“Unlike my books, my son Sean's book speaks directly to teenagers, it is easy to write and visually appealing (and, my God, Sean, I never thought you heard a word I said to you). This may sound biased, but this is a wonderful book and a must read!” — Steve Covey wrote in the foreword.
The book is voluminous, with a lot of practical exercises, diagrams and working techniques. It deserves to be a tabletop for any modern person from 11 to 17 years old. Although. As a mother who made many discoveries about adolescence and bought this book for her teenage son, I myself adopt some of the techniques and admit that I didn’t know much.
Be prepared that your children will not easily accept the recommendations from the manual, because it is designed to streamline a rather chaotic period of a person’s life, structure the teenager himself, instill in him responsibility and teach him self-government. And this is exactly what many teenagers are on strike against.
But the child should have such books at hand; you yourself can take useful tips and techniques from them. Use it and share your impressions with your son or daughter, tell us what worked and what didn’t... Perhaps your experience will be no less useful than the book itself.
A teenager needs to improve blood circulation in the body
Tell him to get active
The easiest way to warm up your hands is to make active body movements. During them, the teenager’s blood will move faster throughout the body. And flow to his hands. So, a teenager can do the following:
- Start walking outside faster. He must pick up the pace. Thanks to this, blood will begin to circulate more actively.
- Start squatting. And also jump. We recommend that teenagers give preference to an exercise in which the legs first stand together. And then - apart. But you can give preference to other active exercises. It is important that many muscles of the body are involved during their execution.
Tell your teenager to do arm exercises
If the teenager does not have the opportunity to do various exercises on the street, then let him use an alternative method. Start doing exercises to keep your arms active. And also legs.
So, a teenager needs:
- Start moving your limbs - arms and legs.
- Start twisting with your hands.
- Start squeezing your fingers. And then unbend them.
Recommend that your teenager start massaging his hands
Hand massage is a very effective exercise. For the reason that it allows you to restore blood flow in a teenager’s body in a very short time. As part of the massage, the teenager will have to rub his hands. Focus on them with different oils. And also creams.
During the process, the teenager will need to pay attention to all parts of the hands. Both hands and fists. It is important to rub every part of the limbs. In this case, your hands will be able to fully warm up.
Also, a teenager should not forget about the area between the fingers. And about their ends. These are the important parts of the hand.
Tell your teenager to drink less coffee during the cold season
It is not recommended to drink coffee in winter. The volume of its consumption needs to be significantly reduced. The fact is that coffee contains caffeine. This substance affects blood vessels. Narrows them down.
As a result, less blood will begin to flow to the teenager’s hands than needed. They will freeze significantly. The teenager will experience discomfort from this.
Recommend that your teenager switch to tea in winter. If possible, then let him give preference to white. However, other types of tea can also be consumed.
Inferiority complex in a teenage daughter
Hello! My daughter is 14 years old and we, parents, were shocked this year by her inferiority complex, which appeared from somewhere unexpectedly... She decided that she was fat and could not be convinced otherwise. Although this is not so, her figure is not bad, at her age I would dream of having one like this. (In my teens I myself suffered from having small breasts and thin legs, but she has everything in place and everything is beautiful) We try to praise and increase self-confidence in every possible way, but the effect is zero. He wears wide pants and huge T-shirts. She can’t be forced to buy normal clothes, “because she’s fat in them.” She refused to buy a swimsuit at all, because she’s not going to swim or sunbathe this year (last year she couldn’t be pulled out of the water) She tries not to go to big stores and various crowded places, so as not to meet friends (she can’t appear in such a terrible form!) Even in front of her loved ones she doesn’t want to undress - she sleeps in T-shirts, she doesn’t go to the sauna with her mother or grandmother. Refuses to go with us (parents) on vacation to the sea. Because she has nothing to do there - not even swim. no sunbathing. She is not going to visit water parks... She said that she would sit with her grandmother at the dacha. There are 3 weeks left before the vacation and we simply don’t know how to convince her, what words to find. Either, really, leave her with her grandmother, or take her with her, despite her reluctance - maybe she will change her mind on the spot... For some reason I even have some hope that a vacation at sea can have a positive effect on her . He will see that everyone there is undressed and everyone is enjoying the sea and the sun, despite the very different figures. Besides, you won’t meet acquaintances there who would evaluate you... In general, I don’t know how to act in this particular situation and what to do with it in general. She had already spent half of the summer holidays with her grandmother at the dacha (and she did, she used to at least communicate with people her own age on the street, go swimming, ride a bike, but here she’s nowhere to go from the territory of the dacha...) I thought that at least we’d spend the holiday together and it would be interesting... And so it is everything is a big question here. And the upcoming school year will be very important for her - and exams after 9th grade. and he’s finishing art school (also exams), that’s what I’d like. so that the summer holidays would charge her with positivity and confidence for the whole year, but no...(((She won’t go to a psychologist. And most importantly, okay, if you think you’re fat, then do something, for example, to fix it. I understand if she began to limit herself in food or take up some kind of sports or something else... A person invented a shortcoming for himself and fights with it... But here there is nothing. no action. That is, it turns out that she has come to terms with this situation things, does not try to change anything. And this isolation and fencing oneself off from the world will not lead to anything good...(((
Teenage daughter has lost interest in life
How can a teenager protect himself from low temperatures?
