We all have different preferences and habits. For some, they are more harmless: overeating at night and biting nails, while for others they are quite dangerous to health: alcoholism and smoking. But often, when it comes to getting rid of unpleasant and bad habits, many people cannot overcome themselves.
The question arises: how to get rid of bad habits ?
To get rid of such addictions, specialists in the field of psychology have created many methods. A modern direction in psychology - NLP - offers techniques that, unlike classical ones (coding, drug treatment), do not have a direct impact on the psyche and allow you to preserve the personal core of a person.
One such reprogramming technique is the swing technique . And in this article we will consider in detail this technique of reprogramming the subconscious.
Note:
Even if you master it on your own, the swing technique is great for getting rid of a whole set of bad habits.
How to get rid of bad habits. NLP. Swing technique.
Techniques used by specialists in the field of NLP involve non-violent correction of unwanted behavior by modeling a desirable image.
Most of the work is done by the patient himself, which allows him to sufficiently distance himself from the psychologist and not dedicate him to details that he would like to keep secret .
The specialist’s task is to explain the technique and monitor the correctness and efficiency of execution, adjusting and directing the process if necessary.
Also, the advantage of this technique is that you can master it yourself.
Most bad habits are of a reflex nature, that is, a person performs certain actions most often unconsciously, obeying the influence of some factors.
The swing technique has proven to be effective in combating these forms of addiction. Like most NLP methods, it is quite simple, logical and accessible to everyone.
Chapter first. What is NLP?
So what is neurolinguistic programming? NLP is an independent field of knowledge in practical psychology. She studies the structure of people's subjective experience, their mental and behavioral strategies. In other words, NLP studies the connections between people's external behavior and their subconscious and vice versa.
It’s hard to imagine, but our thoughts, mood, and even the way we look at the world can be read without much effort using NLP. Moreover, using NLP methods, you can easily subjugate any person to your will and direct his actions. Moreover, all NLP processes are so natural that we constantly encounter them in our lives.
The concept of “neurolinguistic programming” includes three parts:
“Neuro” means that NLP is based on the five senses of perception (vision, hearing, smell, touch and taste).
“Linguistic” refers to the use of words and sounds to reach the subconscious. An important role in this is played by “body language”, which is often more eloquent than words.
Programming is the formulation of a verbal or unspoken command to control the consciousness, feelings or impulses of both oneself and another person.
Stages of working with the swing technique
Stage No. 1
The first step on the path to a new life is awareness of the problem and its negative impact on life. To do this, you need to answer yourself the following questions:
- Why do I do what constitutes my habit (smoking, drinking, eating a lot, etc.)?
- How does this affect my life?
- What benefits does it bring me?
Stage No. 2
The second stage is determining the motive:
- What do I want to achieve by breaking the habit?
- What are the positive aspects of life without (cigarettes, alcohol, etc.)?
Stage No. 3
Third stage: identifying the image of the “trigger key” from which the craving for harmful actions starts (“I smoke because people around me get on my nerves or I get bored,” “I bite my nails when I’m nervous or have nothing to do,” “ I overeat when I sit in front of the TV").
It is necessary to create a clear image, a picture that symbolizes the “starting key”: a hand with a cigarette, a glass of alcohol, red fingertips from gnawed nails, a yelling boss, etc. – the image must be clear, convincing and appear undesirable.
Stage No. 4
The fourth stage is creating a “positive image” that should be obtained if you quit your addiction: a cheerful and healthy appearance, pride when you tell your friends that you quit smoking, clothes that you were able to fit into after you quit overeating, beautiful manicure, etc.
Stage No. 5
At the next stage, you need to evoke the image of a “starting key”, then replace it with a “positive image”, take a break and repeat everything from the beginning. The speed of changing images should gradually increase; you can help yourself with external stimuli : a click or a wave of your hand.
Over time, the image of the “starter key” should become duller and less attractive, in contrast to the “positive” one. If this does not happen, then adjust the images used, make their emotional coloring brighter.
