This may take months, so be patient and keep reminding yourself to take a step back every now and then to reflect. Pay attention to your reactions to stress, worry, anger and anxiety. Although everyone has experienced these emotions at one time or another, we all deal with them differently. Do you react to these emotions rationally or do you allow them to grow to enormous proportions? Pay attention to what triggers these emotions: school, work, your family, your spouse, and so on.
2. Pay attention to your relationships with others. Your relationships with friends, family members, loved ones, and colleagues can reveal a lot about your personality. Ask yourself the following questions:
Do you often quarrel with friends and family members? Who usually provokes these quarrels? How do you resolve disagreements? Do you compromise or always defend your position? Are there certain people in your life who irritate you or make you feel unsafe? Why is this happening? Have you ever neglected or ignored your loved ones? When was the last time you showed a friend or loved one that you care about them?
3. Recognize your fears and worries about the future. This way you will see your fears from the outside, separating the rational from the irrational. The point is to determine whether the fear is rational (that is, it is a real danger) or whether it is due to personal experiences. Consider the following exercise:
Think about fear. For example: “I'm afraid to go back to school because I don't consider myself a strong student.” Now imagine that one of your good friends or one of your family members told you that they feel this way. How would you react? What advice would you give? Would you tell a person to give up, or would you tell them to try? We often give better advice than we would do ourselves because of a biased view of our own experiences. Remember that even the most successful inventors, entrepreneurs, and scientists doubted their abilities at some point in their lives. Perhaps others told them that what they wanted to do was impossible, but they still tried and followed their dreams.
4. Keep a diary. Journaling is a great way to keep track of what's going on in your life (both the ups and downs) and how you react to those situations. Reviewing your journal entries will help you look at your life from the outside, pay attention to your thinking patterns, and identify recurring problems.
Go back and re-read old posts after some time has passed. Now that you are no longer in the heat of the moment, do you think you responded to the situation correctly? How could you handle it better? Keep this in mind for the future.
How to become rich and what does God have to do with it?
The “founding father” of the science of self-development and achieving cherished goals was Wallace Wattles, born in 1860. Coming from a poor farm in Illinois, he was educated in an American country school, where children were taught to read, count and write in the elementary grades, and in the middle grades they were taught geometry and US history. Wattles was an enthusiastic person and loved to read: of his own free will, he became acquainted with the works of Descartes, Schopenhauer, Hegel, Swedenborg, Emerson and many other philosophers.
All this, as his daughter Florence later wrote, led Wattles to reconsider his views on life: he joined the New Thought movement, which was just gaining strength in the second half of the 19th century. The ideological concept of this semi-religious movement was built on one key principle: everything that exists in our world is God or a manifestation of His divine essence.
Wattles, who always had great social ambitions, learned a lot from the teachings of the New Thought and, after losing the 1908 elections for Congress, where he was nominated by the Socialist Party of the USA, he wrote the book The Science of Getting Rich. It was published in 1910, a year before his death, and shows the significant influence New Thought had on Wattles:
And further:
Here's what he thinks about development:
The book “The Science of Getting Rich” was such a colossal success that it made Wattles’ name famous throughout the country, and his work influenced many authors of self-development manuals in the future. Thus, the creator of the acclaimed book “The Secret,” Rhonda Byrne, has repeatedly said that Wattles’ text inspired her. In addition to her, Tony Robbins also praised the book.
How many trainings do you need to complete to solve all problems?
If anyone else is worried about the question: “So how many trainings will provide me with an easy, problem-free life, a sea of friends and a stress-free brilliant career?” - please read the article very carefully again from the very beginning, because such a formulation is doomed to failure in advance and is tantamount to asking: “How long do I need to run in the morning to achieve the figure of Claudia Schiffer/Antonio Banderos and stay in good health until I’m a hundred years old?” At the same time, everyone understands that to maintain beauty and health, a comprehensive and regular approach to your body and appearance is necessary. The human psyche and personality development do not contradict this rule
Personal development throughout life is no less important than caring for the body. In addition to the trainings themselves (which can really give a wonderful “kick in the ass” for a creative attitude towards oneself and the formation of oneself as a harmonious and positive person), the process of personal growth is also a huge independent work on developing one’s positive qualities and adequate (not derogatory) attitudes towards those aspects of one’s personality that have yet to be understood, accepted and improved
Each person is individual, for some, 1-2 courses and further independent studies will be enough, for others, they will attend several courses and then take a break for a while, and some will attend trainings that are relevant to them as often as they deem optimal for yourself. Various options are possible, the most important thing is to realize one simple truth:
No one will ever solve all your problems for you, without your direct participation!
