Confessing your love when you like a girl and you are also shy is very scary. When falling in love occurs, a guy does not know where to start and how to behave in order to still talk about his feelings and at the same time improve his relationship with the girl. In fact, there is something to be afraid of, since the girl may refuse. But think for yourself: what’s worse - to be refused, but to know about the girl’s feelings, or to remain silent, at a loss as to how everything would really happen?
It’s worth confessing your feelings if:
- The girl shows signs of attention, is interested in you or makes contact.
- The girl is single or has just started a relationship with a guy.
- A girl is thinking about breaking up with a guy she is already in a relationship with.
- The girl is very attached to you.
The online magazine psytheater.com sees no reason at all not to confess your love, if it exists. But you can still get a refusal in the following situations:
- If a girl loves another guy and talks about it directly.
- If a girl is in a love relationship and is even thinking about marriage.
- If a girl ignores a guy who is in love with her.
- If a girl rarely communicates, is not interested in you, does not make contact.
Feelings are wonderful. But you should objectively assess your capabilities. If a guy is busy himself or is in a relationship with another girl, then his girlfriend will obviously not claim him. Here, a surprise will be a declaration of love from a guy who supposedly should love another girl.
How to confess your love to a girl if you are very shy?
Guys are amorous in nature, and if you like a girl, it becomes difficult to sleep and eat.
All thoughts are only about her, about her beauty, smile, voice. You lose peace and become a frequent visitor to her page on social networks. It's time to stop testing yourself and decide to make drastic changes. So, if we decide to take a step towards our personal happiness, then we act!
Method one, or silence is golden
Writing about your feelings on a social network or via SMS is, of course, too childish. How to confess your love to a girl if you are embarrassed to talk about your feelings? Write about them, but so that you can see her eyes when he reads your confession. A quite suitable place for this is a simple cafe or pizzeria, where the smell of coffee and music is playing. You can chat with her all evening about trifles, and before leaving, silently hand over an envelope with words of love. You will have a wonderful opportunity to watch his reaction and enjoy the result of your brave act.
Idea-intrigue
We write in a status or on our wall on social networks - I’m in love. Attach a romantic picture and share the post with the girl. If she asks a lot of leading questions, then at least you are guaranteed return interest. In case of her indignation or ridicule, you can always write: “oh, that wasn’t for you”))).
Adventurous approach
We find a suitable advertising structure in front of our beloved’s house, which is simply impossible to pass by without noticing it. We go to an advertising agency and order a spectacular banner with a declaration of love. We don’t sign your name, your look when we meet will speak more eloquently than any words. It’s worth clarifying here that this method is good at the stage of a long-term relationship, when everything is already quite serious, but for some reason the girl hesitates with the main words.
Call a friend
In this case, your mutual friend or good friend should do the main work. Your role here is observational. The method is the simplest and, at the same time, effective.
For the shyest
Start at the grocery store and buy everything there that is useful for baking cookies or any other confectionery product that your chosen one is especially greedy for. Do not spare your culinary talents and time to bake a real masterpiece, the motto of which is as old as time, but still works: “Let the heart of a man and a woman lie through...” You yourself know the rest. It is worth making sure that the cookies, if this is what they are, are baked in the shape of hearts. A box with hot, vanilla-scented hearts will help you talk about your feelings without any words. In addition, buy a lush bouquet of roses. After this, it’s hard to remain indifferent.
The last method is radio wave
It does not offer any nanotechnology, and therefore it can be called banal. But effective! So, we call the radio broadcast, choosing a wave based on its taste preferences. If possible, we guess the time. We go live and say all the most secret things (without going beyond the bounds of decency, of course). If you are very worried, you can read from a piece of paper, but it’s better to read in your own words, so that it really comes from the heart, and not from trembling knees. We consolidate the effect with a song with which your common pleasant memories are associated. If there are no such memories yet, then the song should encourage the girl to do everything so that these memories will be in the future.
And now - exhale
And finally, a little poetry. Let's think about where the shyness that gets in the way of life comes from in us guys? Many call this quality complexes, uncertainty, even cowardice. Get over yourself and move forward: don’t be afraid, take what’s yours. Such men make excellent businessmen, politicians, officials... Trembling women and good wives have always loved and love those who are understanding and affectionate. But masculine qualities flourish precisely on the basis of female weakness, insecurity, shyness, if you like...
