A man's greed towards a woman

Is the man greedy or practical?

First you need to understand what is considered greed and what is considered saving. After all, there are different types of men.

Successful and truly rich men, in principle, from a female point of view, are greedy. The truth has long been known that the more money a person has, the greedier he is.

And if a man started his own business not so long ago, he has not yet had time to get enough of money. He sees many prospects for the development of his business, requiring financial investments, and therefore prefers to invest all his money in work and only a little in all other areas of life.

In this case, we cannot yet talk about greed: maybe it is just practicality and the understanding that money must first be invested in something that will later bring income.

Again, think about whether you need to endure all these hardships, not knowing whether you will be able to enjoy dividends in the future - suddenly the man will have another woman. Here we are not talking about your husband, but about the men who come into your life. If your partner does not propose to you and says: “Be patient, dear,” then you need to understand that in this case there is a certain amount of risk. And here only your heart will tell you the right path.

There are men who will deliberately lead you by the nose, not intending to marry and not wanting to spend money on you now. And there are those who want to develop their business and only then offer you something, in which case your expectations and modesty will return to you a hundredfold... although they may not return. Therefore, you must honestly answer the question: are you ready for losses if your investments - youth, time, health - never pay off?

You may also meet other men who have already established themselves, but who do not want to invest in you. It's worth thinking about why? Or such a man, in principle, does not want to spend money on you, because he is not confident or deeply disappointed in women, or he has some kind of economical position in life. How does he prefer to spend and invest money?

Does he not want to invest and spend money AT ALL, or is this happening because his partner is not confident in your sincerity and love?

And you? Are you really dating him without thinking about money? Do you have self-interest? Are his suspicions and fears justified?

In this situation you should be careful. Greedy men very often tell women heartbreaking stories about how they were robbed by their ex, how they did a lot for her, and in the end she left her with nothing.

Girls, of course, there are notorious bitches among women. But... If this is not a swindler, but a partner who lived with him for several years and fell into a love trap, then think about why she has so much anger at this man? Perhaps she was greatly offended and believed that everything rightfully belonged to her. She may have wanted to compensate for some gap and wound after her relationship with him. Women do this to men only if they are very offended by them. There are, of course, other cases, but if a woman is a notorious bitch, then how did she get to your little angel?

Do not rush to feel sorry for a man and, out of a desire not to be like your former passion, prove to him by all means that you do not need money.

If a middle-income man “came” to see you, then look for yourself. If he can’t take you to an expensive restaurant, but he has no problem buying a bucket of ice cream and your favorite fruit, then this does not mean greed. His budget is just limited.

What matters in a man is not how much he pays, but that the amount of money he spends on you is meaningful to him.

For some, 200 rubles is money, but for others, even 20,000 will not cause significant damage to their financial situation. Therefore, you, as a wise woman, do not rush to draw conclusions, but watch your chosen one a little, and then you will be able to understand whether he is a greedy man or not.

Greedy man: How men's greed destroys a woman

Greedy man: How men's greed destroys a woman. If a man is greedy, he is greedy in everything - in money, words, care, love, attention. Nowadays, many women complain that men are greedy. What is male greed? Does it always depend on a woman whether a man is stingy or not? Is it possible to turn a greedy person into a generous person? Does a man's greed depend on the degree of love for you? Let's try to understand these issues.

First you need to understand what is considered greed and what is considered saving. After all, there are different types of men. Successful and truly rich men, in principle, from a female point of view, are greedy. The truth has long been known that the more money a person has, the greedier he is.

In this case, we cannot yet talk about greed: maybe it is just practicality and the understanding that money must first be invested in something that will later bring income.

There are men who will deliberately lead you by the nose, not intending to marry and not wanting to spend money on you now.

And there are those who want to develop their business and only then offer you something, in which case your expectations and modesty will return to you a hundredfold... although they may not return. Therefore, you must honestly answer the question: are you ready for losses if your investments - youth, time, health - never pay off?

You may also meet other men who have already established themselves, but who do not want to invest in you.

It's worth thinking about why? Or such a man, in principle, does not want to spend money on you, because he is not confident or deeply disappointed in women, or he has some kind of economical position in life. How does he prefer to spend and invest money?

