Psychosomatics of alcoholism according to Liz Burbo
Popular psychologist Liz Burbo believes that serious internal problems lead to this addiction, in particular:
- low self-esteem (up to complete disrespect for oneself);
- inability to relax (constantly under stress);
- the strongest insult.
According to a famous psychologist, alcoholic drinks help a person relax for a while, get rid of muscle tension, which intensifies existing psychological problems and thereby makes life unbearable.
Psychosomatics of alcoholism according to Louise Hay
The author of the bestselling book “Heal Yourself,” Louise Hay, names her reasons for the development of the disease.
The psychosomatics of alcoholism in men, in her understanding, develops due to rejection of one’s own personality, a sense of the futility of everything that happens. A person with such an attitude towards himself simply does not see the meaning of his existence on Earth, does not feel his purpose. His whole essence seems to challenge society, asking: “Who needs this?”, “What is this all for?” We can say that alcoholism, according to Louise Hay, is a protest to a society that did not appreciate personality and did not recognize genius.
That is why individuals with a creative mindset, as well as people who cannot relax, most often suffer from this addiction.
Almost all men are alcoholics!
I don’t know what to do - run away from him or stay? He drinks every day after work. When he drinks, he behaves inappropriately. But in Russia, almost all men are alcoholics, and I, with a child in my arms, still can’t find anyone better.
Such conclusions make your hair stand on end. Accepting the worst just because you don't believe what's better?
If you choose something for yourself that feels far from being the most pleasant, it means that you have been living with attitudes for a long time that need to be changed! It doesn’t matter where your belief that you are unworthy of the best began, but it is important to form a new attitude towards yourself and the world around you. Psychology helps with this.
A psychologist helps you change your deepest beliefs. For example, if the thought is ingrained in you that you cannot meet a worthy man, then simple af will not change anything. You need to go inside and remove negative attitudes from there, competently and consistently replacing them with new ones that are much more life-affirming and inspiring to you.
The woman who concluded that all men in Russia are alcoholics is very observant, and her focus was constantly on this idea. Finding this or that confirmation, she became more and more convinced that she was right.
Now try to change the beliefs of a person who is CONFIDENT that he is right, even if this truth does not bring him joy. Such a woman would rather begin to look for a way to be happy without a man than to believe that there are enough worthy men, and that among these worthy men there is one who she might like and who will like her.
So, the deeply ingrained idea that you are not worthy of being treated well is powerful, and you have actually adopted it unconsciously, as if by default. But give yourself back the right to choose for yourself what to believe!
You can continue to believe that you are unlucky and that the world is full of drinking, aggressive, unsuitable partners for you... Continue to focus on this - on what you DO NOT WANT - and the result will be appropriate. You cannot observe pleasant and unpleasant and at the same time attract only pleasant things to yourself - you will attract both.
Give more attention, more time, more conversations to what you want.
Have you tried doing this? Or do you list over and over what you don't want?
So that he doesn’t drink, so that he doesn’t swear, so that he doesn’t offend, so that he behaves adequately, so that he earns money and doesn’t lie on the couch...
Do you devote time to the true needs of your soul?
I want to feel happy, I want a joyful life, I want to feel like everything is working out for me, I want to feel feminine, I want to feel lightness, playfulness, I want to share my happiness with someone who is as determined to love and be happy as I want us to travel together, because I love it so much, I want to cook dinner in the evenings and wait for him from work, because I love to show care, I just want to walk together, holding hands, because I am a romantic person.
I want it, I imagine it, I can feel it in advance, I can notice something in my life right now that is similar to it, I can look at something that inspires me, I can see examples of well-being, I can see happy people. couples, beautiful men, seeing the kind attitude of others.
I focus on this, this is my choice, and other things become uninteresting to me. I use other things only as a contrast, from which I build, in order to see more clearly what I want. Yes, I know that there is rudeness, aggression, alcoholism... And there is the opposite of this - responsiveness, love, health - and this is what I like, I choose it and give it all my attention.
You can constantly focus on the pleasant, give preference to what feels good for you, and spin joyful fragments in your head. But if sometimes you get confused (and initially this can happen quite often, because your surrounding world has not yet had time to rebuild and still corresponds to your old settings), then you can tell yourself the following:
This is not what I need. Thank you for the opportunity to become even more clear about my desires and preferences, I continue to go towards what feels good for me. Sooner or later, everything I need will come, I am optimistic, I am determined to notice all the good things that come my way.
And why do women continue to choose alcoholics? “I understand everything, but...”
This is an experience in which women need to fight and exhaust themselves, to reach a state in which their eyes will open and their ears will begin to hear. And then you will come across books, articles, seminars, etc., where they talk about self-love, and the soul will respond to this with agreement.
A long absence of real love, genuine support, sincere care will only increase the joy of receiving it. Every cloud has a silver lining...
And who is an alcoholic? A man who is very confused in himself.
And who is the woman who agrees to share her life with an alcoholic? This is a person who is also very confused in himself.
Maybe they can help each other figure this out?
Psychosomatics of alcoholism according to Valery Sinelnikov
Doctor Valery Sinelnikov is also right, who considers dependence on alcohol not a disease, but a human misfortune.