A little foreplay. In this article, in addition to the obvious advice, when exactly to confess your love to your girlfriend, how exactly to confess your feelings, where and how to do it? How to confess your love to a girl? Attention will be paid to other points that are no less important than the obvious questions and advice. Namely, what the possible consequences of your confession may be, when you should open up to a girl, and when it is better not to rush into revelations. Things to think about before you take that huge step in your relationship with your girlfriend. The foreplay is over, now let's get down to business.In the life of every man or guy, there comes a time when you want to confess your love to a girl. This is a very exciting moment for both the guy and his girlfriend. There are people who do this often if they are very amorous. And with each new time, it’s probably easier to do this. But there are also people who confess their love only once in their life. To his wife. Well, that is, the girl the guy wants to marry.
But more often than not, a guy confesses his love to every girl with whom he is currently in a serious relationship. Everyone just perceives it differently. For some it's a piece of cake, and there are people who don't have to know a person for long to feel the need to have their feelings acknowledged. I personally know several guys who confess their love to any woman they meet for a day or a week.
When should you confess your love to a girl?
By the way, this is a very important point; girls don’t like guys who don’t invest anything in their confession. That is, women understand when a man is simply spraying himself. And you can see when it’s sincere, and perhaps for the first time in a guy’s life, he’s had such an experience. Girls will appreciate only a sincere declaration of feelings for her. When this is not done after a week of dating, but when people have already gotten to know each other enough for the time to come for a natural declaration of love.
One of my friends actually confessed his love to a girl on the very first day of their acquaintance. What it had to do with it was clear and visible to everyone around, and first of all to the girl. That it costs him nothing at all to do this. The girl saw in him a simpleton who was spraying on everyone. And it was clear that he just wanted to quickly get her into bed. So it was, I have known this man for a long time, he confessed his love to every girl he knew for a day, maximum two. Moreover, he did it somehow for show, without putting absolutely anything into these words. And naturally, women notice such moments very well and do not respect such guys.
Think about whether the girl will believe your declaration of love to her?
Any woman wants to feel special for the man with whom she is in a relationship. And when a guy, on the very first day, and absolutely soullessly, does this, the girl feels that she doesn’t mean anything to him at all, in fact. There are exceptions, of course, when a guy and a girl really fall in love with each other at first sight. But this happens so rarely, and it is felt for both. Only in this case can you confess your feelings - on the very first day. If you sincerely feel in love with a girl, and are sure that she feels the same for you. Then this is probably correct and natural, but I repeat, this is one case in a million.
And in all other cases, you will only spoil your impression of yourself by declaring your love to a girl too quickly. The most important thing is that the girl, according to your confession, really understands and feels what you feel for her. She must see, feel, understand that this is serious for you, it’s not just for show (like, we’ve been in a relationship for a long time, so it’s probably time). No! If you confess your love to a girl, then only then, and in the case when you are absolutely confident in your feelings. After all, women will feel if you doubt or do not do it sincerely.
How do you understand that it’s already possible to confess your love to a girl?
That's why, don't you dare! Do this when the time has not yet come, when you understand that the girl knows you too little to believe your confession. Although, of course, everything also depends on how quickly a particular relationship develops. It happens that relationships develop very slowly and leisurely. For example, a guy meets a girl, asks her out on a date, then they talk on the phone, then again several dates. If, for example, neither the guy nor the girl has their own home, then they will be at the initial stage of the relationship for a long time.
They will communicate more often by phone, or on the Internet, for example, than in real life. Sometimes they will go somewhere, and this can go on for a very long time. Until someone wants to take the relationship to a new level and offers to rent an apartment and live together. In such a development of relationships (slow), a quick declaration of love may not be taken seriously. After all, for most people, you first need to live together in order to understand whether you love a person or not.
Or if the relationship developed quickly, they met, liked each other, and after just a couple of days, weeks, they begin to live together. In this case, she can take a declaration of love to a girl exactly as she should, seriously. After all, the girl understands that since everything is developing so quickly, and if people have been living together for some time, it means that it is quite possible that someone has already realized for themselves that they are in love with another. And then, the declaration of love will be perceived correctly, the girl will believe that the declaration is sincere.