Exercise 2. “Free Sunday evening” technique.
This technique will help you look deeper into yourself , into the world of your needs, hobbies, interests; perhaps she will even reveal herself to you from an unexpected, creative side.
It will help you “find time” that will be yours personally, that is, time when you owe nothing to anyone but yourself.
It will help you prepare for the upcoming work week, as well as become more balanced and calm: we get nervous first of all when we owe something to someone and don’t have time...
Assignment: teach all your relatives and loved ones, near and far, to the idea that on Sunday evening you are busy with your own affairs. Spend this time the way you want. The main thing is no obligations, it’s YOUR FREE TIME . Let it be just one or two hours to begin with. Very soon you will not imagine how you managed without personal time before!
Personal growth goals
Personal growth goals can be completely different. Such as, for example, the creative development of an individual or spiritual, material and physical.
There can be several goals for personal growth at once, so sometimes you have to improve yourself in several completely different directions at once.
- Developing Awareness
- Time Compliance
- Filling your horizons with knowledge
- Leading a healthy lifestyle
- Using your talents and strengths
Each of us probably wants to have his own special position in society, to be an interesting conversationalist, or to achieve recognition in some field of activity.
How to draw up an action plan?
First, it is important to decide where you want to start personal growth. This could be an increase in potential, an increase in self-efficacy, or the development of useful qualities.
After setting goals is completed, we look for motives for achieving them. We recommend:
1. If necessary, contact a specialist
Sometimes, in order to achieve maximum disclosure of one’s own “I,” the help of a qualified psychoanalyst or trainer is needed. They will help you achieve your results in self-knowledge much faster!
2. Unshackle yourself and drive away bad thoughts
It is quite difficult to achieve something if you are stuck in fears and concerns. Having thrown them away, even the world will sparkle in different colors for your person!
3. Don’t stand in the way of change
Sometimes changes are even for the better, so there is no need to avoid them. Open up to them and accept them with gratitude!
4. Find your motivation to start self-improvement
In most cases, we are driven by strong motivation; having found it, everyone is able to literally “move mountains.”
5. Take action!
Coach, motivational speaker, business trainer: who to turn to
Professional teachers offering special courses for entrepreneurs and managers mainly work in 3 areas.
- Increasing motivation, creating a positive attitude towards leadership and development. A motivational speaker does not necessarily run a business himself or teach at a well-known school for entrepreneurs. The main thing for such a person is charisma, emotionality, and the ability to hold an audience. The speaker’s goal is to inspire the audience, to “ignite” them with his speech, which is why there are many popular personalities among motivational speakers: sports stars, show business, and politics. They work with audiences of thousands and keep the audience in suspense for 2-3 hours.
- Training of company managers. For this purpose, professors representing universities and business schools are invited. In this format, innovative content is more important than the trainer’s oratory skills. It is advisable to organize classes in small groups (maximum 50 people), we are not talking about giant halls. The value of the classes is the new knowledge and skills that the company’s managers receive, so the business coach must be a competent specialist, otherwise the whole idea of training will lose its meaning.
- Individual lessons or work in small groups. This is what coaches do - personal mentors in personnel management, development, and leadership. This is the most diverse group of business coaches. Among coaches there are both excellent specialists and outright scammers offering dubious information products for pennies. Therefore, you should choose a mentor carefully and carefully, taking into account the ratings and top lists of the best teachers. A business coach can be both a motivational speaker and a renowned scientist. All this significantly increases the price tag for specialist services.
Who else criticized positive thinking?
There were many opponents not only to the philosophy of success but also to its individual epigones. For example, Everett Leo Shostrom was an ardent opponent of Dale Carnegie and even wrote the book “The Manipulative Man,” which was popularly nicknamed “Anti-Carnegie.”