Thus, with the help of the swing technique, you can independently get rid of habits that negatively affect a person’s health or appearance , without raping your own psyche and without making titanic efforts to fight yourself.
more about the swing technique, as well as how to get rid of bad habits , from the speech of Mikhail Nikolaevich Gordeev, a course of NLP practitioners.
Text of the book “NLP. “Happy Destiny” program. Install, launch, use!”
Chapter 2. Working with images of “I”
When the imagination creates the forms of Unknown things, the poet's pen, embodying them, gives both an abode and a name to the airy nothingness.
W. Shakespeare
With a single stroke,
Roles and images of yourself.
I would like to bring you back to earth so that you do not become arrogant.
Despite all the successes you have achieved in improving yourself “for destiny and for life’s sake” (and after formulating and programming the result, you most likely have already received the first results), you are only just beginning to truly “fateful self-improvement”. Its essence lies precisely in the creation of your New “I”, which will allow you to literally grab the blue bird of luck by the tail. For theory lovers, I’ll clarify that this very New “I” consists of many (fortunately limited), large “I”, medium “I” and small “I”
.
The first “I” (large) constitute the essence of your nature (“I am like a person” or “I am like a man/woman”, etc.). You apply and use the second “I” (medium) in fairly general classes of situations (“I am as a specialist” or “I am as a spouse”, etc.), while the small “I” determine your reaction in specific situations (“I in front of the boss”, “I’m in a restaurant with a waiter”, etc.). In modern social psychology, to describe the entire set of “I”, the concept of a role set
(as a set of all “I” of a person, realized in the form of the roles he habitually performs). However, we are not engaged in psychology, but in neurolinguistic programming. NLP does not postulate, but rather “presupposes” (explicitly or implicitly assumes) the following.
Firstly, each of the medium and small “I”s that are part of the “I” system of the large one can be represented in the form of separate human self-identities, forming a kind of hierarchy. For example, such a negative quality as cowardice can be almost a defining element of the Big “I” (“I am a coward in essence and by nature, and in general I am a trembling creature”), while at the same time appearing in the “I” average (“I am a cowardly man” ) or in the small “I” (“I’m afraid of meeting bullies”).
Secondly, behind each of our “Selves” there is such a generalized formation as the Self-Image (OSI), a kind of “shell” that unites many smaller programs (behavior, state and even beliefs) and sets the parameters for their functioning. It follows from this that by changing the corresponding OSS, you can change the way the programs that comprise it act and interact. It is interesting that without changing the OSS, there is no point in taking on smaller programs, because truly “you can’t pour new wine into old wineskins” - it will quickly turn sour (that is, programs can come into conflict with your OSS and quietly fade away). And this means that OSS, which determines your self-identity, is perhaps the main (and certainly central) element of any self-improvement. It is only important to remember that it can be out of context
(i.e., as I wrote above, appear almost everywhere),
broad-context
(implemented in most cases) and
contextual
(included in certain situations). Therefore, to change large, medium and small “I”, it is necessary to select appropriate psychotechnologies - contextual, wide-context and extra-contextual...
The essence and features of the psychotechnology of the swing.
We will begin “image-based”, or, in other words, “role-playing” self-improvement by mastering the psychotechnology of the swing, which uses such a powerful psychological formation as the Self-Image.
Let me remind you that the NSS is for our unconscious a kind of record of a program of behavior and actions, as well as an emotional and even “mental” response (in the appropriate situation or in life in general). If the OSS is ineffective, then both the situation and life become obviously a lose-lose situation. And then, really, it’s worth offering your own unconscious a new, effective OSS, which from now on will be a program of behavior in this previously losing, but now quite successful life and situation. So the psychotechnology of the wave can be used by you to reprogram yourself directly and directly. By using its first option - the so-called contextual swing
- we change ourselves precisely for situations in which we do not demonstrate the required quality or mental properties.
