Reasons for female infidelity: why does this happen and what to do?

Last week I met with one of my good friends, let's call her Christina. Christina is quite happy in her marriage, and she is convinced that her marriage is successful and prosperous: her husband is constantly busy at work, he holds a certain position. According to Christina, the success of her marriage largely depends on the presence of constant novels over the past three years (out of 10 years lived together). Her novels, which, again according to Christina, help her maintain a wonderful relationship with her husband, not “shine”, not blow his mind, not check his phone and be in a great mood.

Male infidelity

Everyone knows that representatives of the stronger half of humanity are polygamous by nature. Unfortunately, there are not many men who have a beloved woman and do not think about relationships with anyone else. Most likely, such devotion can be explained by natural morality, which prevails over the animal instinct of the male.

But the majority of men, in the right situation, will not refuse sex with an attractive lady. At the same time, they don’t even think about the fact that somewhere a loving woman is waiting for them, and they are not tormented by pangs of conscience. How is this explained from the point of view of male psychology? Does this indicate promiscuity or immorality? Not at all. Such men are called polygamous. Their sexual behavior is controlled by nature's genetic instinct.

Another reason for cheating on the part of men is the need for self-affirmation and constant conquest of new heights. It is from this point of view that the wife is viewed. Even if she is the most wonderful, she has already conquered the peak. Another woman still needs to be won. In such situations, men are guided by their ancient hunter psychology. The unfaithful spouse does not derive pleasure from intimate relations with another woman. What he enjoys most is the process of conquest, which is needed like air. If such situations do not arise, then the man may become irritable, inactive, and even become depressed.

Evidence of betrayal

But there are ways that allow you to be sure of a girl’s infidelity with 100% accuracy. How to make sure your wife is cheating?

Can you tell cheating by looking at your underpants? Yes. There is a special set of infidelity: within 72 hours after possible infidelity, you must take your wife’s underwear and take it to the laboratory.

Fact: after sex, a woman’s genitals secrete fluid containing elements of sperm for another three days.

A polygraph or lie detector will dot the i’s. If doubts persist, but there is no evidence, you should contact a printer. We advise you to resort to this method if you have lost sleep and peace. There is hardly a woman alive in this world who would not be offended by the offer to take a lie test. After this, divorce may occur and not because of infidelity.
Detective agency. Organizing surveillance of an unfaithful wife in the 21st century is easier than ever. There would be money.
View correspondence on a social network, view phone calls, listen to telephone conversations, buy a special bug and put it in your bag, spy on your wife yourself. Spying is unpleasant, and even if you find nothing, the seeds of mistrust have been sown and you will now be constantly browsing, listening, and spying.
It's strange, but sometimes a simple method works better than a complex one. Try just asking directly and see the reaction. Perhaps the wife has been waiting for a difficult conversation for a long time, or maybe she even feels guilty, and an unexpected question will force her to confess.

Women's infidelity

It’s difficult to surprise society with men’s outings. But it is worth noting that female infidelity is also common. But they are the ones who are most condemned by people. The fact is that the psychology of female infidelity has its own differences. And the main thing is that a lady will never look to the left just because of the instinct of reproduction that excites her. After all, nature arranges it in such a way that females need only one male in order to give birth to offspring. Moreover, such a representative of the opposite sex must be the best. So she has no point in changing her partner. You just have to find the right one, and that’s enough. But this is from the point of view of nature.

A woman's infidelity to a man can be explained by the fact that the representative of the opposite sex chosen by the lady must certainly be passionate, proactive, active and strong. However, it is quite difficult to find a man who would meet such requirements. This is not the fault of the stronger half of humanity, because today the demands placed on men are too high. To comply with them, they have to make considerable physical and psychological efforts. After such stress, they have no strength left for activity and passion towards their partner. Lack of attention is very painful for a woman. And she begins to look for someone who will fully meet her requirements.

Why do women cheat on men? They try to avoid loneliness. Of course, the man who seems to the lady to be the most suitable for her may, in essence, be no better than her husband. However, initially he will behave exactly as the woman desires, showing care and sexuality. At the same time, the lady is able to feel in demand and attractive. And she desperately needs this.

