Many men in our country suffer from alcoholism. Unfortunately, because of this disease, people drop out of the social environment, lose loved ones and friends. Of course, the families and wives of alcoholics are under attack. It is extremely difficult to bear with a person who regularly drinks alcohol and goes on binges from time to time. And women have a question: what to do if the husband is an alcoholic? How to behave in such a situation? What recommendations are there for saving a family or relationship?
Today we will look at different aspects of the problem. It is worth talking about specific methods of treating alcoholism. But the psychological component also needs special attention. After all, a person suffering from alcohol addiction, under the influence of alcohol, perceives the surrounding reality differently. And it requires a special approach. Let's dwell on the most important points.
Preparing for treatment
It is extremely important to begin comprehensive treatment of a person for alcoholism. But what should a woman do if her alcoholic husband does not want to be treated and believes that he is not sick at all? Yes, unfortunately, in most cases, Lyuli drinkers claim that they themselves will quit the addiction as soon as they want. However, they are unable to give up alcoholism. Of course, even a person with a strong will and a sincere desire to quit drinking is not always able to do this. It’s just physically extremely difficult to wean yourself off alcohol.
What should a woman do when her husband drinks? We must definitely try to convince him to undergo treatment in a specialized clinic and go to rehabilitation.
Doctors themselves will select the most appropriate method, taking into account all the individual characteristics of the patient, the course of his illness, and the depth of alcohol dependence. For example, some people need therapy and recovery for two weeks. Other patients suffering from prolonged drinking bouts can be treated for six months, in several stages.
What to do if your husband drinks
What to do if your husband drinks every day, how to save him? – I hear this question, filled with emotional pain, on the phone almost every working day. This is a big problem for wives whose husbands are “hooked on the glass” and don’t want to “get off it”; they just play the fool and drink every day. The problem of alcoholism is widespread; only in Yandex search such a query is typed by about 2 thousand users per month.
The problem of alcohol addiction is twofold: on the one hand, drinking men like to drink alcohol, because after it they enter an inadequate state and poison their body.
While they are young, the body copes with this poison without particularly obvious consequences.
On the other hand, what should you do if your husband drinks beer, wine or vodka, his body gradually weakens and begins to malfunction, painful signs appear, family relationships worsen, and the process of recognizing the problem begins.
The search for a solution to the problem most often leads to medical clinics, treatment, coding, coding and complete disappointment from treatment.
After treatment and coding, husbands begin to drink even more, proving to their wives that no one can cure them and drink themselves to the point of cirrhosis of the liver, stroke or heart attack, and here they ingloriously end their lives.
My husband drinks, what to do: advice from a psychologist
The wife has only a very small chance to save her loved one. To do this, a woman must know the plan and the correct strategy for solving the problem.
The correct strategy for solving a problem consists of 5 steps:
- 1. realize that alcoholism is not a disease,
- 2. stop treating or coding your husband,
- 3. learn to build relationships correctly,
- 4. find a psychologist who can help,
- 5. find motivation for your husband.
Realize that alcoholism is not a disease
Alcoholism is when a person drinks a lot of alcohol, but this does not mean that there is a disease in the person's body. A person who drinks does not have a disease in his body.
What to do if your husband drinks every day
You ask. Your husband has beliefs that: “Alcohol gives me pleasure and relaxation,” “I like to drink a cold beer with fish,” “It’s nice to sit with friends with a bottle of cognac and chat,” and many other beliefs can generate a whole stream of alcoholic thoughts.
But how can a simple person untrained in this art control his thoughts? No way!
One client told me:
- How can you stop thoughts, desires, when after a working day you go out into the yard in which you live, and there your friends are already tipsy, offering you a drink, it’s impossible to refuse, and so on every day.
The process quickly plunges a person into drunkenness; few people realize alcoholism as a result.
People actually don’t know a lot, for example: who a person is and what part is leading in him, their purpose, the structure of their psyche, they don’t even know where they live in space, they don’t set life goals for themselves, they live by inertia, like everyone else .
Some people realize when they become seriously ill from alcohol poisoning, but it is often too late.
Mechanism of alcoholism
Help him learn the mechanism of a bad habit and this will help him change.
The mechanism behind the problem is quite simple. A program of beliefs is activated, for example: when meeting with friends, thoughts come to drink, and the person consciously thinks that these are his thoughts and desires and, without hesitation, implements them to the detriment of himself and his loved ones.
Consciousness, the leading part of the human being, is in the hands of most people in slavery to subconscious programs and this is very bad.
Restoring conscious control and management of thoughts is the primary task in solving the problem of alcohol addiction.
Stop treating or coding your husband
When coding and treatment does not help, then you need to look for a different approach.
In America, alcoholism is not considered a disease; there, this concept is understood as excessive alcohol consumption; only the consequences of alcohol poisoning are considered a disease.
In our country and many other countries, the medical community considers alcoholism a disease, and they try unsuccessfully to cure it, although the location of the disease is not determined.
Trying to treat alcoholism is like trying to treat a non-existent disease.