Remember the “conditions” clause in a well-formulated result frame that asks where, when and with whom you need what you are looking for? So, if you can identify a limited number of situations in which, say, you are straightforward when you need flexibility in behavior (god, I'm so tired of this didactic example!), the contextual wave
is what you need need to.
But if there are many similar situations, you need a wide-context swing
.
And if you are simply, so to speak, “in life” straight, like a standard meter, you need another version of the “swing” psychotechnology - an out-of-context swing
. Let's consider all three options for this very, very effective psychotechnology, and very, very thoroughly. This is not necessary for the sake of typing, but for you to achieve a complete understanding of the essence of serious work with images of the Self.
Simplified model of swing technique
(contextual) was described in detail by one of the “fathers” of NLP, R. Bandler in the book “Use Your Brain to Change.”
1. Find out the context
, i.e. first determine where you “broke” or “stuck”. When or where would you like to behave or react differently than you do now?
2. Define a trigger image
(“launch picture”). Find what you actually see just before you start behaving in a way you don't like. This picture is usually associated (that is, you see it with your own eyes and do not see yourself in this picture). Many people are on autopilot at this moment. So sometimes it's worth actually doing what should precede the unwanted behavior to see what it looks like and find the trigger. If you are now simply testing your swing technique, keep the following in mind. Since it is a stimulus for some reaction that you do not like, there must be at least something unpleasant associated with the picture. The more unpleasant it is, the better the technique will work.
3. Create an image of the result
(new self). Make (construct and imagine) this image - how you would see yourself if you had already achieved the desired change. What kind of person would you be if where you were “broken” or “stuck” was not a problem for you? “Adjust” this image until you get one that is “eco-friendly” and truly attractive. The image should attract and please you.
4. Swing.
Now “wave” these two pictures. First, see that “trigger” picture, big and bright. Then place a small dark image of the new you in the lower right corner. And now let the small dark image quickly increase in size and brightness, covering the first picture, which will just as quickly darken and shrink. Then “clear the screen” and “wave” these two pictures again - five times in total. Be sure to clear the screen at the end of each swing!
5. Examination.
Now call up that first image. What's happening? If the swing was effective, it will simply be difficult to do. The “trigger picture” will tend to disappear and be replaced by a second, desirable image.
Another way of checking is behavioral. Find a way to recreate the situation presented in the key picture and see what you do now.
If the old behavior is still present during the test, do the swing technique again. See what you missed and what else you can do to make this process work.
All you need to do to get rid of straightforwardness and gain flexibility in behavior (I remind you: provided that “straightforwardness” manifests itself in you in certain situations) is to remember exactly where and in what specific ways you behave straightforwardly. Then you need to determine the “trigger picture” of the manifestation of straightforwardness and then imagine yourself full of flexibility. After which you should “wave” both pictures five to seven times according to the above scheme.
You may have one, but significant difficulty associated with finding a new image of yourself. However, it is rather imaginary, and your search will become much easier if you understand that this image can not only be remembered, but also imagined,
how to “model” the new self on someone you know, someone who knows similar difficulties, or even on a literary or film character (what would Superman or Batman do in this situation?).
I usually suggest that my clients use the following technique to create the desired self-image
.
1. Find a real person or an imaginary “hero” who can effectively and “environmentally” cope with a difficult situation for you.
2. Expand this situation like a movie or video clip and watch several times how exactly this person or hero acts in it, “playing” his “role”.
3. Now, if you are satisfied with the image of these actions, “take out” this person or hero from the first frame of the film or video and “insert” yourself there. Watch a film or clip several more times in which you yourself play the “main role”, acting as the movie character or person you know acted before you. Change everything that you are not happy with in “your” behavior on the “screen”, using your own imagination.
4. And finally, having played enough, “extract” your own new effective image from the film or clip and make a change with it using the wave technique.