The psychology of female infidelity is such that this step is very serious for the fairer sex. Something like this can't happen without affecting their soul. And if it was even a fleeting meeting, then the lady will tell her friends about it even 10 years later. In addition, a woman cannot remain indifferent to the opinion of society. And it, as you know, condemns such betrayals more than men’s. This is why a woman will never take the initiative if she decides to have an affair on the side. But if everything in her family relationships is too bad, then she will not refuse the offer she receives. Indeed, in this case, the lady will consider herself a victim of the insufficient love of her husband, who finds herself in the hands of a seducer. In both cases, representatives of the opposite sex will be to blame.

Why do women cheat on men? The reasons for infidelity can be different.

How to find out if your wife is cheating in bed

Candidate of Medical Sciences, Doctor of Psychological Sciences RNI, Professor RNI, President of the Russian Association of Sexologists

When all the signs of a woman’s betrayal are already evident, it’s too late to ask yourself why the missus cheated.

Let's look at situations that can reveal betrayal.

Signs of female infidelity by appearance

One of the most obvious signs of female infidelity is a certain transformation, when your companion’s usual carelessness about her appearance is gradually replaced by careful self-care. The mirror glass in the bathroom, and the whole bathroom is filled with all kinds of hair, face and body care products.

Signs of female infidelity based on piquant accessories

Throwing your shirt into the dirty laundry bin, you may find there beautiful panties that cost a lot of money, and sets of expensive underwear that she never had before - in any case, you have never seen them on your missus. And in her wardrobe you can find many more sets of erotic lingerie, stockings with garters, panties with a slit in the front and back and other products from sex shops that women use to seduce men. For whom she bought all this, and where she manages to wear it, you don’t know, but you haven’t seen a single piquant item on her yet.

Signs of female infidelity based on morning behavior

Previously, she loved to lie in bed in the morning and did not spoil you with breakfast and coffee in bed, but now you are surprised to discover that she began to get up an hour earlier than you, and at the same time she is cheerful and in an excellent mood! Well, and if her face is smeared with some kind of nourishing mask, and she spends at least an hour styling her hair, then, as they say, “don’t even go to grandma’s”...

Signs of female infidelity based on behavior in bed

The behavior of an unfaithful wife in bed can change significantly. Only a 100% idiot who doesn't care about his wife can fail to notice these changes.

In such cases, most husbands decide that their wife is frigid, or has experienced early menopause, and ask her to visit a sexologist. The thought of betrayal, as a rule, does not even occur to them! Although the situation is clearer than ever.

It happens that sex happens from time to time, solely on your initiative, but you generally stop feeling a living person next to you, as if you were having sex with a Zina doll. Your wife obediently takes the position you want, responds to all your suggestions: “As you wish...”, does not resist innovations in your sexual repertoire, but you cannot leave the feeling that she is with you only physically, and mentally - not with you, but with someone else.

Option two. Your spouse herself began to show sexual activity, which she had not previously observed, or immediately responded to your initiative. Perhaps you wondered why your wife suddenly became such a sexy vamp, or you took credit for it - they say, you are so great in bed... But in vain! Your bed skills do not matter in this case. And the reason is simple: your wife tried to suppress her feelings of guilt in this way. After all, even blazing with passion for her lover, a married woman cannot help but realize that she is committing betrayal in relation to the one with whom, during the wedding ceremony, she promised to share joy, grief and sadness, and to be faithful until the end of her days... Tormented by remorse, the unfaithful a woman can suddenly become affectionate and tender towards her husband, trying to make amends, as it were...

Option three. Seeing a prettier, well-groomed, attractive wife, you became interested in her - you like her in this new look! This woman has become desirable to you again! Your sexual message did not go unanswered. Your intimate relationships seem to gain a second wind.

Option four. You discover that your spouse has significantly improved her sexual technique. Now she knows and can do much more than she did some time ago. If you ask where this metamorphosis comes from, the answer will follow, gleaned from women’s magazines or online forums: “I read it in a book, many books are now being published about sex, about how to refresh sexual relationships in a long-term marriage,” etc. But know: not a single book will teach you how to easily and naturally change your sexual position. It is impossible to learn fellatio and many other things from a book, which can only be learned in practice, with a real partner.

Signs of female infidelity by mood

Constant self-doubt and self-criticism are replaced by unbridled fun for any reason. A good mood does not leave her even if you are in a bad mood and have an irresistible desire to ruin your spouse’s mood. But no! She does not give in to any of your provocations! Moreover, he may grin or respond with a meaningful look in which one can read: “Why did I marry this idiot?!”