Money energy is masculine energy

You also need to understand that money is energy, and masculine . In fact, it is not a man, but male energy that is purposeful, aimed at results and achievements, which is expressed in the form of money.

Why did I emphasize the point that it is not a man who strives for a goal, but his energy? Because very often women do not understand that a man does not always have masculine energy, and this needs to be known and taken into account .

All women have a desire for their partner to be successful and have a lot of money. And if this is not so, then it seems like he is not a real man... And the woman begins to feel unhappy.

Although, if such a weak man came into your life, then according to the laws of nature, you most likely have more developed masculine energy, and if you do not realize it, then this also makes you unhappy . And it turns out that you suffer twice and are twice unhappy. You don’t feel like a woman next to the average man and you don’t realize your natural potential.

A man with feminine energy will not be able to kill a mammoth in the forest for you. He will shoot a rabbit and cook it for you himself. With such a partner, you will have to learn to save money, or, having spent everything at once, you will then suck your paw.

But how many other positive aspects do such men have?

They are truly caring, love children, and enjoy spending time with their family.
They understand the world of your feelings and experiences.
You can talk to them like you would a friend, about everything and nothing.
They are always ready to listen to you and for them family is a priority in their life values.
Maybe, of course, they are sometimes overwhelmed by emotions and feelings, but mostly they are open-hearted and very warm. It's cozy with them.

It is difficult to call such a man greedy, just because he has no money. But he is generous with his soul and does not skimp in terms of care and emotions. Yes, he won’t be able to invite you to the Bahamas, but he will renovate your room or make something with his own hands.

Greed is a quality that extends beyond finances. If a person is greedy, he is greedy in everything - in money, words, care, love, attention.

There are many men in whom feminine energies predominate and who, by definition, cannot be strong in this world. But because of prevailing stereotypes, all women want successful partners.

Yes, the successful ones will be able to provide you with the comfort you deserve. You will not save or count pennies, but you must understand that such a man will not have time for you, or he will be emotionally closed. You will miss love and warmth, you will begin to yearn for simple human, warm and sincere communication.

A woman is designed in such a way that she will always find a reason to be sad about what she does not have. And happy are those who accept a man for who he is. And they rejoice in what he gives.

How to behave with a greedy man - advice from a psychologist

Modern men save money on women, justifying their stinginess with frugality and rationalism.
Male generosity is one of the main qualities that women would like to see in their ideal chosen one. Let the man be less handsome, not so smart and not too gallant, but he must certainly be generous. But modern men save on women, justifying their stinginess with frugality and rationalism.

Psychologists say that there are no greedy men. There are women who have poorly studied male nature and simply do not know that certain behavioral tactics can turn even a pathological miser into the most generous of men, writes allwomens.ru.

A man's failure as a woman's complex

Nowadays, many women develop an inferiority complex due to the fact that their husband/partner is unsuccessful, or they meet only men of this type in their life. Almost all women's trainings say that factors such as a man's success and the amount of money he has depend on the woman.

And the woman attends various courses, persistently carries out ceremonies and rituals - with the sole purpose of making her man successful. And if this does not work out, she takes full responsibility for the failure upon herself. At the same time, she does not understand at all that yes, a woman is responsible for a man, but... provided that he has potential and he himself wants to be successful. And if a man doesn’t have such a desire, then at least do something, he won’t be rich.

When you plant an apple tree, you know exactly what kind of apples this tree will bear. However, living or dating a certain man, for some reason you hope to get a harvest of oranges from the apple tree in the fall. And if there are no oranges, then you blame yourself: “That means I’m like that, some kind of sub-woman.” And your man, despite all your efforts, is not getting rich.

This does not mean that he is not a man. But he just can give you OTHER things... And if you look inside yourself, you will probably find that money will come to you much faster.

You may say: “Why then do we need a man? I won't be able to respect him." But this is your problem.

Remember the movie “Moscow Doesn’t Believe in Tears”? The main character, the director of the factory, met Gosha, who was lower in status than her and earned less, but this did not detract from his masculine qualities in her eyes. She could be a woman at home and a leader at work.