If the swing doesn't work, it means you did something wrong. What exactly? Most likely, you violated one of the conditions for effective “swings”, which are given in the book “Change your thinking and take advantage of the results” by K. and S. Andreas.
1. Simultaneity (synchronicity).
For the swing to be effective, it is necessary that the changes occur simultaneously, that is, that the trigger picture is synchronously replaced with a new OSS.
2. Direction.
The swing “works” if it is done in only one direction – from the trigger picture to the desired OSS. Therefore, be sure to use an explicit and distinct intermediate “separating” state (“separator”) between procedures. For example, before each repetition, “clear the screen” if you worked with your eyes open (to do this, look at any objects around you). Or simply open your eyes if they were closed during the swing.
3. Speed.
The faster the flapping procedure is performed, the better. So at first you can slowly go through all the steps of this technique to understand them. But during the procedure, changing images should be carried out as quickly as possible.
4. Repetition.
To consolidate the result of the swing, three to five repetitions are usually enough. If this does not happen, then after ten repetitions you will need to make some changes to the procedure in order for this technique to “work.”
Full description of the technology.
The procedure we have discussed represents one of the first descriptions of the swing technique, which may have been deliberately simplified by R. Bandler. Therefore, below I give a much more complete, “classical” description of it - the classic swing technique (according to: R. Bolstad, M. Hamblett, K. Dyer-Huraya. “Pro fusion. Model of abundance and mental well-being. NLP and energy practices of the East” ).
1. Try to understand the strategy that always leads you to negative consequences. We are talking about situations in which you are behaving in ways you don't want and would like to change your behavior. For example, it could be overeating, smoking, inability to communicate with people, depression or anxiety. The necessary condition is that a similar situation must have occurred repeatedly in the past and you do not exclude that it will happen again in the future.
2. Remember what visual impressions provoke your problem behavior. For a smoker, this could be a pack of cigarettes lying on the table. Someone who easily explodes, taking out anger on others, often reacts to a certain facial expression on the other person. That is, you extract a key image that automatically triggers the image as vividly as in real life. Then take it aside, take a deep breath, and clear your “inner screen.”
3. Now create an imaginary image of yourself, being in a resourceful state, confident in yourself and having many choices. Imagine that your problem (problem behavior) has just been resolved and gone away. There is no need to imagine what you did for this. You just know that the problem is solved. You know this by the expression of your own face, by the position of your body and posture. It's like you've just become a champion and realize that you can do anything. Take some time to make this look big and bold. Feel like he really motivates you.
4. Check how environmentally friendly this new state is. Ask yourself, “Does any part of me object to my new self-image?” If you feel that there are such objections, good. Ask the part of yourself that has objections to adjust the resulting image. Let this image become even more resourceful and satisfy the requirements of all parts of your personality. Admire the created image, look at it from all sides.
5. Now start preparing the change process.
Place a large, bright picture of the triggering key image of the problem situation in a frame in front of you. Darken the resource image of yourself, reduce it in size and place it in a small frame, placing it in the center of the key image (which previously triggered your problem behavior).
When you begin the process of change, the small dark frame with the resource image will very quickly increase in size, become brighter and fill your entire internal screen. The key image, on the contrary, will darken, sharply decrease in size and then disappear.
You can accompany the increase in your resource image with any whistling or hissing sound, which, like special effects in S. Spielberg’s films, will add dramatic change to the process. Some people come up with something different. Imagine that this is exactly what happens! Your subconscious will do the rest. This is what ensures successful change.
As soon as you have made this lightning-fast “swing” - replacing the key image with a bright resource image of yourself - and feel your own strength and self-confidence, clear the internal screen.
6. After cleaning the internal screen, expand the picture with the trigger image again. Place the darkened little resource image of yourself in the center of the key image. Run the whole process again. Then clean the inner screen again. With each new attempt, it will be more and more difficult for you to unfold the key image. Six “swings” are usually enough for the key image to stop appearing.