Signs of female infidelity - financial independence

Another important sign of female infidelity is if you discover that your missus has completely stopped begging you for money. If earlier you felt like a sponsor of her shopping, and only you could decide whether expensive purchases were allowed to her, now she incomprehensibly manages to solve her financial problems herself.

Signs of female infidelity by behavior change

If earlier your missus harassed you with calls to your mobile phone at the most inopportune times, and often interrogated you on the topic: “Why did you turn off your phone?”, now your phone no longer displays her name (or nickname). Completely ignored! Or maybe she will call once to formally ask about something. But what interests her very much is when you intend to come home. If your spouse used to get mad when you went to meet friends (and not only friends!) or stayed late (well, at work, of course!), now you get the impression that she doesn’t care where, with whom and How do you spend your free time? Moreover, she is happy when you return late - at least later than her.

When is it too late to identify signs of female infidelity?

Emotional emptiness

Female infidelity - why do they exist? The fact is that a wife often does not receive the entire necessary range of emotions just because her husband is only physically present nearby. Some time passes, and the spouse begins to view her significant other as nothing more than a burden burdening her life. Why do women cheat? Psychology explains this fact by the lack of emotional mental connections. Ladies in such cases begin to feel abandoned.

A woman's infidelity to her husband can be a consequence of the transition of family relationships into a mode of habit and calm. The passion goes away. It is replaced by friendly, warm relationships. In this case, the husband and wife become like brother and sister over the years. In their emotional connections, nothing goes beyond the usual and ordinary. Sexual relationships also become insipid and lose their passion. This can last for quite a long time. A woman often gets tired of such family life. She feels unwanted and lonely. As a result, a moment comes when she begins to look for a man who can bring novelty and interest into her life, beautiful dates and courtship, and generally something new.

In most cases, female infidelity caused by emotional emptiness can be said to be a completely unintentional act. After all, this happens when the lady is in a vulnerable state, and at this time another man begins to pay attention to her. Of course, it is not worth completely absolving the woman of blame for what happened. However, your spouse should also pay attention to your behavior.

How to recognize your wife's cheating behavior?

You can understand that your spouse is unfaithful by changing behavior. Often a woman, having started a romantic relationship “on the side,” quickly loses interest in what is happening in her own family, from household chores and hobbies to sex with her husband.

All the lady’s thoughts are occupied with the new man. They are distracted by the need to cook food, keep the house in order, and take care of the children. All this begins to noticeably irritate, the woman tries to avoid doing her usual household chores, avoiding the company of household members, preferring to be alone with her phone or tablet.

To conduct love correspondence, the wife can retire to her phone or laptop

However, some married ladies, subconsciously trying to make amends and hide the fact of betrayal, begin to behave unnaturally friendly and caring. This is the second common extreme of behavior among women who have broken their promise to be faithful spouses.

IMPORTANT: Any obvious change in the wife’s behavior may be the “first bell.” But this does not mean that betrayal has already happened. Perhaps, tired of everyday life and an uninteresting husband, the woman just decided to add bright colors to her own life.

Lack of sex

What are the reasons for female infidelity in marriage? Psychologists say that sex, which is on the same level as emotions, is seen as the central link in relations between the sexes. Its lack becomes one of the main reasons for female infidelity. Its psychology lies in the biological factor.

When making love, the body produces the hormone oxytocin. It helps to maintain a person’s intentions to maintain a harmonious relationship with his partner.

The main five reasons for female infidelity 2

If we do not take into account the general reason - the cooling of relationships and many years of meetings that do not bring pleasure to either partner, then the reasons for female infidelity can be different. Most often there are 5 reasons, the first of which is complete indifference on the part of the partner. When a man realizes that the girl next to him is conquered and will not go anywhere, he relaxes greatly and stops paying her even the slightest attention. The once beloved and dearest girl turns into a roommate and housekeeper, fulfilling all requests and assignments.

Girls can tolerate this attitude towards themselves for a very long time, but as soon as someone more attentive and caring appears on the horizon, they immediately think about whether it’s time to change their nest.

The second reason for cheating is no less common - it is a serious resentment towards your boyfriend. When a partner deliberately humiliates his lady, quarrels and scandals arise, some men even allow themselves to be assaulted. Women endure these humiliations for a long time, but in the end they find another man, a protector.

Sexual dissatisfaction is also a common reason and should not be ignored. There is an opinion in society that only men need sex, but this is not true. A girl who stops feeling desirable and sexy may withdraw into herself, or may begin to look for attention on the outside. If the husband has to “beg” for the desired intimacy, then the ladies first look for a suitable partner, and then even file for divorce.