In general, this is a very important moment when to confess your feelings. If you do this too early, then the girl may not believe you, she will think that it’s all not sincere, or even worse, when someone confesses their love, just for show. Not because he feels it, but because it seems like it’s time. Therefore, before you take such a step, think about whether you really feel that you love the girl. Also think about how long you have known her, and she you. Enough for you to be believed in the sincerity of your confession. Because if you rush, you can even harm the relationship. As they say, you can’t take a word back.
Does the girl love you?
One more important thing. Make sure the girl feels the same way before you confess your love to her. After all, if a girl doesn’t love you, but she just feels good with you, go for walks, spend fun time together, and all that. Then you will only add tension to your relationship. After all, confessing your love to your girlfriend, and if she does not feel the same towards you, you will only confuse her and confuse her. She will start thinking - damn, do I love him? And if in the end she understands that she loves, or is at least in love with you, then everything is very good. In this case, by your confession, you will kind of push her to think about how dear you are to her and your relationship.
But if a girl knows and feels that she is not in love, then declaring her love will only push her away. From now on, she will not feel comfortable with someone who loves her, but she does not. The relationship will immediately deteriorate, she will become colder towards you, and will feel constant responsibility for the fact that you love her, but she does not love you. She will be very uncomfortable continuing the relationship, and she may also think that she is wasting your time and want to end the relationship.
There are, of course, women who consider it normal for a man to be in love with her, but she is not. For some, it’s even more convenient. After all, then you can sit on a man’s head and lead and rule in the relationship. This always happens when one loves more than the other. The other one will definitely value the relationship less and will not particularly value it. Well, such concepts are only among those women for whom love is not the main thing in the relationship between a man and a woman. And the main thing is to get married successfully.
So, you can confess your feelings to such a person, and she can do it in return, but only for show, not sincerely. Like, I love you, yes, me too. Naturally, not all girls confess back, not sincerely. You can feel it, if a girl loves you, or is in love with you, then you will definitely feel it. Based on her attitude towards you, you will feel whether she values you and your relationship or not.
How can I tell if a girl loves me or not?
I’ll repeat my advice once again - it’s better to make sure that the girl loves you too before confessing your love to your girlfriend. How can you be sure of this? What exactly should you pay attention to in order to understand that she cares about you and the relationship with you.
1. Signs of falling in love that can be seen with the naked eye. It's written on her forehead, so to speak. When your girlfriend talks to other guys, does it show that she doesn't care about them? It is obvious that all the guys except you are not taken seriously.
2. The most important signs of falling in love with you are those that manifest themselves externally, that can be seen from her. If a girl is in love, then she does not give signals arbitrarily, she herself does not realize that everything is visible from her. What exactly am I talking about?
3. The eyes burn and shine, the cheeks turn red, when a girl looks straight into your eyes - she is embarrassed. Smiles a lot - when you just stand still and communicate while looking into each other's eyes. But don’t get confused: when you say something funny and she laughs, it doesn’t really mean anything. This means when you are just talking to her, and she, looking into your eyes, smiles slightly, embarrassed. The eyes glow at you, sparkle.
4. Spark. A very important moment when you feel that there is some kind of connection between you and the girl that is not there with other people. When you are attracted to each other, not only physically, but also simply. When a girl feels that she really misses you. When she feels like she misses you even though you haven't seen each other for just a couple of hours. She calls you 10-20 times a day, constantly asking where you are, what you are doing, and with whom. How are you doing at work, and in life in general, but it feels like she is sincerely interested, and not just for show.
5. If a girl prefers to spend any free minute with you. When girlfriends and friends fade into the background and third plan, and even with family and friends, she spends much less time than with you. When you become her whole world, slowly crowding out all the other people in her life. When there is no one to replace you. When it is clear from her that she is drawn to you much, much more than to anyone else. When it is clear that she is more interesting, more fun with you than with anyone else.
6. You can start small before moving on to a confession to understand the girl's mood and her feelings for you. Before declaring your love, start with smaller expressions of your feelings for her. To determine by her reaction whether she is ready for your revelations, or whether it is better to wait.