Teenager needs to warm up
If the teenager's body is warm, then the rest of the body will be safe. They will be kept in comfortable conditions. That is, warm. If the whole body is cold, then so are the hands. Accordingly, the teenager will experience discomfort while walking.
Encourage your teen to dress as warmly as possible in winter. He should wear two or three layers of clothes. The first is basic clothing (inner). The second is things that insulate from the cold. The third is outer clothing (that is, jacket, ski pants, etc.).
Recommend that your teenager wear loose-fitting clothes in the winter
Things should never be narrow. Otherwise, it will negatively affect the health of the teenager. It will make his blood vessels narrow. And he will feel cold.
It is very important for a teenager to wear quality clothes. The one that sits on it as freely as possible. And provides comfort while walking.
Encourage your teen to protect himself with gloves.
The best way to keep your hands from freezing is to protect them further. To do this, a teenager can use gloves. They should be as warm as possible.
It is very important to choose high gloves for a teenager. They should cover not only the hands, but also the part of the arm that is above the wrists. It is she who is less protected. And it is because of it that hands most often get cold.
If a teenager does not have gloves, then let him try to keep his hands in his jacket at all times. Even when it seems to him that they are not freezing. If a teenager gets his hands on it, it will end negatively for him. Sooner or later they will freeze.
Recommend that your teen consume ginger before going for a walk.
Ginger is a very healthy product. It has a positive effect on the body during cold times of the day. This is because it creates heat when it is digested.
Before the walk, we recommend treating your teenager to tea. And also ginger. This combination will allow a teenager to stay warm with ease. Including, he will do this in relation to the hands of a teenager.
A teenager can warm up using the heat coming from his body
Our body has several places that maintain a warm temperature in almost any environment. Even when it's very cold outside. And other parts of the teenager's body were frozen.
We are talking about two zones. About armpits. And also about the area that is located between the teenager’s thighs. To keep warm, a teenager just needs to put his hands in one of these zones. And also wait a while. Soon your hands will warm up.
Teenage complexes - a problem of adolescence
Do you notice that hormonal changes change the appearance of yesterday’s child, the figure becomes disproportionate, and acne appears on the face? The new body, like unusual clothes, fetters the teenager, his movements become sharp and awkward. Don’t wait until your growing child develops an inferiority complex because of his appearance, try to call him for a confidential conversation. Did not work out? This was to be expected, because for him you are a representative of a different generation that understands nothing about youth problems. He believes that the complexes of teenagers are unknown to you.
If the teenager is closed to conversation, you will have to bare your soul. Remember yourself at his age and openly, as if in confession, tell us about your experiences. Let him understand that it was hard for you too, that you, like him now, did not believe that in a year or a year and a half this dark period would pass, the world would become beautiful again, and life would be fun. Is he not listening? You are mistaken, your child is only pretending to be fascinated by the computer; in fact, he is analyzing your monologue, comparing his experiences with what he heard. If your teen doesn't want to continue the conversation, don't insist.