A more rare, but still probable reason is disappointment in a person. A girl begins a relationship with a purposeful, interesting man who looks at her with sparkling eyes and promises mountains of gold. If promises remain promises, and in real life you have to survive on bread and butter, then any woman will soon think about leaving a hopeless man. This is primarily a protective natural mechanism - it is important for a girl to know that if she becomes a mother, her husband will be able to protect and provide for her. If there is no such feeling, then the girl will probably look for a relationship on the side.

The fifth and very unobvious reason is early marriage. Not wanting to be worse than their friends, some ladies rush to get married, and after being married, they are very disappointed.

Revenge

Why did a woman cheat on her husband? This sometimes happens as a response to the betrayal of a spouse. Thus, the lady tries to teach a kind of lesson to her significant other.

Getting acquainted with the psychology of female infidelity, we can conclude that sometimes such a measure is not at all a reaction to the infidelity of the husband. It acts as a manifesto of the resentment that has arisen, which flares up, for example, during a serious quarrel. That is why it is important for a woman not to accumulate anger in her soul. And if she has resentment inside, then she should get rid of this feeling immediately. But this is only possible if there is love. Anyone who does not feel comfort and emotional freedom in a relationship will definitely harbor anger in his soul.

Physiology

There are not enough indirect signs to accuse a wife of cheating. Therefore, you need to pay attention to physiological signs. So, how can you tell by looking at your body whether there has been cheating?

The girl was once again late at work. When your wife comes home, look at her appearance: disheveled hair, tights with arrows, rumpled clothes, swollen lips - signs of infidelity.
It's worth looking at the face. Women experience irritation after touching male stubble. If there were kisses with another man, then it will be noticeable.
When in close contact with her lover, a woman absorbs his scents. Men's eau de toilette, body odor, if they are strangers, are noticeable. If there was sex, then the woman has a specific smell: this is the smell of lubricant and sperm. But even if the wife doesn’t smell like anything, as if she just got out of the shower, it’s strange. How to check without giving away unusual interest? Meet your wife at the door, hug, kiss, inhale the aroma of skin, hair, body.
If your wife comes home and takes a shower, offer your help: rub her back. After sex, there will be redness and bites on the body, especially in the chest, thighs, and arms.

Lack of common interests

Why do women cheat on men? The reasons for this may be the different interests of the spouses. And if a man begins to spend all his free time with friends, and a woman begins to pay attention to her friends, and not to her beloved, then in this case we can say that each of them lives in his own world.

A woman who does not have the desire and opportunity to share her hobbies and interests with her husband will begin to look for someone else to do this. And it is likely that she will soon conclude that she has more in common with her work colleague than with her husband.

How to spot your wife's infidelity: first signs and calls

When conflict situations often arise in family relationships, the husband often begins to be jealous and then suspect his wife of betrayal. But living with guesses and constant worries is very difficult. Are there ways to find out whether suspicions are valid, and how to determine whether a wife is cheating? Let's talk about everything in more detail.

Marital betrayal is a difficult and unpleasant topic. And it doesn’t matter who cheated - husband or wife. The injured partner cannot continue to live in guesswork and doubt. It’s better to find out everything and then make any decision.

If the husband begins to suspect his wife, then it is no longer possible to stop. It is difficult to break off a relationship without justification, so you need to be confident in your suspicions. There are common, basic signs of a woman’s betrayal.

It’s worth observing your wife for a while and then drawing conclusions. It may happen that suspicions are caused by the spouse’s excessive jealousy, and this can ruin the relationship and destroy the family. Therefore, be very careful. We will try to tell you what signs of a wife’s betrayal exist and how to correctly decipher them.

There are the first signs of a woman’s betrayal, judging by which you should already be wary. And one of them is a dramatic improvement in appearance.

Most often, it turns out that a woman, having been married for several years, does not take such careful care of herself. At least in the presence of her husband, while at home. But basically, this does not happen because the woman stopped loving her husband - she just relaxed a little. The first signs of a wife’s infidelity include the following changes in appearance:

the wife began to constantly preen herself;
devotes too much time to her appearance, which was not noticed before;
often approaches the mirror with a mysterious smile.

It is possible that such behavior does not indicate betrayal. Especially if the spouse has always attached great importance to appearance. But it’s worth thinking about, especially if your girlfriend preens before going for a walk with her friend, but without you.