If all the authoritative luminaries of medicine believe that this is a disease, then drinkers and their loved ones must come to accept these erroneous beliefs.
That's why wives of drinking husbands are constantly trying to code and treat them.
Let me give you a few examples
The wife brought her husband for a consultation and said:
- What should I do if my husband drinks heavily every day for ten years, I have already coded him seven times, but he still continues to drink every day. I already know all the coding methods that I found on the Internet. Maybe your coding is better and will work this time.
Psychological preparation
The task of a woman whose husband has an alcohol addiction is to gently convince him to give up the habit. Mutual trust and respect are of great importance here. It is necessary to make a man want to cope with the disease, but not to humiliate him or put direct pressure on him. When wives simply try to force them to stop drinking, they swear and create scandals, this only causes a backlash.
It is important to understand that with any treatment method, a person must not drink alcohol before therapy. And the minimum period is 10 days.
Of course, you can contact a psychologist. For example, some have already begun to practice problem solving at an appointment with a family psychologist. But still, this method is not very widespread in our country, because people do not really trust such specialists and do not want to reveal their souls and family affairs to a stranger.
Contraindications
It is known that existing methods of treating alcoholism cannot always be applied. There are several serious contraindications. Let's list the main ones:
- Epilepsy, seizures,
- Acute strokes,
- Hypertensive crisis,
- Disorders of the nervous system,
- Various mental disorders
- Built-in pacemaker.
For a long time, it was generally accepted that it was not recommended to treat alcoholism for people over 60 years of age. But in modern medicine many new techniques have appeared, and known methods of treatment are being improved. That is why we can safely say that even after reaching the age of 60, alcoholism will not be a death sentence. The main thing is that the wife convinces her husband to take the course.
Signs of beer alcoholism
Beer alcoholism is a man’s problem, a persistent addiction, a morbid addiction to beer. Another term is Gambrinism (Gambrinus, Flemish king, patron of brewing). There is no such diagnosis in ICD-10, so beer alcoholism is not considered a disease, although it is often used in everyday life.
The distinctive features of beer alcoholism are its relaxing effect. From a pharmacological point of view, beer has sedative properties, and in the century before last it was prescribed as a sedative. But we are talking about a “live” drink, without chemical components.
Signs that your husband has beer alcoholism:
- daily consumption of more than a liter of beer;
- denial of dependence;
- aggression, irritability when unable to drink;
- the husband looks like a woman, the body becomes loose, fat deposits on the hips and abdomen;
- gynecomastia;
- insomnia at night, headaches.
A husband who is addicted to beer is extremely irritable in the morning and needs a drink to cheer him up. Doses are gradually increased; a relaxing effect can only be achieved by “pumping into yourself” liters of an intoxicating drink.
For reference! “Bavarian beer heart” is a term coined by Professor Bollinger. The classic description of the consequences of beer libation was made in Munich during the autopsy of the corpses of brewery workers.
The wife needs to sound the alarm immediately if her husband drinks beer every evening! The use of ethanol, only in a different (“diluted”) form, is fraught with the development of alcoholism. A husband’s physical and mental addiction to beer develops more quickly due to the person’s failure to perceive the intoxicating drink as serious.
Techniques
There are many treatment methods for treating alcoholism. Almost all of them work according to the same scheme. It is necessary to first cleanse the patient’s body of all harmful substances and toxic compounds, completely remove alcohol and overcome its negative impact on internal organs. Then comes the most important stage, at which it is necessary to create an aversion to alcohol in a person. It is this approach that ensures long-term remission. The body really gets used to alcohol and begins to recover.
Treatment methods for alcoholism can be divided into the following groups:
- Hypnosis,
- Coding,
- Injection of a drug with a prolonged action,
- hardware treatment,
- Folk, non-traditional methods.
The opinion of experts deserves special attention here. Doctors are confident that we must abandon any non-traditional methods of treating alcoholism. Experts categorically prohibit wives from trying to cure alcoholic husbands with the help of dubious drugs. You cannot add powders or infusions to food. Therapy should be carried out under the supervision of a doctor, using proven reliable methods, means that have already successfully passed clinical trials. By mixing any substances into food, wives endanger the life and health of their husbands!
It is important to note that without the consent of the patient, his sincere desire, it will still not be possible to get rid of alcoholism.
Psychological techniques
This method attracts with its safety for the patient’s health and high level of efficiency. Nowadays the popular methods of Rozhnov and Malkin are known. It is the special psychotherapeutic effect that helps to support the patient and his will. Comprehensive psychological assistance from the family and the patient’s wife is also of great importance.
Experts note that it is desirable to establish the cause of alcohol dependence. At the same time, the atmosphere in the house should be positive and peaceful. Under no circumstances should you show aggression towards an alcoholic.
Sewing
Some people choose to sew in drugs: “Esperal”, “Torpedo”. They provide aversion to alcohol and establish fear of alcohol. However, it is known that some people still take large doses of alcohol, which ultimately leads to serious health consequences, since the drugs provoke problems with the heart and blood vessels. The method sometimes gives good results, but it is quite dangerous.