For example. Tell her that you value her and your relationship with her very much. If she reacts normally, if she says something similar in response, then good. Well, or at least it will be clear from her that she is very pleased with your words. And if she somehow becomes wary and looks like - well, what are you getting at, what did you want to say with this anyway? What to achieve? It is clear that she hardly feels anything serious towards you. And it would be better to hold off on such expressions of your feelings for now.
If at all she suddenly turns cold towards you, and she becomes somehow uncomfortable with you, after even a small manifestation of your feelings for her, then damn, everything is bad. Especially if this chill continues further, the next day, and the next. In this case, you will understand that she definitely does not feel for you what you feel for her. Imagine what would happen if you confessed your love to her! That is why it would be better to start with something less than a declaration of love.
In general, if you are almost sure that the girl is also in love with you, then you can safely admit it. If not, then you should think about it for some more time and see how your relationship will develop further.
How to confess your love to a girl?
Now it's time for specific advice. So, if you're sure the time has come, here's what to look out for and consider.
What type exactly is your girlfriend? Is she a romantic person, or the opposite? If she is a romantic, then naturally, the confession is best done in a romantic way. Choose a suitable location. It could either be just a romantic and beautiful place, an embankment, a park, a fountain. But even better, if she is a romantic at heart, then she will absolutely appreciate the following. To declare your love, choose a place that you both have a connection with you and your relationship.
The place they met, the place where they had their first kiss, or something like that. All this will create the right atmosphere. Don't rush, don't do it in a hurry. Wait for the right moment. When you just hug, let’s say look at the sunset or the moon, enjoy the view, and preferably there will be no one around. You must be alone. This will create the right mood. You are alone, there is no one around, as if you don’t need anyone or anything else except to be together, just the two of you. It's as if the world was divided into you and everything else.
And it is precisely at such a moment of solitude, when everything around is so calm and comfortable, no one and nothing will disturb you. Hug the girl, kiss her, compliment her, and do it, confess your love to your girlfriend. For a better effect, immediately after, you can kiss her again, then be embarrassed, smile. And it’s important! At ease, watch her gaze, face, reaction to your words. After all, this is the best moment when you can see from her what she feels for you. It would be cool, of course, if she confesses to you right away, then everything will be clear and so.
Although, even if she does not do this immediately after you, this does not mean that she does not think so. Most people will be very embarrassed and taken by surprise by this admission. Therefore, it is not surprising that the girl needs to be given time to step away and think. Of course, it’s good if the girl has been waiting for this confession from you for a long time, because she loves you too, and has long wanted to admit it, but she was afraid, and waited until you were the first to do it. In this case, she will come to her senses faster, and the reaction will follow immediately.
This is generally an ideal reaction - she will be embarrassed, smile, maybe even shed a tear (from happiness), hug you, kiss you, and say - I love you too! Eh!!! Everyone would do the same!
Another tip. If you want to be taken seriously, don't do it when you're drunk. In this case, she can attribute all the credit to alcohol.
Good luck!
How to confess your love to a girl or guy
Are you in love with someone, but don't know how to confess your love to this person? Undoubtedly, a declaration of love is a very important moment in life, because after it you can feel like the happiest person in the world, or the most unhappy. After all, no one guarantees that after your confession, the relationship with this person will become completely different. But the chance that your declaration of love will be correctly assessed, and the relationship will continue, largely depends on how you declare your love. So let's take a look at some practical tips on how you can make your confession as effective as possible.
What exactly should I say?
Let's take a closer look at which words and phrases to say and which ones are better to forget altogether. A lot of guys make a mistake here. You can drive away such nonsense that the girl will freeze, and your attractiveness in her eyes will fall.