7. Now try again to imagine the problem situation itself. If you succeed, notice what has changed. What do you think about situations like this now? How have these changes affected your life?
Just a little bit about submodalities.
There is, unfortunately, one sad circumstance that, like a fly in the ointment, spoils the big barrel of honey of “waving” psychotechnology.
The fact is that the techniques we discussed above were supposed to be used to make changes in size
and
brightness.
Both of these characteristics of “image” are included in the list of other characteristics of the visual modality (I hope you have not forgotten that this is just a way of perceiving and encoding information through external and internal images - that is, everything that you see outside and inside yourself? ).
In NLP these are called submodalities.
This refers to “sub-modalities”, i.e. the characteristics of what you see in the visual modality: brightness, “color”, contrast, depth, size, image clarity, etc. With the help of submodalities, the unconscious encodes everything and everyone (in including both good and bad).
For about 70-80% of people, good is usually big and bright, which determines the use of these two submodalities in the psychotechnology of the wave. But if you belong to the remaining 20-30% of people, you really should look for other characteristics of the “image” in terms of what deprives the trigger picture of its power, and, on the contrary, makes the image of itself very attractive. Below is a very lengthy description of this procedure, which I call “the swing technique - a complete version”
(according to: J. O'Connor, J. Seymore, “Introduction to NLP.” With modifications).
First, identify the specific behavior you want to change. You may take a specific situation in which you would like to respond more intelligently (for example, when dealing with a specific person).
1. Treat this limitation as an achievement. How do you know when to trigger problem behavior? What specific triggers cause it? Imagine having to teach someone this limitation. What would he need to do, where to start? There must always be some specific trigger that triggers this reaction. If it is an internal trigger in your thinking, image it as you experience it. If it is an external trigger, draw it exactly as it appears: an associated picture (the wave is easiest to do with visual images, although it can also be done in the auditory and kinesthetic systems).
2. Identify at least two visual characteristics of the trigger picture that change your response to it. For most people, increasing the size and brightness of an image increases its impact. However, there may be other, equally effective characteristics. Test the selected characteristics on another image and make sure they create the desired effect. These should be characteristics that you can smoothly transfer from one state to another. Break this state by thinking about something else for a minute before continuing.
3. Next, think about what kind of person you would like to become (a person who would react differently and would not have these limitations). How would you see yourself if you had already made the change you wanted? You would have more choices, you would gain new abilities, you would become closer to the person you want to be. It should be an image of yourself possessing the desired qualities, not a specific behavior. The picture must be dissociated in order to motivate and attract. The associated picture will give you the feeling that the change has already happened and therefore will not motivate you. Make sure that your new self-image is environmentally friendly and consistent with your personality, your environment, and your relationships with others. You may need to make some adjustments to this look. Think about the resources that this self-image will have. He will need resources when carrying out the intention of the old behavior. Make sure the image is balanced, believable, and not closely tied to any specific situation. Also make sure that this image is attractive enough and that it produces significant shifts towards a more positive state. Now interrupt the state and think about something else.
4. Take the stimulus picture and make it large and bright (if you chose these characteristics as “working”). In the corner of the picture, place a small dark photograph of the new self-image. Now take the big and bright limitation image and very quickly turn it into small and dark, while the new Self-image becomes big and bright. Speed is very important here. Make sure that the erasure of the old image and the growth of the new occur simultaneously. It may be helpful if you imagine or actually say a sound that represents this process: “Whip!” Let this sound reflect the excitement you feel about becoming a new self-image. Clear the screen. Repeat this five times quickly.
The brain works quickly. Have you ever described a process to someone and noticed that they carried it out as you described it? You are absolutely right. He did it. (Think about your front door...but don't go in yet!). Clear the screen briefly after each swing by looking at something else. A “reverse swing” will cross out a forward swing. Make sure you buy a one-way ticket only. If the swing doesn't work after five reps, don't persist. Embrace your creativity. Perhaps other visual characteristics should be selected or the desired self-image is not attractive enough. This should definitely work. Who can maintain problematic behavior in their right brain in the face of such tempting new opportunities?