You can determine that your wife is cheating in this way:

the spouse reports that she has a new friend;
she often goes with her friend to some company or shopping, but does not invite you;
often spends time in the company of old girlfriends, perhaps even classmates;
after walks she comes in too joyful and excited;
often stays overnight with a friend.

In this scenario, pay special attention to your wife’s behavior and mood after she came home. Cheating is most likely present if a woman’s mood drops sharply when she sees you. Although, the opposite behavior also happens. Coming home, the wife becomes unusually affectionate.

As for sex, the wife’s behavior in bed after cheating also becomes different. Any man will feel cooling in bed almost immediately. It’s possible that it’s just a bad mood or feeling, but pay attention to the behavior of the cheating wife in bed:

she goes to bed much earlier and tries to sleep, or pretends to be asleep;
if you used to take a shower together before bed, now you do it separately;
goes to bed in the evening much later, waiting until you fall asleep;
during the now rare sex, irritably pushes your hands away. And before she liked everything;
in bed she does things that you haven’t noticed before.

Any touch you touch causes hostility in your wife, which is difficult for her to hide. Such signs of a woman’s betrayal are very unpleasant, but they speak volumes.

Every person has flaws. Some people find them cute, but others respond to them with discontent and aggression. But when two people decide to start a family, it means that they are ready to accept each other as they are. In the process of living together, people get used to it, and do not notice shortcomings or try to turn a blind eye to them.

You can recognize a woman who is cheating on her husband by her dissatisfied, aggressive reaction to her husband’s behavior. It is worth paying attention to the following details:

if before your shortcomings touched your spouse, now they only irritate you;
at meetings with mutual friends, your partner tries to make you look unsightly, or make you laugh.

This female behavior suggests that the girl has ceased to respect her man and has completely lost interest in him. These are all signs that the wife is cheating.

Phone conversations and text messages on social networks and more

Signs of a wife’s betrayal of her husband can be found in telephone communication, or rather in a changed manner of communication:

The battery in the phone began to constantly run out, so my wife was unavailable;
stopped calling back as before when coming home or to work;
even if the phone is in the access zone, it often does not pick up the phone and then calls back;
when a call comes in, he goes into another room to talk;
often writes text notes and sends them with a mysterious look.

It is also worth paying attention to your spouse’s correspondence on social networks. No, you shouldn’t hack her accounts, but you can look at how she sends messages from the outside. If during the process of her correspondence you unexpectedly enter the room, then the wife instantly minimizes or closes the window with the dialogue. If before this time all her accounts were open to you, or you knew the passwords, then now the door is closed to you. This also applies to signs of a wife's betrayal.

One of the undeniable signs of a spouse’s betrayal is frequent, enthusiastic stories about another man. It could be:

neighbour;
colleague;
friend's brother or husband;
classmate or classmate;
business partner.

Moreover, note that your wife often speaks about a man who is stranger to you, but at the same time with justificatory intonations in her voice. She simultaneously praises him and at the same time seems to apologize to you. Praising is basically about extolling the wonderful qualities that that person has that you don't have. These are both signs that a wife is cheating on her husband and signs of her internal recognition to herself that she is to blame for you.

If the spouse works and always came home without being late, then there are the following obvious signs of her betrayal:

constant delays at work;
unexpected calls to work on weekends and holidays;
does not allow him to meet her in the evenings from work;
no longer invites you to corporate events.

At first, such behavior may not be given any significance. But, if such tardiness and delays do not stop, then this is one of the options for how to determine a woman’s infidelity.

If earlier you and your wife tried to spend more time together, now her behavior has become absolutely indifferent and manifests itself as follows:

stopped wondering why you are late at work;
she doesn’t care how, where and with whom you spend your weekends;
it doesn’t matter that we haven’t had sex for a long time.

With the help of such signs, it is not at all difficult to determine the betrayal of your wife.

The physiological signs of a wife’s infidelity include the following:

a constant, thoughtful, dreamy expression on the face. A smile often wanders on her lips, as if she is remembering pleasant moments;
cannot concentrate on any problem, or does not hear when you address it;
constant refusals of sex, and with poor reasoning;
possible sexually transmitted diseases. But such a sign already speaks of one hundred percent betrayal.

