We deal with the authorities and put them in their place!

When we get a job, we do not choose our bosses. Managers are different, it is important to be able to build competent relationships with different types of managers. Great difficulties arise when your immediate boss is a tyrant. In such a situation, you will need to make every effort to develop a constructive relationship with him.

Career

This is the fifth or sixth time you’ve heard your boss say, “We need to think about it!” - in response to your persistent question, when will the promises made to you several years ago when applying for a job finally begin to be fulfilled? For example, about “regular salary increases” or “rapid career growth”... How do you see a way out of the situation?

1. Do you think it’s time for you to think about looking for another job!
2. You don’t see any better way than to continue to “wait, hope, believe.”
3. You give yourself three days to prepare a reasoned report on your work achievements for your boss and get ready for a serious conversation with him.

The correct answer is 3.

A reasonable approach would be not to wait for favors from your superiors, but to seek them. But the main thing here is not to forget: it is necessary to achieve not at any cost and not by any means!

If you are primarily interested in career advancement, make sure that your report clearly presents the volume and quality of your work, indicating the invaluable benefit that you bring to the enterprise today and that you could bring tomorrow - in a higher position, with greater authority and , naturally, with a greater measure of responsibility, which, of course, not only does not frighten you, but also sets you up for maximum impact in your work.

If you are interested in a salary increase, first inquire about the salary level of workers in your category at other enterprises and find out whether the salaries of other employees at yours are being increased. Only with this information will you be able to discuss the situation constructively with your boss. Have a positive attitude: even if you are rejected, you can return to this issue after some time.

How to silently “put your boss in his place”: nonverbal techniques for female subordinates

It is no secret that a male leader can sometimes behave impolitely towards a female subordinate, for example, make a bad joke about her or start flirting. If the boss is an adequate person, then, noticing the employee’s dissatisfaction, he will try not to do this again. But what if the boss’s behavior goes further and further beyond the boundaries of decency, and it becomes obvious that he is not going to stop it voluntarily? For example, using his position, a manager can:

• raise your voice or swear
• humiliate and ridicule you or your suggestions
• act in a familiar manner (for example, talking vulgarly or talking about your personal life)
• flirt or pester

How to correctly stop the boss without entering into conflict with him?

To be honest, in this situation the subordinate does not have much choice. Let's leave aside completely unrealistic options like filing a lawsuit for discrimination - any sane person understands that a woman's chances of winning in court and paying moral compensation on such charges are vanishingly small.

Directly and unambiguously expressing your dissatisfaction with the actions of your boss is not easy: how often do you meet managers who are able to calmly accept criticism from their subordinates? Rather, this can lead to a serious conflict and ruin your relationship with your boss, which means it will undermine your chances of career growth.

But you also cannot tolerate the leader’s behavior: without meeting worthy resistance, he will lose all respect for you and will not take you seriously. And an employee who is not taken seriously usually is not promoted.

What should you do to limit or at least make it difficult for such behavior towards you? If you can’t “besiege” your boss directly (or you don’t dare to do so), but it’s no longer possible to tolerate his antics?

Use indirect techniques that, although they do not require words, clearly convey to the boss’s subconscious the idea that it is time for him to stop:

• Stop smiling at him. At all. Most women instinctively smile at important interlocutors in order to more easily reach understanding or arouse sympathy with them. A smile becomes so familiar that we don’t even think about how a man perceives it. And the man sees in her a sign of encouragement and approval of his actions. Therefore, if the boss is rude, and you smile embarrassedly in response, then you are sending him the wrong signal - he thinks that everything suits you.

Of course, this does not mean that you should talk with a gloomy or angry face - keep a neutral expression on it, but without a smile. Then the boss’s male subconscious “counts” your dissatisfaction, and this will help limit his unacceptable behavior.