5. When you have completed the previous steps, experience the result by joining the future. Think about the trigger. Does it cause the same reaction? The next time you find yourself in this situation, watch for a new reaction. NLP techniques, like the brain itself, work quickly and efficiently. We effectively whip ourselves into all kinds of anxiety without even noticing it. Now we can consciously use the same process to move towards something more attractive. These techniques will show you how to quickly make changes without stress or pain.
Expanding swing contexts.
All of the above-described options for using the swing technique are contextual, which is why the Self-Images embedded in the unconscious are “turned on” primarily in the corresponding classes of situations when a corresponding
external
trigger is presented.
Of course, we cannot exclude a situation in which the client of NLP psychocorrection will experience a kind of generalization of the image, and according to the previously described “ripple effect” the same, for example, confident OSS will spread to most, or even all, similar interactions (and not only) . If you keep this feature in mind, you can take advantage of two options for wide-context swing
:
using an internal trigger;
with expanding context.
In the case of using an internal trigger, we go deeper, based on the fact that behind the external visual trigger there is almost always an internal and kinesthetic trigger, which becomes the “last resort” in launching the corresponding OTE (operation, test and exit). As a rule, this internal trigger, previously ignored by classical NLP, is common to a whole range of external triggers, and its use dramatically expands the capabilities of the swing psychotechnology. For example, a long time ago a woman came to me who felt confused every time she encountered the outright rudeness of passers-by, acquaintances, sellers, bosses, etc. So, it was precisely this state of confusion that we applied in the psychotechnology of a wide-context wave using internal (kinesthetic) trigger.
1. Determine and, perhaps, somehow designate the class of situations in which you consistently demonstrate inappropriate states and behavior (for example, when meeting with authoritative people, you feel confused and begin to sweat).
2. Mentally “watch” at least three “films” of yourself in similar situations – both dissociated and associated – and identify a certain feeling (most likely common to all three situations), i.e. a signal that you are now you will feel confused and sweat.
3. In any way (using anchors - see the next chapter - or simply at will) learn to voluntarily evoke the detected kinesthetic trigger.
4. Now select a “problem-free” OSS (“one for which this is not a problem”) and swing according to the scheme:
kinesthetic trigger
–
OSS
–
separation
5. After five to seven repetitions, check the result by voluntarily invoking the sensation of a trigger, but without initiating the Self-Image. If this NDE appears on its own or the previous sensations (confusion and sweating) do not manifest themselves, praise yourself for a good job.
In the second case - a swing with context expansion - we use a wide-context version of this psychotechnology, presented in the work of S. Andreas, K. Gerling, C. Faulkner, T. Hallbohm, R. MacDonald, D. Schmidt and S. Smith “The Mission of NLP” .
1. Perform the classic flapping procedure the required number of times.
2. Swing one more time and imagine that you will now physically hold the new OSS in your hands. Stretch out your hands and touch it, then multiply this OSS by making colored copies of it, so that they all remind you of a large deck of cards.
3. Now leave one image in front of you and release the rest into the air. Watch as more and more new OSSs begin to “fall off” around you. They create concentric circles that expand vast distances in all directions and fill your past, present and future. Imagine rows of NOS around you, giving you confidence and strength.
Out-of-context swing.
It should be noted that in recent years there has been a shift in neuroprogramming towards the use of out-of-context swings.
In the latter - attention! – the trigger is
not a picture, feeling or sound of a problematic situation, but your own
negative (non-resource) OSS!
For example, such an authoritative publication as the “Psychotherapy Encyclopedia” in the article “Visualization Techniques” considers the wave as an example of the integration of a problem image and a resource, when the essence of the wave is that a resource image is placed in the problem image (this is our new and strong ), ultimately displacing the problematic image. This article, by the way, provides an example of the step-by-step use of this psychotechnology in the treatment of uncertainty, which I will give as a description of the “explosive” out-of-context swing
(according to: “Psychotherapeutic Encyclopedia”. Edited by B. D. Karvasarsky).