Example of incorrect phrases:
- I love you more than life itself (you somehow belittle yourself, guy)
- I can't live without you (looks pathetic)
- I want to spend my whole life with you (a very needy phrase, and it’s guaranteed that you won’t spend your whole life with her)
- I love you madly, I'm crazy about you (you are needy and with this phrase you allow her to manipulate you or even scare you)
- I love you, and do you love me? (you are in need again, you ask “well, love me, I love you”)
An example of adequate and cool phrases:
- I like you, what are we going to do about it? (such a cool phrase J)
- I’m in love with your eyes, look at me and don’t blink (also a good phrase, a little humor relieves tension perfectly)
- I admit, I fell in love, just stop coming to me in my dreams (humor and confession work great)
- I fell in love! So admit it, did you put a love potion in my tea? (humor is good because if there is an obvious refusal, then there will be less of an unpleasant aftertaste. Well, you were joking and that’s it J)
- I really like you, let's try to get closer? (show her your serious intention and don’t put pressure on her)
- During all the time I’ve been communicating with you, you have become more than a friend to me. (she may ask who she has become and you will confess to her. This beginning softens the excitement)
- I want you to become my girlfriend (why not, a normal phrase, you can add “Let’s have one date and you won’t regret it”)
These are the phrases you can use to declare your love. And you can come up with a bunch more adequate confessions. You don’t have to speak directly, girls understand hints very well, unlike us guys. And of course don’t forget about your inner state!
Creative ideas on how to confess your love
Perhaps you are looking for a more creative way to declare your love. In this case, let's assume that you already have a mutual attraction, so here are some creative ideas that you can use to show love and express your feelings.
Make a collage
You can make a collage of your photos together. Add some hearts or write sweet words to express your feelings more openly.
Write a poem
If you can write at least a few lines of a poem, then express your love in this way. Let it not be entirely rhyming, but for that it is sincere and from the heart.
Make a video about your relationship
You can do this as a slideshow and use photos of moments and memories of your relationship. Divide the video into several parts, and at the end, mark a separate chapter called “I love you.” You can also record your confession on video and post it to YouTube, but be sure to use your private settings so the world doesn't see it.
Buy a T-shirt with the words “I love you”
You can order a T-shirt specifically for this event and have your names embossed on it. It will be very sweet and romantic.
Post your confession on a billboard
Find a billboard near your home, or near the place where your loved one passes most often. Order a poster with a photo of you together and romantic words. This way of declaring love will appeal to those people who love attention.
Declaration of love using petals
You may spend a little money, but such an expression of feelings will be incredibly beautiful and will be remembered by your partner for the rest of his life. If you don't have a lot of money, you can even buy regular daisies. The important thing here is to show your attention and care.
Make it out of balloons
Buy heart-shaped balloons and write cute words on each one. Decorate your room with them and invite your loved one to visit. When he/she sees this beauty, he/she will be extremely surprised.
Recognition at sea
Organize a romantic date at sea and say whatever you want there. You can also lay out a love confession on the sand and show it to your loved one.
How can you tell your lover about your feelings?
Let's assume that you were able to muster up the courage to confess your feelings to your lover.
How can you confess your feelings correctly that you love him?
A girl shouldn’t sing a serenade by the window or run around trying to impress a guy. Luckily for you, there are many better and more proven methods.
Letter
Provided that you cannot muster the strength to confess your love directly to your face, then you should use a romantic letter. Write a message and put it in the mailbox, in your pocket, or put it somewhere where the guy will definitely notice and understand that it is addressed to him.
Thanks to this method, you will not have to meet the object of your adoration face to face, but the time for a response will be much longer. And most likely it will lengthen even more, as the guy decides to carefully think about the information received.
Message via messenger or social networks
This method is more practical, since the person will immediately understand that it is addressed to him and the answer will arrive much faster.
Talking on the phone
You will also avoid direct face-to-face contact, and at the same time you will be able to fully communicate your feelings. The downside is that the reaction will not be visible, but the advantage is that you will receive an answer right away.
It is important to overcome anxiety so that your dialogue is open and sincere.
Creative message
With the help of fantasy, you can organize a confession that will be difficult to resist: organize a quest, draw graffiti on the wall of your house, confess at a public event, and so on... The most important thing is that the confession shows the seriousness of your intentions, otherwise you will not be able to convey your love to his heart.
Important point! When falling in love, shortcomings in the object of adoration are often not noticed and only its advantages are highlighted.
Put in a good word
You can use the help of mutual friends and girlfriends. After all, thanks to a close circle of people, you can convey the necessary information without fear. You will tell your friend about your attitude towards your chosen one, so that he can find out from your lover, supposedly by chance, whether he has feelings for you.
Having received the answer, you will not reveal yourself, but you will certainly know how your lover treats you. Agree, finding out that a guy has feelings for you will make it much easier to declare your love.
A personal meeting
There is a category of people who believe that letters or calls are regarded as weakness and deception.