You can also notice signs of betrayal on a woman’s body, especially if you haven’t had intimacy for a long time. These could be bruises on the thighs or arms, bitten lips, or hickeys. Also, if suspicions arise, you should carefully examine your wife’s appearance after she comes home. Hair can be carelessly styled, a frequent blush on the cheeks, a wandering smile - all these are signs of betrayal. And if family relationships have been going on for a long time, then identifying your spouse will become even easier. For example, you can detect signs of infidelity from a 40-year-old wife by a suddenly changed appearance. At this age, a woman in love can blossom and become younger.

A woman's behavior usually changes dramatically after her betrayal. A man feels this at the subconscious level, and sometimes intuition really tells the truth. Try to find it on the Internet and take the test.

Although you shouldn’t trust this method one hundred percent, you can try to take the test and find out about your wife’s infidelity by answering the following questions:

how often the spouse began to stay late from work;
whether her habits have changed;
if you go on a business trip or trip, what is your spouse’s reaction;
how the spouse behaves at general parties, how much attention she pays to other men;
does he hide his phone?
whether he wants to go on vacation separately;
Do you feel supported by your spouse as before?

It is possible that you won’t be able to accurately determine whether your wife is cheating on you using a test, but everything will depend on your answers to the questions. If your answers to at least half of the questions turn out to be positive, then it’s really worth thinking about.

If you ask your spouse directly, you are unlikely to get an intelligible and honest answer. Women rarely admit to their sins. It is possible that the infatuation with another man will pass, and your wife will want to stay with you. Now you are armed and know how to recognize the signs of your wife’s infidelity. What to do if your fears are confirmed, of course, is up to you to decide on your own. In any case, do not draw too quick conclusions, take a closer look, so as not to regret later a quick decision dictated by jealousy, resentment and revenge.

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Boredom

Sometimes it is surprising why a woman cheated on her husband, although outwardly relations in the family are quite normal. However, if a couple’s expectations of something intriguing and new do not come true, then this exciting feeling is replaced by boredom. That is why some women go to the limit of what is permitted. This, it seems to them, can “revive” the marriage. After all, secrecy and secrecy, risk and excitement create a whole fireworks of emotions against the backdrop of a surge of hormones. In such cases, a woman may sincerely believe that her infidelity affects her love for her spouse.

Lack of communication

Why does a woman cheat on her lover? The reason for this may be a lack of communication. In this situation, you should not count the time spent on telephone conversations. In the psychology of female infidelity, it is necessary to consider the lack of direct communication between partners when they are face to face. A man who is sensitive to his beloved should not watch TV in the evenings. It is also worth putting aside your laptop, phone and other gadgets. It will be better if the spouses discuss the past day and share their emotional state. Psychologists note that those wives who have never cheated on their husbands have the deepest connection and close contact with them.

Sexual incompatibility

Why does a woman cheat on her husband? Human psychology is such that unity in a couple cannot be built only on an emotional level. This will not allow you to achieve an idyll in a relationship. Sexual compatibility is also necessary, the absence of which can cause female infidelity.

This can happen after the wife is finally convinced that her husband does not want to do anything in order to somehow smooth out the differences between them in love preferences. Then the woman decides to satisfy her needs with another partner.

Psychologist's opinion on female infidelity

Why do women cheat? Experts believe that the reasons can be quite varied. If we do not take into account women who can easily go to the left, and for them sex is of sporting interest, then the reasons may be both obvious and not entirely clear. Most often, a man blames a girl for walking to the left, without even thinking about the fact that his guilt is also present.

If a guy is “lucky” to connect his life with a lady of easy virtue, then the general rules do not apply to such a case. In other situations, everything is very clear - a loving girl can decide to cheat only if she does not receive proper attention to herself for several years. Then, when some colleague gives flowers or a card and makes a compliment, the lady is ready to experience these sensations again, and goes to bed with him.

Life's ups and downs in a relationship can push even the most faithful girl, who has been faithful to her loved one for a very long time, to cheat. In fact, there is only one global reason - lack of attention.

Low self-esteem

Another reason for a wife’s infidelity may be her internal devastation caused by problems with her husband. In this case, representatives of the fairer sex will strive with all their might to increase their self-esteem. As a rule, incorrect actions of men contribute to its decline. For example, if a partner constantly humiliates or ignores his significant other, and also takes him for granted. In such cases, a woman’s self-esteem simply cannot remain at a high level. As a result, the lady will strive to have an affair on the side in order to satisfy the need to realize her worth.