Step 1 – identifying the problematic image of insecurity (“When you feel insecure, how do you imagine yourself?”)
Step 2 – defining the resource image (“How do you see yourself when you are confident”?)
Step 3 - preparing the resource image, enhancing its power (“Make it even more attractive to you - for example, add brightness and color!) and transferring it into an active form (“Squeeze it into a small powerful light ball, ready to unfold and “explode” "problem").
4th step - integration of the problem and the resource (“Let’s now go into the situation of the problem with this ball, ready to explode, and as soon as you see the image of your uncertainty, then immediately let your bright ball turn around and explode the problem”). The operation is performed several times.
Step 5 – test for effectiveness. (“Now please imagine the problem again.”) A test that is considered effective here is when, when trying to remember a problem, a resource image is spontaneously reproduced.
In the above description, we blew up the negative (non-resource) OSS. However, we don't have to be so bloodthirsty. Moreover, in the technique of holographic out-of-context wave
you will use all modalities of perception (images, sounds and sensations), which truly makes the image “three-dimensional”. With its help, you can easily program your unconscious for a specific and targeted search for resources (don’t worry, this will be done automatically) and transform you from a weak and self-disliking personality into a strong one who is completely satisfied with yourself in any context of your life, any area of your body’s vital activity , consciousness or spirit. And also in any form of your existence.
In this psychotechnology, you do not explode, but exchange two images of your “I” with each other. And the one that you don’t like (sick, unhappy - I’m tired of writing about just straightforwardness), you replace with the one that completely suits you (healthy, happy, relaxed-flexible, etc.). At the same time, by switching brain operating modes using changes in eye positions sequentially to visual, auditory and kinesthetic (this is another NLP secret that you don’t need to know), you achieve not only a visual representation of the OSS, but also a holistic holographic image of yourself .
Since we are talking specifically about a holistic - out-of-context - image, with a sufficient number of repetitions (from three to seven, but even better - with multiple repetitions), the unconscious will eventually rebuild your “I”, using all available resources, and not in individual contexts , but in general for your whole life.
Non-contextual holographic wave technique
is performed as follows.
Look left and up (this is for right-handed people - left-handed people do exactly the opposite) and imagine yourself as you don’t like
. Put this image aside for now.
Now look up to the right and imagine how you should look to like yourself. Then move the new constructed image several times to the area that is located to your upper left, and so on until it becomes easily and clearly remembered.
Move your gaze horizontally to the right and imagine the words that you will speak (and that will speak to you), as well as all the sounds that will accompany you when you become the person you want. Move this auditory image to the area that is on the left, but also horizontally.
Look down to the left and feel what you will feel when you become the person you want. Move these sensations to the area on the lower right.
Having clearly imagined a new image in front of you, make the required number of times the so-called swing by distance and color (according to M. Atkinson and the materials of the IGISP NLP Master Course), for which:
1. Make one you don't like
(key) image close and colorful.
2. Place your little black and white "like"
an image far from oneself.
3. When you swing, the key (disliked) image should quickly go into the distance, decreasing in size and losing color. At the same time, the desired (liked) image of yourself will move closer to you, become larger and take on color.
Repeat the swing five times and check. And of course, do not forget about the need for breaks and clearing the “screen” at the end of each swing.
History of the discovery of NLP
The question of when NLP originated is a matter of much debate. The knowledge described in NLP textbooks is so natural that throughout the history of mankind, it can be said to have made history. They were used by great orators, brilliant commanders, talented leaders and good psychologists. What is now called NLP was once thought of as good intuition, talent, excellent communication or even genius. At the same time, the very understanding of NLP arose much later - in the seventies of the twentieth century.