Shostrom, in the best traditions of Tolstoyism, almost called for inaction as a means of salvation for man:
Modern training gurus also periodically come under fire from criticism. So, in 2005, Steve Salerno released the book “SHAM: How the Self-Improvement Movement Made America Helpless,” in which he seeks to expose the training industry with a global turnover of $8.5 billion.
Interesting, popular and effective trainings
Systemic family constellations
This training is also called “Hellinger constellations.” The author of the technique is Bert Hellinger, a famous German psychotherapist. Based on extensive experience working with patients’ problems, Hellinger concluded: the roots of many problems, including problems with women’s and men’s health, failures in personal life or profession and career, lie in the family field, family history.
The session is attended by the client himself, “deputies” who play the role of members of the family community, and spectators. The client places “deputies” in the space of the “family field”, and during the placement, certain hidden, undeveloped problems and complexes are revealed. When the client realizes the true reasons for his troubles and problems, it becomes much easier for him to cope with them.
Countering manipulators
No manipulator ever acts for your good. All his actions are always aimed at satisfying his own needs at the expense of others, be it in everyday life or in business. Mastering the ability to counteract manipulators is useful for everyone, without exception.
At trainings, the coach talks about the hooks that manipulators use to hook their victims, and shows in practice how it works
But most importantly, you will be taught not only how to get off the hook, but also how to not get hooked again.
Self-organization training
Hand on heart, many of us can admit: the path to a correct and healthy lifestyle is blocked by our inability or unwillingness to properly organize our personal time. We do a lot of unnecessary things and do not do what is necessary, because there is no time or energy left for what is necessary. The habit of making plans for the future and following them is common to few people. We love to indulge our weaknesses and this makes us even weaker.
Training on organizing personal and work time will help reveal the causes of failures, deal with disorganization and give you simple tools to put your life in order. You will learn to prioritize and find a balance between work, family matters and leisure. And an ordered life will definitely give positive results for your well-being and mood.
Top 5 most famous speakers in the world
Famous business coaches not only motivate and inspire productive activities. They share step-by-step instructions that help solve pressing problems: taking a company to a new level of development, finding a source of investment, forming a team.
The best in the profession is the one who shares applied knowledge , not dubious theories. Own experience is a prerequisite for getting into top lists and ratings.
Tony Robbins
The most famous business coach who changed not only his own life, but also the way of thinking of many people in the world.
Robbins has advised famous athletes and business leaders, and given public talks to CEOs and ordinary employees without much ambition. He was able to instill in his listeners the idea that one must manage one’s own life and manage it skillfully. Anthony Robbins is known not only as a motivational speaker, but also as the creator of original courses on personal effectiveness, the psychology of negotiations, and successful interaction within a team.
Robert Kiyosaki
Author of many bestsellers on financial independence and safe investing rules.
Until 1980, he was engaged in business (played on the stock exchange, ran a leather goods company), but achieved real success by launching his own educational project. In collaboration with Sh. Lektor, he led the Rich Dad's Organization, a school of business and investment. Considered a consummate motivational speaker.
Bodo Schaefer
Well-known financial consultant, businessman, author of books on financial literacy.
In trainings, she uses knowledge about consumer psychology, client motivation, and neurolinguistic programming. Schaefer adheres to the main theses formulated by Carnegie and Kiyosaki, but adapts their developments to the needs of a specific business. His sales training is in demand by network companies (including those working on MLM technologies). Schaefer's books and speeches will be useful not only to corporate clients, but also to those who want to create a personal financial plan and manage their budget wisely.
Robin Sharma
A certified lawyer who, without regrets, changed the profession of a lawyer to the profession of a business coach and writer.
Specializes in methods for developing leadership qualities, creating positive motivation, and unlocking individual potential. Author of the best-selling book “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari” and mentor of Radislav Gandapas, one of the best business coaches in Russia. Sharma gives public lectures in the USA, European and Asian countries; his performances are scheduled several years in advance.
Brian Tracy
One of the few business coaches who managed to achieve success in real entrepreneurship.
The pinnacle of his career was the position of chief operating officer of a company whose market value was about $270 million. He also ran for governor of California in 2003, although he failed to win.
Tracy has developed seminars on the art of sales, personal effectiveness, and leadership development. His trainings are extremely effective and work for the long term.
Epilogue: we have been tired for so long
Not everyone is ready to rush into the pursuit of self-realization, and in general, not everyone wants to interfere in these disputes between coaches, training gurus and motivation specialists.