• Look at him only with a “business” look. A “business” look is a look strictly at the level of the eyes and nose. Do not point it lower (on the lips and neck) or higher (on the forehead). This look greatly formalizes the contact and increases the psychological distance between you and your boss, making it difficult for him to get personal. It is also useful for “preventing” flirting and harassment, since it effectively “cools” the interlocutor.

• Don't lower your head or nod when your boss tells you something. Frequent nodding and looking up are signals of support and submission, which in the case of your boss will work against you. Perhaps these gestures are as familiar to you as a constant smile. Make an effort on yourself - stop nodding often, assenting (“yes, yes, I understand”) and looking up at him. Instead, express your agreement only when the boss finishes a line by slowly nodding once.

• Change the way you dress. Switch to a more formal business style to increase your status in the eyes of your boss and cool his ardor. It will be much more difficult for a manager to pester an employee if she wears a “business best” suit rather than “casual” clothes - these are the laws of psychology. Use them to your advantage - start dressing more formally and formally, and your boss will quickly feel the difference.

• Ignore jokes and insults. By showing rudeness or familiarity, the boss hopes to make an impression on you (as a rule, it is not at all the impression he actually makes, but, alas, he has no idea about this). You can overcome these ridiculous attempts if you do not give him the reaction he expects. To do this, “isolate” his familiar remarks by surrounding them with silence. Don't answer them; instead, move on to discussing other (business) issues.

Otherwise, treat your boss the same way you always did: be polite and do your job well. And these “silent” techniques will help you, without conflict, limit those actions of your boss that are completely inappropriate at work.

Creative

You know how to think outside the box and almost immediately grasp the essence of any problem. But for some reason your boss always passes off your innovative ideas, which bring good income to the company, as his own. After another plagiarism you:

1. You become convinced that your new ideas should be voiced for the first time not in the boss’s office, but “in front of witnesses” - for example, at a team meeting.
2. You immediately go into a “conversation” with your boss and venomously politely inquire whether you will ever receive a mention of your authorship.
3. You wait for the right moment in a conversation with your boss’s boss to “inadvertently” drop a remark about the true author of the idea.

The correct answer is 1.

Blaming your boss on your superiors is not the wisest decision: plagiarism may stop, but confrontation will begin. Most likely, a “poisonously polite” conversation will end the same way. It’s better for you to pay attention to this: in any negative you can always find something positive. And above all: if your boss constantly takes credit for your ideas, it means they are worthy, original and constructive, and you are a valuable employee. Therefore, try to bring your ideas to the world (that is, to the boss) in the presence of colleagues or superiors. Even if the ideas turn out to be unsuccessful and don’t “take off”, it’s okay - the world is dying!

How to recognize a tyrant?

If you want to find out what a person really is, give him power.

Each person perceives their climb up the career ladder differently. One still remains friendly to the people around him, while the other allows himself humiliation and caustic remarks. Having taken the position of a leader, a person often becomes arrogant, basking in the power he receives and the dependence of other people on his decisions.

Such bosses do not pay attention to the achievements of their subordinates. They never approve of actions or praise for work done conscientiously. Moreover, tyrants and tyrants are confident that only they work in the company, while others “wipe their pants” and receive unreasonably high salaries.

The tyrant boss is unable to clearly set the task, and clarifying questions regarding the matter drive him crazy. They are often given physically impossible deadlines. Such people often work until late in the evening. They may bombard you with emails and calls on your legitimate days off because they believe you are obligated to respond to his “important urgent tasks” at any time of the day or night.

A tyrant manager may find fault with the fact that your tie is the wrong color or your skirt is too long. For every mistake, emergency, or banal lateness, such bosses reprimand their subordinates in a boorish manner.

A tyrant leader loves to play in public and will not hesitate to insult a subordinate who has made a mistake in front of other employees. In this way, the tyrant emphasizes his own importance and status, and showing his superiority over those around him is like a breath of fresh air.

Tyrants undermine people's self-confidence. They are capable of developing an inferiority complex, humiliating a person as an individual. Often they cannot be corrected. At first glance, someone might say that this person is simply loyal to the company. Don't believe it. In reality, he is a tyrant and tyrant.