Agree, the look, the timbre of the voice, the manifested excitement can tell a lot during a confession in a personal meeting.
How to communicate with a guy: detailed training
How to confess your love to a girl
Question: “How to confess your love to a girl?” is always relevant, because every person has felt in love at least once in their life.
Sometimes mutual sympathy is obvious, and in this case there is no need to take additional steps to win the girl you like.
But if you don’t know whether you should count on reciprocal feelings, it’s best to ask the girl about it directly.
In order for the beginning of a relationship to be imprinted in memory as something romantic, you should confess your sympathy in an extraordinary way. Next, we will look at all the pros and cons of taking such a responsible step, and find out how this can be done.
Advice for the brave
If you have considered the consequences of such a step, are not afraid of being rejected, and believe that it is better to do it and regret it than not to do it and then regret the missed opportunities, you should carefully prepare for this event.
The following points need to be considered:
- When and where are you going to tell about your crush?
- Are you going to involve those around you (friends, acquaintances).
- What exactly will you say?
Let's look at each of these points in more detail.
Choosing a place and time
To talk about your feelings, you need to choose the right moment - if you miscalculate the time or place, the girl may react incorrectly to your words.
How to confess your love to a girl if you're shy
Even being the stronger sex, guys are often confused and shy when it comes to declaring their love.
We offer several ways for especially shy guys:
- Send a courier with a bouquet of flowers/candies and a postcard. You can express all your feelings in a card. The message can be left anonymous, but you can also leave a signature.
- Make a declaration of love with a spray can on the asphalt near her windows. A banal but effective method: the girl will be very pleased, and she will always remember the guy when she sees the inscription.
- Confess your love on the radio. If you know that a girl constantly listens to a specific radio station, you can use this method.
- Record a video for your beloved. In it, express all your thoughts regarding your feelings, pleasant memories associated with the girl, etc. You can send the video by email or burn it to disk and give it to her.
- Cover the walls of her entrance with leaflets with confessions. Also an interesting way that will not leave any girl indifferent.
The above methods are great for those who, for some reason, are afraid to express their affection. They are suitable for confessing your feelings to a classmate, classmate or just an acquaintance.
But, nevertheless, such romantic confessions will show your serious intentions and give a chance that the girl will reciprocate.
Is there love?
Perhaps you are tormented by doubts whether to admit your feelings. It is possible that the reason for this behavior is excessive modesty or fear of being rejected, and it may also be a signal from the subconscious, indicating that, in fact, this is not love at all.
It is also necessary to understand that admitting your feelings too early can push a girl away. Here we are talking about when a guy already has a relationship with the object of his adoration, literally on the second date he announces that he not only likes the girl, but that he loves her. The real explanation for this quick recognition is:
- love at first sight;
- desire to quickly sleep with a girl;
- a way to bind the object of adoration more tightly.
In any case, confessing too early will alert the girl and may scare her away.
Let's look at the difference between love and the feeling of falling in love.
- The first is a long-term feeling that can accompany a person throughout his life. The second is short-term, it goes away as suddenly as it arises.
- Love makes you accept your partner for who he is, with all his shortcomings. Falling in love makes you want to change your chosen one so that qualities that are beneficial to you appear in him.
- Love is when you feel good together and don’t need anyone else. Falling in love - another person appears who can destroy your union.
- The first case characterizes mutual understanding, sacrifice, support in difficult times. The second case is characterized by selfishness in relationships, the desire to satisfy only one’s own needs.
- Love pushes aside intimate needs, spiritual satisfaction comes first. Falling in love elevates intimacy; selfishness in sex is characteristic.
It's truly love if you:
- you do everything to impress the girl, sometimes risking yourself;
- all thoughts are occupied with the object of adoration;
- every day you try to become better in order to be worthy of a girl’s love;
- the most important thing is the happiness of your beloved, even if you are not with her.
The role of recognition in relationships
Confession of feelings is the first step that precedes a relationship. Memories of this event will remain for a long time: perhaps even your common children will be interested in how their parents’ relationship began.
Video: how to confess your love to a girl Therefore, the day when you tell a girl about your feelings should leave only pleasant and romantic impressions. Now you know how to confess your love to a girl and whether it’s worth doing it.
Sources:
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