And this concerns not only direct self-realization: a rebellion against norms and stereotypes has begun on all fronts: the foundations of even the fashion industry are gradually crumbling, which, it would seem, was the last to lose its position, supported by injections of funds from the beauty industry. However, as one famous poet said, “nothing can be held back - not green on purple, not the V-neck of a T-shirt, not the broken edge of an umbrella,” and therefore today body positivity and the cult of “accepting yourself as you are” are triumphantly sweeping the planet.
Active supporters of “healthy egoism”, who call for not giving a damn about the opinions of others and their ideas of success, are gradually appearing all over the world, and their fame is growing rapidly. This time, there are “prophets” in our country: at the end of 2020, the book by psychologist Pavel Labkovsky with the telling title “I Want and I Will” sold 550,000 copies throughout the country - this is almost an unprecedented figure for the Russian market.
TOP 10 best business trainers in Russia
Not all methods of Western trainers work effectively in Russia. Most of the developments need to be seriously changed, adapting to local specifics. This is why trainings created by Russian coaches are so popular. The TOP 10 domestic business trainers include not only entrepreneurs with experience in managing their own projects, but also well-known media personalities.
Radislav Gandapas
At the beginning of his career, he was a teacher of rhetoric and public speaking.
Over time, he created trainings dedicated to the philosophy of success, improving emotional intelligence, leadership, and the art of self-presentation. Winner of numerous professional awards and the title “Best in the Profession”, awarded at the end of the year.
The most important idea that Radislav Gandapas promotes is that the life of any person is as full and rich as possible, and there is a business project that is worth working on. Therefore, it is important to invest in self-development, education, and not skimp on other investments in yourself. They are the ones who will bring maximum profit and impact.
Igor Mann
One of the few business coaches who not only motivates and stimulates personal growth, but also shares working marketing algorithms with students.
Igor Mann is a specialist with 27 years of experience. He specializes in crisis management, practical schemes for improving business efficiency and calls himself a marketer, not a marketer. In his understanding, a marketer is nothing more than a theorist, and a marketer is focused on the practical activities of the company.
Mann not only conducts lectures and seminars, but also publishes weekly magazines and, in addition, maintains a personal online blog.
Gleb Arkhangelsky
Creator of original trainings dedicated to the rational use of time. Gleb Arkhangelsky is the largest Russian specialist in time management ; his signature course has been a success for several years.
In addition to his charm and ability to keep his audience on their toes, he achieved significant career heights. Before creating his own company, Gleb worked at a bank as an assistant to the chairman of the board.
Arkhangelsky is actively developing Internet projects: a website and a blog. Bestsellers are regularly published on how to effectively use your most valuable business asset—time.
Konstantin Baksht
A successful businessman who conducts trainings on current topics: “How to create an effective team”, “What trading strategy will lead to market dominance”, “How young entrepreneurs can avoid common mistakes”.
Konstantin Baksht not only conducts offline seminars, but also collaborates with electronic periodicals. Books on current topics are regularly published, and practical experience makes his presentations useful and lively.
Dmitry Norka
A well-known business speaker specializing in effective forms of interaction between client and seller.
According to Dmitry Nork, aggressive direct sales techniques are becoming a thing of the past. For successful implementation of projects, it is necessary not only to change the paradigm of interaction with the buyer, but also to change the self-perception of the seller. To do this, an expert approach should be used: the buyer is not forced to buy, but is gently led to make an independent decision .
The main condition for the successful implementation of the new algorithm is a change in the internal status of employees. They must be calm, confident in their abilities and knowledge. The author's course “Expert Approach” exists in several variations: for company management and for sales specialists.
Maxim Batyrev
Well-known business speaker, winner of many professional awards and literary prizes.
He has published several bestsellers (the most famous is “45 Tattoos of a Manager”), and conducted many master classes and seminars. Batyrev specializes in working with personnel . During the trainings, he talks about the rules of successful recruiting, adaptation of newcomers to the workplace, control of work activities, and proper motivation of employees.
Sergey Azimov
Author of books and trainings on the art of personal selling and direct negotiations.
Sergei Azimov’s book “Sales, Negotiations” has gone through several reprints and, despite the high price (1000 euros), is popular among experienced and novice businessmen. A business development program without start-up capital is no less in demand.