And if you are higher than a man in social status, then this should not become a reason for disrespect for him. You compare successes and achievements when it comes to love.

Although, of course, there are many excesses, for example, when a woman plows for days, and a man has fun on the couch, openly taking advantage of the lady’s love. Such manifestations must be recognized immediately and stopped in time.

The sick greed of a man

You must understand that if by nature a man has more feminine energy, then you should not expect great success from him in society.

However, there are often men who in a perverse way combine both half-man and half-woman. Such partners will not be able to give you either the warmth of feminine energy or male security in material terms, although at the same time they behave like a “model man”, demanding respect and veneration. Run away from these types, and as quickly as possible. Understand that no woman can solve the deep-seated problems of a man, which initially prevent him from realizing himself in any aspect.

This is not a disadvantage or a reason for humiliation - such men need help, deep and serious psychotherapy in order to restore parts of themselves damaged in childhood. But you are not a psychotherapist, you are a woman.

If you don’t get anything from a man, then it means he either DOESN’T WANT to give you anything or CANNOT give you anything.

A man with severe psychological problems not only cannot give you anything, he does not want it. Such men are greedy by nature. And this male greed destroys a woman . Don’t try to understand and justify this, you won’t be able to become an accepting, unconditionally loving mother for a man, or heal the emptiness of his soul.

The wife cannot solve the problems that the husband had in childhood. The union of a man and a woman is not a union of mother and son, where one gives and the other receives. This is a reciprocal relationship where you both give and receive.

Answer yourself honestly the question: what do you get from a man?

Wife status?
Material support?
Feeling safe?
Support?
Love and warmth?
Care?
Feeling of a reliable rear? What?

If none of the above, then isn’t your man a pathological greedy person?

Well, you won’t be able to make him generous, no matter how hard you try; he will always only consume without giving anything in return.

You will not have complete unconditional acceptance of a man, it is very difficult: you cannot even love your children with only such love. In any case, you have your own desires and requirements. And there is no need to be ashamed or embarrassed about them.

Yes, sometimes a woman, with her claims and dissatisfaction, destroys all a man’s aspirations to do anything for her. In theory, a man always wants to be the best in the eyes of his woman, and I think this is the most important thing - not to kill this desire.

If a man feels that he is the best for you, he tries to be so, and this desire is his potential. Don't destroy it. And how it will be realized - in money, achievements, love for you, care or something else - it doesn’t matter. Learn to appreciate what you have.

If a man doesn’t even try to become the best for you, or you systematically killed his desire, then it will not be easy to restore everything and return it. Maybe it was not you, but his mother who tried hard and destroyed the desire to please a woman in her son; in this case, no matter what you do, you will not be able to rehabilitate this ability. If the mother did not demand anything at all from her son, surrounded him with love and care, without noticing that she was raising a real narcissist and egoist, then you will not be able to change his existing attitude towards life. So male greed is the lack of desire to please a woman and be the best in her eyes .

Greed is the inability to give, and not only money, but also love, care, warmth, attention, time...

If this ability was destroyed in childhood by a mother or, for example, a father who disrespected his son, made fun of him, laughed at his failures, then as a result the young man gave up forever, considering himself somehow unfinished. And no matter how hard you try, you are unlikely to be able to increase his self-esteem.

You must understand that you should not transfer responsibility for a man’s greed onto yourself, think that it means that you are not a woman, since such a man is next to you. It may not be about you at all.

If you know that a man earns money and saves it for his needs, like a hamster in its hole, then think about whether you are dealing with a real greedy person? Remember, such a partner destroys a woman on a subtle level, because you give, but do not receive anything in return.

I am writing all this about men with whom you have been in a relationship for quite some time.

If you have just started dating, then at first it is difficult to judge the qualities of your partner. Let the relationship develop and watch what happens.

Especially dangerous are men who do not invest money in business and at the same time constantly save on a woman and even on themselves. And they collect, collect... Money is energy, and it must be in motion, in flow, and if this does not happen, then you and such a partner will wither away, like stagnant water in a swamp. The more money a man gives, the more he receives, but this does not mean that you need to give every penny, but some of it must be spent. If for a business, then the money invested will pay off handsomely; if for a woman, then by pleasing her, the man sees a happy and satisfied partner, which means he will feel better about it.