Money

Financial difficulties in the family can also lead a woman to cheat. If there is a lack of money, she may well go in search of that person who will allow her to avoid the material problems that arise. However, this issue can be considered from a different angle. After all, most often those wives who earn good money cheat on their husbands. A woman's financial success increases her testosterone levels, and this activates the desire to have an affair just for one night for fun. At the same time, psychologists note that a woman’s high salary does not automatically lead to infidelity. Financial independence only strengthens an existing desire.

Possible reasons

There could be a lot of reasons:

Lack of interest. Beloved, having become a wife, ceased to excite. It’s not interesting, like before, what she does and says. The everydayness of the beloved's appearance dulls the senses. But if a woman does not see admiration in her husband’s eyes, then she can go looking for adventure on the side.
Sex, or rather the lack of it, is the main reason for cheating, both in men and women. Often, after five years of marriage, sexual attraction to each other becomes dull, but sexual instincts do not disappear. If there has been no sexual release for the last few weeks, and your woman is satisfied with this, then you should think about it.
Revenge. If a man has an affair, then you shouldn’t be surprised, but some wives will not throw a tantrum, scandal and break dishes, but will quietly and quietly follow their husband’s example. Women who have been married for a long time often do this. A high percentage are wives over 40 years old.
Control. Sometimes jealous people themselves push a woman to cheat. Total surveillance, claims and accusations of mythical treason push a woman to think that at least the accusations will be deserved.
Tell me who is your friend? If your wife’s friends take marriage and fidelity lightly and constantly broadcast it or talk about various passionate romances and fun adventures, then this is a call. Even if the wife is not cheating now, but encourages similar behavior from her friends, then perhaps this is normal for her. And it’s difficult to resist temptation, especially when your friends know how to exaggerate and embellish.

Emotional cheating

Should you worry if a woman’s infidelity is platonic? Of course, at first glance this communication is absolutely harmless. However, over time, it has a high probability of transforming into physical betrayal.

It is quite difficult to establish the line when habitual communication gives way to emotional deception. Nevertheless, such feelings can cause a lot of trouble. After all, their presence is explained by the dissatisfaction of emotional needs within the framework of existing relationships. This forces the spouse to look for a man who will admire her and allow her to feel her own value, significance, as well as external confirmation of sexuality.

Finding your “I”

Representatives of the fairer sex also cheat due to the fact that, due to the performance of various duties, they feel constantly busy, acting as a mother, wife, office worker, etc. In such cases, ladies begin to look at themselves from the point of view of their activities . However, at the same time there is some distance from the individual. This is the reason why a woman decides to cheat, which, under the current circumstances, is one of the ways to express herself, allowing her to awaken a sense of freedom.

Age

Feeling the inevitable process of aging, a woman begins to realize that she is losing a considerable number of qualities that allowed her to be desirable to the stronger sex in previous years. All this worries the lady so much that she embarks on the path of seeking confirmation of her own attractiveness. This can become the starting point that will lead to the emergence of an affair on the side. Connecting with another man makes a woman feel sexually desirable. However, it will only be at its peak for a short time. After this, her mental state will most likely experience an unpleasant setback.

Early marriage

Most girls strive to get married immediately after finishing school or in their first years at university. This is facilitated by the emergence of first love. However, after marriage, a young woman has to deal with a huge number of everyday problems. In addition, she begins to get to know her man much better, whose character sometimes does not correspond to initial expectations. Falling in love gives way to disappointment. And after a couple of years, the woman reproaches herself for agreeing to get married too early, and family life is just wasted time. After realizing this, many ladies decide to cheat and even file for divorce.

Signs of infidelity

Men often have unfounded thoughts about their wife’s betrayal. But sometimes situations arise when their partner’s behavior makes them think seriously.

Knowing the psychology of female infidelity, how to recognize deception? In the event that the lady’s affair was accidental, caused by a certain situation, nothing about it will change. But if infidelity leads to the development of a whirlwind romance, then this can be seen in various external manifestations.

Knowledge about female infidelity, its signs and causes will help preserve relationships by taking the necessary measures in time.

So, if previously a woman could ask her husband to read a message that came to her phone, because, for example, her hands were full, or sat quietly with the chat window open while her husband approached from behind, then in case of infidelity the situation is changing radically. Passwords are set on gadgets used for communication. When my husband is nearby, the screens of mobile devices immediately turn off. When he tries to pick up the phone and look at the information on it, a scandal immediately breaks out. All this indicates the presence of a secret. And it’s good if it concerns only a surprise preparing for the spouse’s anniversary.