The main value of Asimov's methods is that they are all tested by practice and, when used correctly, work in 100% of cases. The book “Sales, Negotiations” contains more than a thousand examples of live interaction with clients and partners. In the speaker’s understanding, a successful businessman is always a skilled negotiator and a bit of a manipulator, and knowledge of psychology is sometimes more important than understanding economic laws.
Maxim Potashev
By education - mathematician and financial analyst; worked on a variety of media and business projects. He became famous as the star of the television projects “What? Where? When?" and "Brain Ring".
In his trainings, Maxim Potashev focuses on the ability to work and think in a team. In his opinion, this is the most important skill in modern conditions, and a business leader must first of all form a team of like-minded people.
Potashev is an active supporter of the use of brainstorming techniques : in his opinion, this is an excellent way of making collective decisions, which is used in crisis situations.
Evgeny Kolotilov
Specializes in effective sales techniques suitable for the B2B sector.
Interaction with large customers (leading managers, heads of departments, business owners) is difficult, but interesting and profitable. Simple techniques that are suitable for interacting with the average consumer are not always appropriate in the B2B sphere. The main trump card of a successful seller - emotional influence - will not help in negotiations with a professional client. It is much more important, according to Kolotilov, to negotiate correctly and have self-presentation skills. He talks about this in detail at trainings.
Vladimir Gerasichev
Titled business coach, creator of his own school “Business Relations” , teacher at leading Russian economic universities.
Gerasichev constantly conducts corporate trainings and collaborates with large companies (X5 Retail Group, Kit Finance, MGTS, Svyaznoy). His seminars are focused on solving specific problems facing modern business. Gerasichev examines in detail the rules and algorithms for effective planning, analyzes the process of forming corporate values, and gives advice on personnel management. His trainings are valuable because he adapts Western experience taking into account Russian realities and analyzes the current situation in the market.
From sales to personal growth
In Europe, the fashion for training came after the war: while restoring the Old World, America imported many of its habits to the continent. Initially, it was only about professional and financial trainings - so already in 1946, Hans Goldman conducted his first training in Sweden with the telling title “How to sell more in post-war Europe.” Well, following the Old World, the whole world caught up with the new fashion.
By the way, Hans Goldman later became the founder of one of the most famous international training companies - Mercuri International: it was the company that was the first to enter the Russian market in the 1990s, where this niche was not yet occupied by anyone.
The teaching of success reached its peak—and a new impetus for development—in the 1960s and 1970s, when Martin Seligman’s research laid the foundation for positive psychology. In one experiment, he placed dogs in cages and, after a strong beep, gave the animals a short, weak shock. The dogs couldn't escape him, no matter what they did. Seligman then moved them to other cells, where their activity could save them from electric shock, but in the new cells they did not try to make any effort to protect themselves, only whining after the beep, waiting for the shock.
Neurosis and personal growth
Neurosis and personal growth, what is the relationship? Sometimes life leads us to a dead end, and we give up on doing anything, and we begin to simply “go with the flow,” succumbing to a nervous state, and, even worse, trying not to notice it.
But we can fix everything! If you identify the signs of a personal growth crisis and overcome them. Fortunately, neurosis is quite easy to recognize by its characteristic symptoms:
- Low resistance to stress
- Aggressive behavior
- Vulnerability and frequent tearfulness
- Anxiety conditions
- Focus only on the problem
- Fatigue
- Increased irritability
- Touchiness over trifles
- Turning every little thing into a tragedy
- Severe sensitivity to noise
- Intolerance to too much bright light
- Sensitivity to temperature changes
- Apparent insomnia
- Overexcited state
- Increased heart rate
- Profuse sweating
- Absent-mindedness, lack of concentration
- Sudden changes in pressure
In a neurotic state, all the symptoms will not necessarily appear at once; there may well be 2 or 3 of them. But this is enough to think about ways to combat this terrible illness.
These alarm bells should not be ignored! They are the ones who tell us that it’s time to stop and rethink our lives, so as not to encounter an insidious neurosis.
And if neurosis has already overtaken you, you should not delay eliminating it until it develops into depression or something worse.
In this case, an excellent solution would be an optimistic attitude and decisive actions towards improvement.