Signs of a greedy man

Have you ever noticed that a man takes great pleasure in spending money, but only if he gets something out of it ? He can pay for dinner at an expensive restaurant, but only because he likes to go there. He can buy expensive wine because he loves it. He can even pay for your tour, but he will do it not for you, but for himself. And you will be like an additional application to his pleasure. It is important to understand these points: is a man spending money on himself or on you?
Greedy does not recognize and does not understand why give gifts if there is no reason for it , he will give flowers exclusively twice a year: on March 8 and on your birthday. He believes that spending on pleasure is useless, you need to invest money wisely.

When the conversation turns to spending or finances in general, he immediately begins to remember his past merits, how he used to have a lot of money, that there were different times, and how wastefully he handled money. That is, he will remember all the moments when he HAD them and when he spent them, but he will not mention what to do now to improve his financial situation.

Wherever you go, he will comment on the cost of this or that thing and complain about unreasonably high prices. In a restaurant, he will also mention in some form, even jokingly, the cost of the dishes.

He keeps track of all the discounts, knows where and what is cheaper. He will always buy things only on sales or promotions. Moreover, if he buys something cheaper, he will be immensely proud of himself and be in a good mood.

He is very reluctant to spend a lot of money. He always has a limit in his head, a ceiling on the amount for purchases, and with further spending his mood will deteriorate, he will begin to get nervous.

He loves to collect things; collecting is his passion and hobby.

Of course, you need to be able to distinguish when a man is truly greedy and when he is simply rational. If you need a car to conveniently get to work, and you want expensive jewelry, and a man makes a choice in favor of comfort, then this is not greed, but a manifestation of his care for you.

It is very difficult for a man with pronounced masculine energy to spend money on unnecessary things. He prefers to plan his budget and spend money wisely. But such a man can hardly be called greedy .

But if a partner, in principle, cannot spend money on pleasure, but only pays for useful things, then he is unlikely to give you the emotions and attention that you will most likely need greatly when you are next to him.

Greedy man: what to do?

Ask any woman what irritates her most about a man, and greed will be in the top three - somewhere between the habit of lying and beer on Fridays.

How disappointing it can be when people don’t give flowers even on March 8, because “they will wither anyway,” and they don’t take them to restaurants because “at home it’s cheaper and also delicious”! Those women who are “lucky enough” to connect their fate with a stingy knight know this firsthand.

With someone for whom everything that goes beyond the consumer basket is money down the drain. Here, my dear, one hundred kilograms of potatoes, two pairs of tights for a year, and spin as you please. This is an “attraction of unprecedented generosity.”

What's "under the hood"?

As a rule, a greedy person is a person who is panicky insecure about himself, about the future and about your feelings. At the beginning of your relationship, his stinginess may be explained by uncertainty - whether they are serious and whether it is worth “investing” in them. Another possible reason is a difficult childhood. A person who has once known poverty will always live in fear. In any case, the inability to give - yourself, your warmth, your care - indicates psychological complexes that a person often cannot cope with on his own. You can recognize a greedy person even before the wedding

It happens that before the wedding you had no idea about the scale of the disaster. You went to cafes and cinema, spent cozy evenings at home and exchanged cute trinkets for the New Year. At the same time, you tried not to pay attention to the fact that your chosen one never left a tip in a cafe, loved to talk about how hard it was for him to get money, and more and more often strived to have dinner at home (and at your place), praising your culinary skills, but not while offering to bring food. You hoped that he would do all this after the wedding. And now you are married. However, little has changed: you still don’t know how much he actually earns, but you know very well where to buy something cheaper. Your entire salary goes to buy food and pay for the apartment, and he puts money aside for a mythical rainy day, although it seems to you that this day has already come.