In those years, a young mathematics student at the University of California, Santa Cruz, Richard Bandler, was just beginning to think about how actions affect the way we think. An experienced practicing psychotherapist often came to visit the Bandler family. His stories about psychology fascinated young Richard, and he decided to try himself in psychology. Without proper education in this area, Richard talked with him with enthusiasm and began to notice an amazing feature. The more he imitated his mentor in behavior, the better he was able to master the knowledge of psychology. This led him to the idea that external behavior is closely related to internal knowledge. In the future, this became his work called “Modeling Mastery.”
Perhaps he alone would not have been able to understand these connections so well if he had not met John Grinder. John Grinder at that time had extensive experience in the field of linguistics, he had the title of professor. At one time he served in Europe and, as part of his duty, studied foreign languages. Like Richard Bandler, he noticed that if in the process of studying you paid attention not only to words, but also to behavior and movements, then it was much better to learn from that person. Finding that their views coincided in many ways, they decided to combine their knowledge to create a new and unique direction.
In those years, there lived a very popular psychiatrist, Fritz Perls. His therapy sessions were very effective and hundreds of people attended his talks with interest. Richard Bandler decided to try to imitate this master in order to understand what exactly in his actions brought success. Richard went to every one of his classes and tried to completely imitate the doctor, his movements, facial expressions, and manner of speech. He even started smoking cigars like Pearls and grew a beard just like him.
Having achieved great similarity in behavior and image, Richard Bandler and John Grinder began to analyze which of the learned experiences turned out to be important and which actions were unnecessary. For example, cigars and a beard had no meaning, but the manner of pronunciation of words, pauses and tempo of speech did the opposite. Gradually, among the chaotic information, moments that gave results emerged. This data subsequently became the starting point for the “Modeling Human Excellence” course.
The course was a great success. Richard Bandler and John Grinder decided not to stop there and continued to analyze outstanding psychologists and psychotherapists of that time. Thus, one of the founders of family psychotherapy, Virginia Satir, and Gregory Bateson, who made revolutionary discoveries in the field of philosophy and systems thinking, became the objects of their research.
Scientists fully used the acquired knowledge in practical psychotherapy. Without stopping at their existing experience, they began to draw parallels between their patients with similar diseases. In the course of this, it turned out that all people suffering from phobias imagined the causes of their fear as if they were next to them with them right now. As it turned out, in order to get rid of an obsessive phobia, each of the patients only had to change their perception. As soon as they imagined themselves not as a participant in the events, but as an observer from the outside of someone else in a similar situation, their fears ceased to bother them.
At a later time, another extraordinary specialist joined them - Milton Erickson. He was widely known in California as the founder of the American Society of Medical Hypnosis. At the time of their acquaintance, Erickson already had a reputation as a universally recognized master of hypnosis, while Richard Bandler and John Grinder were little known and looked more like enthusiasts than experts in their field. Therefore, when they approached him with a request to participate in their research, Erickson hastened to get rid of them as quickly as possible. He was ready to end the conversation with a refusal, but Bandler uttered just one phrase, forcing him to change his mind.
He said, "Some people, Dr. Erickson, know how to find time." At the same time, he emphasized “Dr. Erickson” and “find time” with intonation, thereby giving a command that was immediately executed. Their joint work was very fruitful, as it turned out, Dr. Erickson himself often noticed how certain movements and words hypnotically affect people.
The teachings of the researchers became increasingly popular. They started giving lectures about NLP in colleges. They soon gained many followers. Some of them not only achieved mastery in the use of NLP, but also discovered it from new sides. Among them I would like to mention Judith DeLozier, Robert Dilts and David Gordon, who have written many good books on the topic of NLP. It turned out that NLP, which Richard Bandler and John Grinder talked about, is just the basis; in fact, the scope of use of NLP is limitless.
Nowadays, NLP techniques are widely used in training aimed at increasing sales, building relationships between people and in psychotherapy. People who mastered this ingenious technique were able not only to change themselves, but also to adjust the world to their desires.