Another sign of an affair is a change in the lady’s appearance for the better. After all, this is a signal that a woman wants to please. For example, she stops wearing jeans and buys expensive stockings, watches her figure by spending long hours in the gym, and always leaves the house with perfectly applied makeup. And if this is also accompanied by an alluring sparkle of joy in the eyes, then, most likely, this is done for the sake of someone.

A sign of betrayal can also be the appearance of new companies by the wife, in which she does not even intend to take her husband. But she regularly spends time with friends, often staying late at night or staying overnight with girlfriends. If all this is accompanied by cooling in intimate life or a complete withdrawal of the spouse from intimacy, then the matter here clearly lies not in constant fatigue or poor health.

Indirect signs of betrayal

Men can be inattentive to the external changes of their halves, but by changes one can determine the betrayal of his wife. There are about 15 points.

The first sign: the wife has her head in the clouds. A thoughtful, dreamy look, a wandering smile, moist eyes. Sometimes he laughs, sometimes he cries, without explaining the reasons for the surging emotions.
The woman began to carefully monitor her appearance. New hairstyle, always wearing makeup, signed up for a fitness center, beautiful underwear.
Previously, the wife would throw the phone in a visible place without thinking, but now she won’t let it out of her hands, social network passwords have been changed, secrets have appeared - a serious reason to think about it. Now she doesn’t chat with her friend on the phone in front of you, but retreats to the bathroom and answers phone conversations in monosyllables. Even worse, the wife decided to sometimes stay overnight with a friend or sister. At the right moment, neither your friend nor your wife can be reached by phone, and only after some time does the wife call back from her mobile phone.
My beloved began to stay at work more often, meet with friends outside the home, and social hobbies appeared, although previously my wife loved to spend time with her family. He reacts negatively to the offer to meet him from work.
Sexual behavior has changed. Having fallen in love with another man, a woman often tries to distance herself from marital obligations. There are a lot of reasons why sex will definitely happen tomorrow, but not now: the woman is tired, has a headache, is upset about something, etc. Sex itself is changing, a woman is not leading in bed as before.
Criticality and irritability appeared. The wife nags her husband over trifles, makes a bunch of complaints, does not thank him for the good, but notices the bad.
Indifference. A woman doesn’t care when a man returns home, his well-being, how things are going at work, she no longer cares whether a man pays attention to other women.
Admiration for others. A mysterious colleague, friend, friend’s husband appears in the conversation, who turns out to be smart, olfactory, and hardworking. At the same time, the wife clarifies every time that she has only friendly, friendly relations with this man and she is not attracted to him as a man. This does not mean that the wife is already cheating, but you should still be wary.

Consequences

For whatever reasons a woman cheats on her husband, the result of her actions is always sad. First of all, this concerns the exorbitant burden of guilt. But it will most likely fall on women’s shoulders. And even if the spouse never finds out about the betrayal, the lady will have to endure the fear of revealing the secret and remorse for what she has done. In some cases, it comes to nervous breakdowns, which require the help of a psychologist.

A sad consequence of female infidelity can be the collapse of the family, because men are very categorical about such actions.

The consequences of betrayal can be happier. This happens when developing new relationships and starting a family.

How to recognize your wife's infidelity by looking at your underpants?

Those who are looking for a way to recognize their wife’s infidelity by looking at their underpants will be quite surprised. This sign is not any marks left on the underwear during sex, but the underwear itself.

If buying a new set at least once a week has recently become a pattern, most likely the woman quite often enters into sexual contact with someone she wants to impress. If this lucky man is not a husband, then any other signs of betrayal become secondary.

A wife can buy sexy underwear before another betrayal

Those men who are looking for a way to bring their wife out into the open actually need to start from a completely different side, namely from themselves. While the missus is once again “late at work,” it’s worth thinking about why everything happened this way.

Perhaps the woman’s infidelity was preceded by her requests to be heard, loved and desired? After all, it is often husbands who push women into the arms of strange men.

In many cases, female infidelity occurs at the moment when the husband turns away in difficult times, instead of lending a shoulder. A woman needs male attention, and if she doesn’t get it in the family, she will definitely get it on the side.

Female infidelity is not always a reason to destroy a family

Perhaps now is the time to “gather stones”? And if this is really the case, the right thing to do would be not to look for signs of his wife’s infidelity, but to have a frank conversation with his wife, which may still be able to save the family.

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