According to a specialist, a person becomes an alcoholic because certain behavioral programs are embedded in his mind. Established in early childhood - by parents, society, environment. As a rule, these problems are associated with psychological constriction, stiffness and inability to express one’s emotions. With age, the problem only intensifies and results in the inability to realize one’s potential, get a decent job, or prove oneself. Moreover, incorrect behavior programs lead to sexual problems, the inability to find a soul mate, and start a family.
Alcohol in this situation is a “medicine” that temporarily numbs the pain, helping to forget. But it doesn't fix the situation! In his books, Dr. Sinelnikov gives an example of the psychosomatics of alcoholism in women, describing a patient who in life was downtrodden, uninteresting and of no use to anyone. While drinking, she relaxed and became the “life of the party” - she joked, laughed and attracted the attention of men. But this program of behavior led to a strong addiction, which took years to overcome.
Consequences of alcoholism in men
No matter how strong the body is, the consequences of alcohol addiction will not keep you waiting. They can be divided into two large groups:
Physiological consequences
Associated with the functioning of organs and systems of the body. Most frequently encountered problems:
- Impotence. Associated with hormonal imbalance in men, which occurs as a result of changes in the normal production of testosterone.
- Pathology of the gastrointestinal tract. Most often, gastritis and peptic ulcers of the stomach and duodenum are detected. The symptoms are very characteristic - a pain reaction that occurs at least 30 minutes after eating.
- Arterial hypertension. Alcohol can damage the walls of blood vessels, which leads to a gradual change in their structure and disruption of innervation. As a result, arterial hypertension develops.
- Liver pathology. The liver is the main processing plant of our body. During a massive alcohol attack, its cells are damaged and undergo necrosis. Normally functional tissue is replaced by one that cannot perform basic functions. The functionality of both the liver itself and other organs and systems is impaired.
- Decreased immunity. By affecting the immune status, the body becomes susceptible to many infectious diseases.
- Heart diseases. Associated with the direct effect of alcohol on the walls of blood vessels, which in the future is the main cause of serious pathologies, for example, myocardial infarction.
Psychological consequences
This group is represented by the development of the following reactions:
- Delirium of persecution. It manifests itself as an obsessive feeling of constant control, surveillance.
- Hallucinations. They can be both visual and auditory. It is difficult to distinguish from real events.
- Encephalopathy. Associated with impaired blood circulation, resulting in insufficient nutrition of the brain. The result is a disorder of the basic functions of the body.
Psychosomatics of alcoholism in Ayurveda
Interestingly, traditional Indian medicine has its own view on the somatic causes of this harmful addiction.
Ayurveda says that alcohol is created from water and fire. Moreover, water is a symbol of matter, and fire is a symbol of father. When a person drinks, he sends alcohol to the liver, i.e. to the organ that is responsible for attachments. This can be explained simply - a person really lacks parents, their love and support. Perhaps an addiction to alcohol developed due to the divorce of mom and dad, or the loss of one of the parents. Or maybe a person grew up in unloving conditions, among parental conflicts, where absolutely no one needed him.
The first signs of male alcoholism
Despite the fact that craving for alcohol develops gradually, and it is quite difficult to recognize the disease, there are a number of signs that should become a kind of alarm signal.
The first signs include:
- An attraction to alcohol, when a man cannot deny himself the pleasure of periodically treating himself to alcohol, even in small quantities (for example, a little wine with dinner, a bottle of beer after work).
- Gradual increase in the amount of alcohol consumed.
- The appearance of the first health problems (disorders of the digestive tract, cardiovascular system, sleep disturbances, worsening mood).
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Useful affirmations in the fight against alcoholism
To get rid of addiction, a person, first of all, must have a desire to recover and honestly admit to himself that he is an alcoholic.
After this, you can move on to the affirmations given by Louise Hay. Remember them:
- I enjoy every moment of my life;
- I wish to understand my purpose;
- I wish to change;
- I love me.
Only by accepting yourself with all your shortcomings and enlisting the support of these verbal formulas can you defeat the “green serpent” and recover from terrible addiction forever!
Changes in behavior
An alcoholic does not need to look for a reason to drink, but at first he still tries to find excuses for drinking alcohol. The reason for the “holiday” can be anything. It could even be the end of the working week, or in advanced cases, the end of the working day.
In the early stages of addiction, a woman gets drunk quite quickly, due to physiological characteristics. In the second stage, tolerance to alcohol is developed. Small doses do not bring the desired effect, so she begins to drink more and more alcohol or switches to strong drinks.
Alcohol has an effect on the central nervous system and mental state: cognitive functions deteriorate, intellectual level decreases, and moral principles change. Women dependent on alcohol find it easier to engage in sexual relationships, often with people they don’t know well.
Behavior can be cheeky, sometimes aggressive. Some alcoholics experience irritation towards family members. When drunk, they provoke or aggravate conflicts and show verbal or physical aggression towards children. It can also happen to adults, it depends on the character. Some, on the contrary, become whiny and demand indulgence and self-pity.