After some time, you can talk to your son or daughter about how you can improve his appearance. First, ask your child to help you choose a fashionable and beautiful dress for you, at the same time hint which style will highlight the attractive sides and hide the flaws of his physique. Discuss cosmetics for problem skin, think maybe you need to contact a cosmetologist or makeup artist. Choose a set of exercises to correct your figure and movements. Or maybe you can do fitness together? A beautiful silhouette won't hurt you either.
Teenage complexes can also arise due to a lack of respect from peers. Try to understand what kind of relationship your child has with his classmates. If he suffers from a lack of friends, explain that class is not the whole world; Like-minded people can be found in a sports section or hobby club. If a teenager becomes the object of bullying at school, do not take it to extremes, transfer him to another educational institution or even home schooling. Education is a necessary thing, but health, both physical and mental, cannot be compromised.
Adolescence is a difficult period in the life of not only a teenager, but also his parents. Perhaps nature specially arranged a kind of test for a person before entering adulthood. Be patient, a year or two will pass, and the long-awaited peace will come in the family, and the teenager’s complexes will disappear.
A teenager can add another source of heat to his clothes
Recommend that he use special heating pads and bags
These products are self-heating. At the same time, heating pads can be either disposable or used many times. There are a huge number of heating pads and bags in specialized stores. We recommend paying attention to models called:
- Bags designed for hands with a self-heating effect.
- Pocket-style hand warmers. They have special coal sticks in their structure. They smolder during operation.
- Special heaters designed specifically for feet. And also hands.
And other similar devices. They are sold everywhere and are relatively inexpensive.
A teenager can take a bath in a warm bath
Thanks to a warm bath, a teenager can warm up before a walk. Because this will increase his body temperature. However, we do not recommend going to the bathroom before a walk. Otherwise, the teenager may catch a cold.
Instead, the teenager can take a bath for his hands and feet. Place them in water whose temperature is forty-three degrees. Heat. And then go out into the street with a calm soul. In this case, no external factors will be scary for the teenager.
Encourage your teen to blow on his hands and then rub them
A teenager's lungs will contain air at a warm temperature. Encourage him to cup his palms together (this is to prevent heat from passing through his fingers). Then, the teenager will need to blow into his hands. And start rubbing them very actively. This will be needed so that the heat can be transferred to the back of his palms.
Encourage your teen to keep warm by using a fire or other similar heat source.
In some Moscow parks, for example, there are special areas with bonfires. They are being scammed by the owners of public places. So that people walking in them can keep warm.
A teenager can look for places with fires. Approach them. Warm up a little. And go for a walk further.
Recommend that the teenager go into a warm room
If a teenager is far from home and is very cold, then don’t worry. Recommend that he go into a warm room. For example, at McDonald's. Or any other fast food cafe.
A teenager can buy coffee there. He will stop at the establishment for several tens of minutes. Easily warms up. And he can go for a walk further.
Tell your teen to take care of his limbs after a walk.
Encourage your teen to monitor the condition of their hands. He should definitely go to the doctor if his skin suddenly starts to go numb, becomes hard or too dense. Tell your teen to report any changes in hand condition to you. It is possible that you will be able to detect the problem in the early stages. Take your teenager to the doctor. And he will advise how to deal with the problem.
Basic patterns of child mental development
There are two trends, directions in understanding the essence of development: dialectical and metaphysical, anti-dialectical. Domestic psychologists proceed from a dialectical understanding of development. In relation to the problem of a child’s mental development, this means, firstly, that each age stage is not reduced to purely quantitatively measured changes in the consciousness and behavior of students, but leads to qualitative changes in the psyche. Therefore, children sometimes understand each other better than their adult teachers. secondly, the problem of the driving forces of mental development. Understanding development as self-development, domestic psychologists see the manifestation of these driving forces in the resolution of internal contradictions of the individual. What are these contradictions? Most often they talk about the contradiction between the existing level of development of needs and the real possibilities of satisfying them. thirdly, it is contradictory. Fourthly, the mental development of children is characterized by the presence of not only evolutionary, calm life periods, but also age-related crises. When they arise, the child begins to resist the educational influences of adults, conflict with them, and behave rudely and disobediently. L. S. Vygotsky spoke about the crises of the newborn, 1 year, 3, 7, 13 and 17 years.