Selfishness and greed are often synonymous

In conversations, stingy people often talk about equality of the sexes and complain about the commercialism of women. You, proving your selflessness, invariably pay for yourself in a cafe and are not offended when you receive a bottle of wine as a birthday gift, which he then drinks. You repeat to yourself: “He’s not greedy, he’s home-loving,” while forgetting that love is, first of all, care and attention. And if you fry him cutlets, iron his shirts and listen to complaints about the tyrannical chef, then you also have the right to demand flowers, restaurants and a nice ring on the occasion of your wedding anniversary.

False shame

Greed, as a rule, extends not only to the material joys of life. He will also be stingy with emotions, compliments, words of support and warmth. And you don't have to put up with it at all. He should be ashamed that he, like Tsar Koschey, “wastes over gold” instead of giving joy to loved ones. Thrift is good, who can argue, but you need to clearly understand where reasonable frugality ends and unreasonable stinginess begins. Walking an extra five hundred meters to the next supermarket to buy cheaper products is one thing, but finding expired sausage in the refrigerator, cutting off the moldy sides and boiling it so that it is like new is already beyond good and evil.

Treat or re-educate?

Unfortunately, greed is not a cold, so it cannot be cured so easily. If his stinginess reaches cosmic proportions from the category of “why buy sandals for a child, he hasn’t worn out his skates yet,” then only a highly qualified psychologist can help. The problem is that such a specialist is not cheap, and your greedy person will definitely not fork out for it. Therefore, there is only one conclusion - it’s better to get out of here right away.

What to do?

An alarming signal is if you see that a man’s greed extends to everyone except him, his beloved. That is, you have been wearing the same winter boots for three years now, and during this time he bought himself three hunting rifles, an inflatable boat and a whistle. It seems that he doesn’t really love you, and in general is not able to love anyone other than himself, writes mlady.net.

But there are other greedy people. Their stinginess is explained by the fear of being penniless as a result of unreasonable spending. You can try to plan your family budget together, making sure to highlight the items “save for a rainy day,” “entertainment,” and “stupid things.” Remind him often of the saying that the miser pays twice.

And finally, universal advice: if such tight-fistedness is the only flaw of your almost ideal man, then all you have to do is start earning good money yourself and stop worrying about the price of the notorious shoes and cosmetics (by the way, don’t worry him once again by voicing the real cost) .

Change a greedy man

If you do decide to try this, here are some tips.

First, you must be ready to accept a man for who he is. Imagine that he will always be greedy. All life. In this case, will you be able to live with him, love and respect him? If not, then don't even waste your time and energy.

If you can, try to identify tasks for a man from the nearest development zone. Be content with what you have, but dream of a LITTLE BIT more. For complete happiness, you need only a little.

So, for the sake of this little thing, the man will try to change. But be careful! If your desires are from the category “I want to be a pillar noblewoman,” then in this way you will kill any aspiration in your partner.

Create a step in your life that will be easy for him to climb. Don’t build insurmountable rocks that he won’t even try to climb.

With a slight difference in mood, let your man understand what you like and what you don’t.

Share your emotions generously when receiving gifts. But don’t jump to the ceiling and don’t thank a hundred times for one given rose.

Tell him about his generosity towards you. It is likely that he will want to become like this.

If you are too demanding of a man, then perhaps you should reconsider your criteria. But if, on the contrary, you forget about your desires, then learn to appreciate and love yourself.

Learn to see a real man, with his abilities and ability to give. Don’t try to make the king of beasts, Leo, out of a kind and loving cat.

Author: Irina Gavrilova Dempsey

How to recognize a greedy man

First of all, to determine whether a man is greedy, you need to listen to what he says. So, for example, someone who only has money on their mind will say the word “expensive” more often on a date than your name. If at the same time he does not give you any gifts, even the smallest chocolate bar, he is definitely a miser.

Sometimes a man’s greed is indicated by such a fact as his refusal to leave a tip in a restaurant or cafe. You can also suspect stinginess in a man; he scrupulously counts the change and asks to give him every penny. If a gentleman boasts to you of his ability to get by with just a shirt, live without a washing machine and other important things, he is most likely stingy.

The reasoning of a greedy man always in one way or another relates to the questions of what, where and how much it costs. Moreover, he will discuss this topic, even if you did not ask him to do so. On occasion, a greedy person will be very reluctant to part with money.