Pride and Prejudice

The boss has made you an offer... to work overtime for two or three weeks. And he transparently hinted that refusal would not suit him. Self-love requires you to “hint” to your boss with your head held high that, in addition to work, people also have a home, a family, and, finally, a desire to relax. At the same time, you are afraid that your boss might have a prejudice that you are somehow not very concerned about the success of the company that gives you the job. And then you:

1. You curse the boss with his offer, which you couldn’t refuse, and look for every opportunity to complete the mission entrusted to you.
2. You write a memo explaining why you can’t work overtime.
3. You find out all the details of your overtime assignment, think over the schedule that is most convenient for you to complete it, and go to coordinate it with your boss.

The correct answer is 3.

The most reasonable thing in this case is to calmly talk to your boss: explain your situation - without making too much of a fuss! - and, emphasizing that the firm's interests are very important to you, clarify your task and ask permission to schedule it on your own in additional time.

"Guilty without guilt..."

One of the employees in your department (but not you) made a mistake in their work. The boss, without understanding it, in a raised voice, for some reason scolds you. You:

1. Mentally say: “It’s not my fault!” and, secluded in a secluded corner, try to calm down and not care about what happened.
2. Mentally say: “Well, for justice!” - and, after waiting for some time, you resolutely head to the boss’s office to establish the truth.
3. Mentally say: “I didn’t start this!” - and out loud, drawing more air into your chest and increasing the “playback volume,” you answer the boss in kind.

The correct answer is 2.

The answer “in the same way” and “just as loudly” will indicate your lack of restraint and inability to control your emotions. And from the outside it is very ugly. Experiences “in the corner” are characteristic, perhaps, of a teenage girl, but not of an adult woman. Therefore, the most correct thing to do would be to do the following: wait until the “volcano” subsides and calmly offer to solve the problem not “with a single cry,” but in a businesslike manner, respecting the interlocutor (no matter whether he is a subordinate or not). Try to be confident, but not defiant. It will most likely be appreciated.

“...Give free rein to words?..”

It is not so rare in our lives when you experience inexplicable antipathy towards someone - for example, towards your immediate boss. Everything about him (her) irritates him: speech, clothing, behavior, etc. At the same time, you would not want to advertise your feelings to the “opponent” who is causing you a persistent state of stress. How will you “tame” yourself?

1. You read somewhere that in such cases you need to try to find worthy qualities in a person and focus your attention on them.
2. No way: you can’t change yourself. It’s better to scour job advertisements and from time to time “completely by accident” give your boss information about a great job elsewhere.
3. You will look for an opportunity to get rid of the neighborhood: for example, change your office or department.

The correct answer is 1.

First, keep in mind that antipathy, even carefully hidden, most often causes an adequate response. Therefore, the current situation must be “resolved” and in no case escalated. And this matter should not be postponed, waiting for weather by the sea and good vacancies for the boss on the side. Try to get to know your boss better, find out the interests and hobbies of this person - perhaps you will learn something about him or his life that will fundamentally change your attitude towards him and set you up for a positive perception of both him and his management.

Options for dealing with a tyrant boss

After analyzing the characteristics of tyrants and the rules for building relationships with a leader, you can combine these topics to develop options for building relationships with a tyrant boss.

When working with an unauthorized and eccentric boss, an employee can choose one of three lines of behavior:

1. Get rid of the problem by quitting and moving to a new job. This option is relevant for in-demand, talented and highly qualified professionals. Professionals can easily find work without losing quality. But what should people do in a situation where getting another job is problematic? As part of this line of behavior, you can try to move to another department or division, ask to report to another boss.
2. Come to terms with it. A relevant choice in a situation where there are no other employment options. You need to be patient and keep working. To ease the situation, you should: calmly perceive everything that is happening, constantly carry out emotional and psychological relief.
3. Confront and fight by legal means. Develop constructive behavioral tactics to solve the problem.